[kyangel04]

My husband is talking with his ex. And, his stepdaughter wants them back together. I don't believe this. I just wish I were died.

[hamster-bamster]

He won't leave you, he already chose you over her.

[kyangel04]

He's says he's confused. He doesn't know what he wants.

[hamster-bamster]

wow! that is tough

is he mentally ill or not?

[BlueInanna]

((Kyangel)) Hope you can remind him that you love him and you're his wife now, you're a team now. Offer to let him talk out his confusion with you, be there for him. It means a lot to men to have someone to just listen to them. I said a prayer for you. You will be in my prayers and my thoughts.

[~Christina]

Kyangel ((( Hugs )))

As Blue said let him talk about his confusion.. Try and stay calm and post here as much as you need.

You are in my thoughts.

If it really gets serious, I'd consider talking to a psychiatrist about it and get his view; he might want both of you to come in for a visit--that might resolve all of it for you.

I hope it all works smoothly in your favor.

Genetic

[Zoesmom]

I'm so sorry your going thru this I don't know you, I'm new and I only know what was in this thread.

Has this happened before? Someone else had a great idea that posted. I would make an appt with your therapist and then invite him to come too. Ppl tend to be more honest when your in the therapists office. JMO

I will pray for you.

[ChristySpirals]

That must hurt soooo much Tell the bugger to remember why he married you in the first place...its so easy to forget those initial feelings after a while. I went through this last year and I know how it feels, its messed right up and is not healthy for you at all. Lots of hugs sent your way

[kyangel04]

Thanks everyone,
No, Brian doesn't have any metal illness. I could try and get him to go to therapy with me. The two of us has been through so much together. I'm kind of confused too right now.

[Victoria'smom]

I'm sorry that your husband is confused. All I can suggest is talk,talk,talk. Please don't stress about the stepdaughter wanting them back together. That's a sign that she loves him and if he can find a way to have her in his life w/o ex he may be less confused. Best of luck

[hamster-bamster]

Just be careful with a therapist. I have bad experience. Once we went into a family therapy and an otherwise good therapist exhibited non-chalance and insensitivity by comparing a hospital and a hotel. Next day, in the middle of an awful mixed episode, my then husband drove me to a hospital. I walked into the ER, looked around, did not like it, exited, looked at the shining sun, and decided that I would manage by myself. I was clearly under the influence of her denigrating remark about the hospital. Next day, I committed a massive suicide attempt. Clearly, had I checked myself in to inpatient, I would have stayed out of trouble. The next family therapist - a very expensive and experienced one - turned out to be a militant feminist with her own agenda. She put an end to my marriage when it was fragile but still alive.