[pendulum328]

I grew up in a home where trust and suspicion was alway an issue. both my parents were liberated from death camps in 1945. i was born in 1949 and raised from birth with these thoughts as part of my upbringing. in 1965 i developed bipolar 1 entering mental hospitals to figure me out. 1970 was the year i was put on lithium this was a difficult journey.
never was able to develope friendships and had issues in trust and suspicions for no apparent reasons. i also mistrusted my first wife of 40 years using triggers and bits of information to create stories in my mind that did not exist. these stories would turn into compulsive whirl winds in my mind over and over.
i want to bring my new wife into this but she believes i was not diagnosed properly years ago.
i fear that my wife of 8 months will not understand my mistrust and distroy my relationship. this situation puts me in a corner that i fear.

[faerie_moon_x]

I think this is similar to your other question. But, I think the first step has been taken. You recognize that you have these mistrust issues and you grew up that way. The next step is to work on them. Because your wife is involved, she needs to be involved in the therapy. You both need to learn communication strategies to handle situations when they arise.

Can you give an example of a mistrust of your wife? Learning to pinpoint triggers is a big part of taking care of your bipolar. Learning coping skills for those triggers is the goal.