[cadia]

My mom was committed to a state hospital 1.5 hours from me today. She is sick.. so sick but she doesn't think anything is wrong. This is the 3rd hospitalization. All 3 were involuntary commitments from a court order. I found out today her official diagnosis is schizoaffective disorder with extreme paranoia and bipolar tendencies..,
She is increasingly going down hill at the age of 56 and its to the point where i am considering guardianship to make choices for her. She is eligible for disability because of the diagnosis and she is hearing impaired. She just wouldnt let me apply for her.. She wants to work but is unable to find a job because of her illness. She makes crazy associations and says off the wall things that make me fear for her.. She has no friends. no money. no car. .. she has no home .. i had the police take her to the hospital last time and she just cant come back home with me.. it sounds so awful but my mom is going to be Homeless in a matter of weeks.. whenever they release her.. the state she is in has THE WORST mental health care.
she goes on spending sprees at the $1 store/writes license plate #'s down, is always talking about the fbi.. talking to nobody on the phone in the earliest of hours..

its so freaking hard because she doesnt see that shes sick.. she has lost all contact with relatives.. she hates me and im her youngest daughter.. nobody else wants anything more to do with her.. they all have given up hope..

She refuses to take medication and even told me on the phone yesterday that she had to go "pretend to take a pill." but when i had her hospitalized last yr in Ohio.. they forcibly gave her medicine by court order and for a few weeks . she seemed a little better..

How can i help her see that shes sick:? seriously i need help// thanks whodey

Cadia, I'm very sorry that you're living this experience. You know that in your mother's condition it is not possible for you to be able to assist her except by doing what you can at a distance: that is, to see an attorney and seek guardianship for your mother's well-being.

If other siblings will not assist, let the attorney seek a court order appointing you guardian and then proceed from that point to help once you are managing the estate for her benefit.

One of the most painful things we have to live through is knowing that someone who is very close to us is seriously ill and that there's nothing we can do to change that.
It is a test of faith to endure that difficulty, and I know you probably have found strength in that.

The best thing you can do for your mother is to seek legal assistance and then to
inform your mother that she will be taken care of and she must stay on medications to be able to live outside an institution. Your family members may come back around and show some willingness to assist once they see how she progresses.

My heart hurts for you in your situation, and I know how sad it is to see this happening knowing that you must seek legal assistance to help with your mother's future. The help is there for you, but you must take the strong step of seeking it.

You're a very fine person; that's obvious from your thread, and I feel sure that it will all work well once you have legal authority backing your efforts.

Take care and keep in touch.