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Oct 13, 2012, 11:24 AM
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I really effin do! My wife is screaming and yelling and I am not participating, right? But I'm the one who is wrong. I am the one who is off, she says, and she is acting bipolar... not me. It's to the point today that I have a phone consult with pdoc in forty min so she can tell him how effin bad I am. She woke up yelling at me, i never yelled back. now I am the bad one! WTF! She says I am off and that I am being mean. She says I need med change and is yelling in the bedroom. I give up. I don't know what FML means, but if it means f*** my life then FFFFMMMMLLLLL
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Oct 13, 2012, 11:34 AM
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Anybody else then you pdoc talking about you needing med changes is being ***, plain and simple. That's low argument.
hope things get better soon.
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Oct 13, 2012, 12:30 PM
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Dan I hope your wife calms down soon and things can settle down for you. Try to continue to not yell back- I know that its not easy (understatement). Can you go for a walk or a drive and let her spend some time yelling at herself? Nothing more disturbing than a mad spouse aiming it at you!
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Oct 13, 2012, 01:24 PM
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she's been calm for about twenty minutes now. I never did yell back. but we are not speaking
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Oct 13, 2012, 01:33 PM
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I hope this will get better soon. Maybe it is not the time to talk right now because there are a lot of emotions, but maybe you could talk later.
I wish you the best!  
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Oct 13, 2012, 04:13 PM
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I'm so proud of you!!! It is so hard for me not "snap" and go off when someone is yelling at me. It shows what a strong person you are that you were able to go thru it all without screaming back.
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Oct 13, 2012, 04:55 PM
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Wow, Dan, I am so proud of you for keeping a level head! I hope you can work through this with her. Did she ever give you a reason for the yelling? I'm the bp one in our family, and my husband takes a lot of verbal abuse when I "lose it", but my reasons are usually unfounded. Did something trigger her?
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#8
Oct 13, 2012, 05:03 PM
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This has nothing to do with you or your MI. Your wife woke up in a bad mood. Hopefully later you can talk to her about what is really bothering her.
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#9
Oct 13, 2012, 05:35 PM
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Dan I am sorry, I just saw this and your other post about the smoking, ans leaving with the kids. Confusing to say the least, how would your head and heart not be spinning in circles.
I wonder the whole smoking thing.. Is maybe just a catalist for something else that may be bugging her? Cause that seems like a very drastic response. I hope she will start communicating with you soon. I really hope you two can work this out. Yes good for you for keeping calm, that is very very hard to do. Hang in there, we are here for you ok.
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Oct 13, 2012, 06:17 PM
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wow, not fun. hope things get better. proud of you for how you are handling the situation. keep us posted. may angels surround you.
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Oct 13, 2012, 06:44 PM
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Wow, sounds like my marriage. Kudos for hanging in there and not going off on her. It can be very hard. It's not uncommon for spouses and other family and friends to use our diagnosis against us. There's even a name for it: the "described patient". It means that if something is off, it must be you because you're the sick one. Good luck! I hope you work things out soon.
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Oct 13, 2012, 06:47 PM
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Quote:
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Oct 14, 2012, 07:33 AM
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She did talk to me about what was going on.. only after hours of insanity. She said she has been trying to talk to me for two weeks now and I haven't been listening. She said that this was the only way to get me to listen, just like before. So I promised to call Pdoc if she would act like an adult and stop the yelling, otherwise I would not call or listen to her. lol.. it worked. but that meant that I had to call Pdoc and when I did I got my Abilify raised back up to 10 mg. ugh... He wants me to get more sleep and attributed everything that Karen was complaining about to lack of sleep triggering hypo.
Whatever really... I still say that she gets pissy and projects her own bad feelings on my MI... Makes me angry when she does that, especially if I get a consequence like a med change cuz of that. |
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