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I went on a third date with someone named Randy, from Oklahoma, who eventuallyy came to the Bay Area by way of Colorado. He is a geek who works for a company right next to my employer.
We went to my favorite Afgani place at my suggestion. I told him about my trip plus taught him a couple of words in Russian, which he has been studying with a native speaker teacher. We had awesome juicy lamb, my favorite meat. Awesome pumpkin. Awesome eggplant. Awesome salad with their signature yogurt dressing. I had red wine. On our first date we went to another favorite mediterranean restaurant of mine but I did not enjoy because I was on Topamax. This time I really liked the food, its taste, texture, and smell. So I started telling him how much I enjoyed and how first time I was on this migraine medication Topamax which caused aversion to food and dizziness and many other bad things (meaning, but not saying it out loud, lack of orgasms) and how I am now off it and how I would rather persevere through more migraines but enjoy my life in~between them. I was startled when in response he shared with me that he understands how medications can do both good. Things and bad things because he takes medications for depression and needed to try several ones before finding something that works. And also that sometimes they work for a while and then stop. OK. I asked what he is on. He said Lexapro. I said that I take a tiny bit of Prozac but with me it was the first medication tried and instantly successful. OK. He keeps driving and says that his thyroid is causing his depression so he takes a thyroid mediication. I inquire which one. He says Levoxyl. Then I say that I take Levoxyl too, because I am bipolar and take Lithium, the oldest and most traditional medication for bp, which does one bad thind, killing my thyroid, so I take. Levoxyl as an antidote. He does not act surprised and explains that his situation is the opposite of mine, with the thyroid dysfunction preceding the illness. I nod with understanding. Cool. It reminded me of my inviting Peter, my black cat Tommys former owner, not as a date but to have him play with Tommy... at the end of the dinner poor Peter was done reciting the names of multiple antidepressants he tried. Again I said that I lucked out on Prozac which helped right away and.a.small dose does the job. But I am bp, not depressive, I said. He said that his mother is bp. Where are mentally well people, may I ask? |
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Randy is totally nice and very excited and enthusiastic about me. We held hands. For a bit and kissed for a bit, all sweet and nice. I told him that I am happy that he found me. Heagreed. I plan to take it to the bedroom in several weeks. Not immediately for several reasons. First, I want to keep him guessing and build up suspence, tension, anticipation etc. For him. Second, I need to clean the apartment, with Carmens help. Third, it is the first time I am cool, rational, and even calculating a bi with respect to a romantic relationship, almost project~managing it, first ascertaining that he is a good fit for me and then only getting closer. And objectively, he is a great fit, he even has experience living with a woman who before him lived with an abusive man, and helping her recover.
In the meantime, G. has just landed and wants to see me tomorrow jet lag notwithstanding, which is OK, although I initially planned to invite her after Carmen comes but sure, he has already been to my messy place.plus I miss him and look forward to seeing him. And,as an icing on the cake, Randy is polyamorous, so he won't demand, request, or expect any sacrifices on my part, and everything will be drama free. |
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That's awesome. I had a similar experience.
When riding in the truck with my first boss out of college, I was talking about how I need to find insurance for all the meds I have to take. He asked why I take them. When I responded bipolar disorder, a great big smirk crept across his face and he exclaimed, "Hey I got that too!" and we proceeded to have a full convo of how and when we were both dx'd and what he has done to help control his over the years. Congrats hamster! ![]()
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Oh, and before the holidays I had a date with a guy who spent ten thousand dollars on a nine month course of therapy after his wiife cheated on him twice. The marriage lasted a year and a half only, just twice the duration of the therapy. The guy is thirty four, but much as I would have wished to reward his laudable pursuit of an older woman, I did not like him on too many levels.
I provoked Randys talking about Lexapro. The guy before the holidays started talking about his T completely unprovoked. By the way, how can you spend ten K on T in nine months? Question ~ do other people go on dates with clients of pdocs and Ts or is it my unique luck? |
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So there are Christian Palestinians who do not allow premarital sex but later engage in extra marital affairs. Live and learn.
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10,000 in 9 months is doable .. Stupid, but doable. maybe he needed 5 visits a week?
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Sounds good h-b. I would think h'e be more understanding if you are in an up or down mood than someone without a MI.
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Now you understand why I was not interested??? Cute guy, but, I mean, that was completely insane. And there were other red flags, too. And in general I think that complaining about cheating ex wife on the first date is tmi. I diid absolutely nothing to provoke that kind of disclosure. When he started talking about it, I started feeling that it. Was a support group rather than a date!
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So there you have it---yet another example of taking a chance on sharing your bipolar story with someone who doesn't know you well, and coming out knowing their story. Kinda cool when you think about it......reminds us that we really aren't all alone out there.
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Hamster, you have a huge lake to fish out of... It's just fine to toss the minnows back
![]() First dates should have nothing to do about past marriages or other relationships that had ended poorly. Isn't that dating 101? Once ~ I went out on a date after my first marriage ended, I was divorced about 9 months. In the time it took the waiter to bring out rolls and ours drinks he had told me all about his 2 marriages, 4 or 5 kids he had, his depression and being in and out of drug rehab.. So here comes the drinks I slammed down my wine and his glass.Handed the waiter enough money to cover the wine and rolls and a nice tip and went home! Had a good laugh about it. ![]()
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We aren't alone indeed.
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Had another date with Randy, the guy from Oklhoma who is on Lexapro. Do not have time to post a long story so I will just say that the twenty three year old son of Randys ex gf and current dear friend with whom (the son) Randy lived for five years and later remained involved in his life...was diagnosed with early onset bp in junior high and is now on. Several medications.
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Ahhh midwest boys...
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I hope it works out for you Hamster. It sounds like a nice guy.
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He sure is. I think I have a problem though of being attracted to guys who are not nice to me. I will need to do something about it.
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Yea Randy sounds cool, give him a good chance.
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Fine, we'll give him a chance. My kid is being a big douchebag tho and I need to take my agression out on someone so Randy better behave!
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