Do you guy know when its happening

I lose insight, people create "unwell" conspiracies against me.

I second the suggestion. It sounds like:

1) Your hubby is good and supportive ==> you have got a lot to lose
2) You are not in an open relationship as you talk about risks and challenges ==> your hubby may be ruined if you are unfaithful to him, he has expectations of faithfulness
3) Given than one of the men is his friend, a discovery would be particularly hurtful to him. He'd feel doubly betrayed.

So you are a danger.

Note that bipolar people do best inside caring families (this coming from someone who fights it alone having destroyed a good family although not via sleeping around) - these guys would offer nothing caring to you in place of what you might lose if you lose your hubby. Sure, you will later be explaining to him that hypersexuality is a symptom, but isn't it better not to need to explain?

Ugh, hubby knows now...he said he has forgiven me since nothing physical happened. Even busted I still want it, I don't understand it...Im dressing sexier than usual too. It is like a drug I swear and I know it will end things if I follow thru but, again, the desire is high.

Is there a reason your husband cannot satisfy your desires?

If you're bored, see if he'll have sex in a park or cemetary

Toys, lots and lots of toys.