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Old Nov 18, 2012, 04:07 PM
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I just got an email from my Soon to be Ex-Wife.... She has given up the children to me full time!

I think its best for the boys to sleep at your house every night. Starting tomorrow night.
I feel that continuity with you at your home is best.
I would like to see them after school a few nights a week (to be determined) and will bring them home by 7 for showers and bed.
Due to my ever changing schedule the days I take them need to be flexible but I will give you notice as to when I will pick them up.
I'm kinda freaking out! I expected this to happen, but now that it is happening, I 'm in a total state of shock!
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Old Nov 18, 2012, 06:21 PM
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really hope it all goes well for you... you'll be fine i promise.

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Old Nov 18, 2012, 06:28 PM
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I'm so happy for you Im sure you are relieved!
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Old Nov 18, 2012, 06:39 PM
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I don't know what to be... This woman was my everything until the day she walked out. I would have died or killed for her, and done it gladly.

Over the last year, she has been getting more distant with our children. As of today, she just gave them to me, lock, stock and barrel.

I'm just confused, saddened, angered and bewildered by her behavior.

Intellectually I saw this coming. Emotionally I never thought she would actually do it.
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Old Nov 18, 2012, 06:42 PM
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This is wonderful news! An adjustment, but for the best.

But...get it in writing asap! Print out that email, never know if you'll need it.
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Old Nov 18, 2012, 06:46 PM
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I already fwd'd it to my lawyer.....

Her old lawyer quit almost two months ago. We have our final court hearing this up coming Wednesday. Last Thursday, she hired another one who promptly filed for a continuance....

I have been paying her $150/wk in child support even though I have had the kids the majority of the time....

She is going to end up having to pay me a lot..... It's going to be ugly in court. I have every intention of being doped to the gills on Xanax.
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Old Nov 18, 2012, 08:14 PM
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Have you been documenting amt of time you have the boys?
The only good thing about an ugly divorce is you loose whatever feelings you had left for your ex at the courthouse steps...

Oh, and on the Xanax, just enough to be relaxed but still sharp enough to make quick decisions or answer questions.

If you're confident in your lawyer, let him handle stuff you have no control over. He knows you're end goals. The ugly part can only last so long... Sounds like after all is said & done you will be ok. Let's hope for best outcome.
Take good care & keep posting.
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Old Nov 18, 2012, 08:21 PM
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I wish I could leave my feelings on the courthouse steps.

My lawyer is literally the best in the business. He's a judge pro-tem. Her new lawyer is way out classed.

I'm just trying to stay "with it" at this point.
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Old Nov 18, 2012, 09:04 PM
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Oh, and I have a calendar of time with the boys. It's a spreadsheet. I've had them in average 76% of the time. This month... 90%+
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Come in!
Come in!”

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Old Nov 18, 2012, 10:40 PM
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Very impressed with lawyer & spreadsheet. You're well taken care of!
Glad you're on here, just wish circumstances were different/better.
You will be ok, you'll heal & be stronger having gone thru this.
Just keep saying, I can do this, I can do this, over & over.
Keep posting, helps get it out & have people respond.
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