[3little.birds]

So. My parents don't get I have something wrong with me. At all. This is because when I am truly at my worst it is with my boyfriend. And when I'm depressed and unfocused and get nothing done, no one is home because they are all at work.

I tried to explain it to my mom this morning what I go through and feel like. And her answer was "your a psych major, why can't you just fix yourself?" this is now the fifth time she has told me that this last few months. Every single time I try to explain myself to her she says this. She's like well, what you get mad? You can always control how you act when you get mad. She has it all figured out. Doesn't want to hear about what I'm feeling. Doesn't get it. She knows I want to see someone for help, and don't get me wrong she won't prevent me from going.. But she just doesn't get it. She thinks it doesnt effect her and that I'm just being over dramatic. She also said "sure you can be a ***** sometimes, but I don't think it's anything you can't fix on your own.. You need to notice your behaviors and what triggers you then you will be fine".

Thanks mom. Don't you think I would have done that already if I could? If it was so freaking easy, why am I not better?

i feel your pain- im keeping away from my mum at the mo cos of this sort of attitude - im doing much better as a result of keeping my distance too

[jaxter23]

Ok so on a positive note I have to say I love your smilies I'm sorry your mom is being like that. My parents are kinda the same way. They don't support my dx or me being in therapy. Its really hard when your family doesn't support or believe you. I wish they all understood. I wish you the best of luck with your mom! I know its frustrating, but just hang in there If you need someone to vent to about parents feel completely free to PM me. I'm going through similar stuff **Hugs**

[Trippin2.0]

Parents don't like to admit there might be something wrong with their children. My mom was in denial when I was 15, she said I was dramatic and weak, and she continued to live on planet denial after I was dxd at age 25... Saying bipolar was the new 'in' thing and dr's wanted me to make them rich. She shut up quite quickly after I printed her some of my posts and asked her if she still thought I was like everybody else Her newest explanation tho, is that in the old days people like me weren't concidered ill, they were described as ever changing like the weather (it's more descriptive in Afrikaans) anyway, so yeah, I'm compared to Cape Town weather where it's not unusual to have 4 season per day... It used to hurt, her dismissal of my struggle, but now it doesn't matter coz I have PC for support. Fact is, even if she accepted it, she'd never understand, so there'd be no point in spilling my guts. You have us. XOXO

I know how frustrating that could be. My mom's always been in denial. You would have thought that not wanting to leave the house even just to go to the corner store because my anxiety was so bad at the age of 16 would have prompted her to get me some help. Or the suicide note she found back then too. But no. She chalked it up to hormones. Said it was just a passing phase. Now that I have a diagnosis, you would think she would finally accept it but no. According to her, I'm "just under a lot of stress. " I've tried to talk to her only a couple times about it because I quickly realized she will never accept it. My T thinks it's because she would then have to take a look at herself and realize there's something wrong with her too. It doesn't matter much to me because I have a family of my own now and my husband supports me so that's all I need. :-)

[thickntired]

Hi 3 Birds (Bob Marley?)

I'm sorry your Mom is being insensitive. Maybe this will cheer you up. After I was diagnosed bipolar my Mom said, "Well, thank God your not manic depressant."

Uh, yea. Ok Mom

TnT

[hanners]

Originally Posted by thickntired

Hi 3 Birds (Bob Marley?)

I'm sorry your Mom is being insensitive. Maybe this will cheer you up. After I was diagnosed bipolar my Mom said, "Well, thank God your not manic depressant."

Uh, yea. Ok Mom

TnT

That made me LOL

[BipolaRNurse]

Originally Posted by thickntired

Hi 3 Birds (Bob Marley?)

I'm sorry your Mom is being insensitive. Maybe this will cheer you up. After I was diagnosed bipolar my Mom said, "Well, thank God your not manic depressant."

Uh, yea. Ok Mom

TnT

That sounds like something my mother would've said if she'd still been around when I was diagnosed. Her judgmentalism was eclipsed only by her ignorance. I'm SO not sorry I missed out on that experience!

[3little.birds]

Originally Posted by thickntired

Hi 3 Birds (Bob Marley?)

I'm sorry your Mom is being insensitive. Maybe this will cheer you up. After I was diagnosed bipolar my Mom said, "Well, thank God your not manic depressant."

Uh, yea. Ok Mom

TnT

Lol! That is pretty funny.. And yes, bob marley

Thanks everyone for the support.. It really blows my mind how parents don't want to read up on their children's issues , even if they don't believe them to be real.. It's not like they aren't already on the computer every single day.. Does it kill you to run a quick google search? Educate yourself, even if it is only reading for five minutes?!

Probably just better off not talking about it with her again, it's just too frustrating every time I try, as many of you also seem to have experienced. It feels good to know its not just me.

[irishgirliexo]

I understand how you are feeling. When I try to talk to my mom about this she says you can do things so that you don't get depressed. It's so annoying that she can't understand what I'm going through. I can't control how I feel. I agree with having parents going on the internet too and reading up on our illness.

[A Phoenix Heart]

I'm so glad you guys brought this up. My parents just blame it on ADHD. "Hypomania sounds like the same thing as ADHD. I think you've been misdiagnosed." She's proceeded to tell that to all of my family. They think I'm seeing an over-eager therapist now. I even gave her a book and it only made it worse.

Best advice is just shrug it off. It's hard knowing it's our parents doing it, but they just refuse to believe anything is wrong with their little boy/girl. Good news is they won't treat you any different than someone without the condition I suppose.

[Dragonfly33]

I feel your pain. My family has been in total denial since my dx in 2004. If it wasn't for my husband well, I just don't know.

I too, feel like I'm constantly beating my head against the wall. I've ignored my mom's phone calls for almost two weeks. Finally I sent this text yesterday; "I'm not ignoring you (or anyone else), I just haven't been feeling well." She replied with; "Why? What's going on??"