[plumapplepear]

I have been in a relationship with partner for 7 years he is very controlling discourages friendships and he is also self enclosed does not need people or his family has cut me off from mine even though my relationships with them were very damaged to begin with due to my actions before him I meet him at a low time. My dad who is also bi-polar and lives in a retirement home in Las Vegas wants me to come move there he will help me and I can start again I get disability would have to build whole new support system find new doctors and I am terrified to live alone. I left this spring in a manic phase and had to go to the women's shelter because I could not manage alone. If I did this would this be highly manic behavior and a bad decision I cannot stay in this small town I have no family here.

[Clinte89]

It's all up to you I don't think it's a manic decision because you seem to be thinking through it really well and considering your options. But if you don't feel safe living alone could you live with friends or something? Just a thought.

[LadyShadow]

I personally would stay close to my family. It is not manic that you want to be close to your dad and a new support system. I was terrified when I left everything and my boyfriend at the time to go home and live with my parents. But its the best thing I ever did. But that is just my personal experience. Family will stick by you more than anyone will, in my case anyway. Good luck to you, I wish you all the best

[Trippin2.0]

Not all impulsive decisions are bad ones... It seems like you really want this, AND it seems beneficial to you. So why the hell not? GO FOR IT!

[BlueInanna]

Doesn't sound like manic behavior to me Plum, sounds like a smart plan, I hope you're able to do it!

[plumapplepear]

Thank you for advice i am going into doctor this week and will talk to him about meds etc might take awhile to get into action i am 3,000 miles away and have no idea about how to do it. I will keep you posted

[faerie_moon_x]

I agree it sounds like a plan to get away from abuse, and not manic. Perhaps since you are on disability you can look for a room mate?

Getting away from a controlling relationship and having a chance to start over with family nearby who would like you there? Sounds like a good idea. On the transition doctor-wise... See if your current doc will write out prescriptions for a longer time span than usual (most stuff you can fill a 2 or even 3 month quantity). Which of course would also depend on your meds and history if that is safe to do. Even if that is not an option, at least be sure that all your rx's are current and have refills left on them. It's a load off your mind to not worry about running out of meds while you are getting set up there.

When you get there, check in with the local NAMI. It's a quick way to get a list of local psych resources.

(It was also interesting to read your situation because I am also soon to make a 3,000 mile move (and away from BF, though our relationship is fine... long story) and have never lived alone and am quite apprehensive about that. The rest is the reverse of yours -- away from family (but back to home if that makes sense) and back to support system/psych. Anyhow!)