[Chihuahua]

Yeh, hubby and I finally spoke to each other like really talk. That was quite nice for a change, even though the topic wasn't. We had a blow out because of little things and then I would say something and he would ask me "sorry what did u say" this aggrivated me SO much that I went off even more - louder and faster. So our converstaion was about him not being able to understand me (literally the words coming out of my mouth) because I talk really really really fast and in such an expressive manner that he once told me I talk with sound effects!! So he said I should learn to slow down my speech especially when I'm excited or angry! HOW do I go by that, when my whole life I've spoken like this (my aunts and uncles didn't want me visiting because I was talking their ears off) If there's any advice I would really appreciate it. It might save a bit of my sanity and a lot of my marriage.

[SmokeyPoole2012]

Talking too fast and always insisting I get to say whats I want. An effect of the manic episode, I do it all the time (when manic) and it pi**es people off. My son D who also has bp argues with me all the time but neather one of us want to just shut up. Can you imagine that 2 manic bp's fighting over the number of table spoons of coffe you should use to make a pot. I like it strong he likes it mild, so be it.

We (my kids and I) have come up with a "safe" word "doing It" again. With the understanding that even if we don't like it we're going to eather shut up or change the subject.

I guess my point is that it could be possible that you might need to try and realize when your being anoying and understand other peoples frustration. Maybe you can compromise, he tries not to get upset when you have rapped speach and you'll try not to get upset when he saids "what".

[Chihuahua]

Originally Posted by SmokeyPoole2012

Talking too fast and always insisting I get to say whats I want. An effect of the manic episode, I do it all the time (when manic) and it pi**es people off. My son D who also has bp argues with me all the time but neather one of us want to just shut up. Can you imagine that 2 manic bp's fighting over the number of table spoons of coffe you should use to make a pot. I like it strong he likes it mild, so be it.

We (my kids and I) have come up with a "safe" word "doing It" again. With the understanding that even if we don't like it we're going to eather shut up or change the subject.

I guess my point is that it could be possible that you might need to try and realize when your being anoying and understand other peoples frustration. Maybe you can compromise, he tries not to get upset when you have rapped speach and you'll try not to get upset when he saids "what".

Wow 2 in the house!!! Thanx will try that one and keep u updated. Goodluck ( I like mine strong too )- coffee

Originally Posted by Chihuahua

... once told me I talk with sound effects!!..

Lol, I've been told that too. Sound effects, multiple character voices, accents... yeah. Amused, amazed, dumbfounded and PO'd. Yup, a full range of reactions. Oh, and being told to slow down because they "can't listen that fast". Haha.

I like SmokeyPoole's idea of a set phrase recognizable to both parties. Somehow it seems easier to take in than a whole explanation that they're going to take too long to spit out anyway, further annoying you. Because, I don't know about you, but I probably talk fast more often than I realize, so yeah, someone would have to say something. And it would undoubtedly be easier on them to have only a short phrase to try to squeeze into the barrage.

Learning to slow down? Guess it would be a matter of being aware of it, trying to recognize when you're doing it and then making a conscious effort to slow down. And practicing. Probably lots of! One situation that I've worked with is leaving a phone message. Two plusses. One, they actually stand a chance of understanding the callback number when they listen to it. Two, it's short enough duration to stay focused on staying slowed down.

Ummm, enunciating? Clearly enunciating your words would have a slowing effect. (Just don't do like I do, tending to only use this technique in annoyance...)

[grandmaof3]

When I'm manic I talk so fast no one can understand me. My pdoc told me to slow down by concentrating on saying one word at a time. It works for me sometimes, sometimes I can't do it.

[sb7777]

I have pressured, fast speech when manic as well. And the frustration of people not understanding you -- yeah, I'm familiar with that as well. Since I'm newly Dx, glad to see suggestions like code words and focusing on one word at a time when the fast talking begins. Thanks to all.

[Chihuahua]

Yip thanx a lot, wow what a day so 20 parents in 3 hours and they all want to know "how's my child?" So the slowing down was DEFINITELy a failure tonight haha! So another fun thing for tonight - thinking of a code word.