Seething, alone and hurt. RANT

Thanks for the hugs, they are much needed and please dont apologize, I know you well enough to know your silence isn't ill-intended. I hope you're doing well

Sorry just got back on and caught this thread. Agree with the others , horrible that she is taking advantage of your kindness. Sending lots of hugs for you to get through the remaining days with.

I have friends staying next week and I'm a bit worried about it. She will be fine but I've never met her hubby. I've heard he's a bit strange. Our house is small so it will be a struggle to keep out of each others way.

damn, that sounds hella sucky... could you be annoyingly assertive to get 'em out ASAP?

'Annoyingly assertive' I should practice that one Spent the evening with an old friend, just hung out and had a cidar, and when I got back I watched tv with mum. She's in Gary's room tonight, he gave her the say so (apparantly) as he's away...2 more days! Decided I'm done with siblings, had a fall out with my sister, and my other sister's husband insulted me on FB... I have enough drama, dont see why they get to add their crap too, so I'm cutting them out of my life. Might keep Gary around tho, I'll see.

I don't know why families have to be this way. I want to make a better family for my kids. Not an annoying judging family. Being judgemental receives time out and getting grounded in our house.

Trippin, "for a few days" sounds extremely vague and bendable and I am afraid that it can grow into forever if you do not insist on boundaries (I would not be able to insist on boundaries in this situation either, so it is that I know what to do, I am just saying that it an invitation for more trouble).

Hi Trippin'
I have no constructive advice because I really don't know how the family stuff should work, having grown up in a dysfunctional situation. I have been keeping up with the thread, though, and waiting for it to get better for you. Only a few more days until the New Year! Take care, Trippin'-keep seeking out get-away places to carry you through.
Bluemountains

Had a lovely escape from home today. Its Jordan's NINTH birthday, yes my princess is 9! Took her to the arcade where we indulged in some mother-daughter gaming,and had some lunch, then bought her some new shoes She's highly impressed with the art supplies I got her as a prezzie and looks like she had good fun. An hr long bus ride each way and our day is pretty full. Its 17:36, we are on our way home, gosh I'm exhausted! Oh, decided to cut ties with all older siblings, no space for toxicity in my life!

Awww your time with Jordan is so what you needed !

I'm sorry you have been invaded by people that are just flipping stupid! Just take your room back for good, YOU need YOUR space.. Go all NingaB1tch if you need too

Lmao! You're right, it was exactly what I needed

9 already
I must have blinked longer than I thought I had. Jordan seems to be the one family member who is most precious.
Counting the days for you to get your own space back, and get that phenomenal stress out the way.

Thanks Pete, she is definitly the most precious I've missed you my friend. Ps. Put a timer on your blinking from now on!

I'm so glad you had a good brithday with her! Her birthday is only one day after my baby's birthday. But he only just turned one.

Awwww, baby had a birthday too! That's awesome!

My mum says the biatch is staying a 'few more days' bcoz she's getting her own place soon! Yeah right! Then why hasn't she told me when I'm being subjected to her small talk night after night! I will probably move to a woman's shelter soon.

why should you have to move not her... Sounds unfair to me, but then the whole situation seems really crappy. Thinking of you and wishing you patience and endurance to ride out her crap - it sounds really hard to take.

I don't think going to the shelter is going to help right now. You'll have even less privacy and space. I feel your pain. Hang in there.

Now, you need to confront your mom. Ask her for specifics (ask your mom first to see what she was told.) Ask about the place this woman is moving to, how many days specifically, and say that after that she has to go. Then, ask the lady (without saying you talked to your mom,) if she has any leads on a place. See if she gives you the same answers. Then you'll know if she lied to your mom.

I dont have to, but I dont want to put up with this shat any longer, and who am I? I dont own this house, I just pay the bills, I have no say, I cant tell her to leave... I heard her say she SHOULD be out by Sunday, I'd like to see that materializing. I want to run away, its all just too much, X-SIL, Fibro, idiotic gp that says the AD's will help and insists I take them (2kinds) work, and did I mention fibro? My back hurts like a MOFO,escape would be so welcome at this point.

Awwww Trippin... What a flipping mess! I agree with DarkHeart.. get answers ! I am so sorry that this nonsense is going on, you do not need any of this. Fibro pain does get much much worse with stress.

Sending you tons of hugs

So I'm screwed? Idk how not to stress. Sometimes I am convinced I figured out how not to, but when I take a closer look, I never had a clue and the stress just manifested in a different way... Ugh, #singing #''I want to get away, I wanna fly away, yeah, yeah, yeah...'' a break from my life would be most welcome, if only.

Your not screwed ! Your just under ridiculous stress due to the SIL intruding. Get a day/date that she will be gone, I think it will help if you know when she's leaving, Seems if you know when X will happen it makes it easier to cope with the days between or at least that helps me.

When I reach my "boil over rage fest" That's usually when the scream into a pillow starts.. So... somehow some way find a release for the build up... scream, rant, blast music and do an angry dance, any other thing that doesn't cause you pain.

Keep posting here !

Hugs

I cant do much of anything, too scared to move bcoz I'm nauseated from the pain & may just up-chuck.Will keep posting I guess,thanks.I dont want to engage her into a convo,she doesn't know when to STFU,I always end up displaying severe disinterest until she leaves.She's packing, Jo said she's leaving for a few days,& will return Sunday to either collect her stuff or stay a while longer...So I guess I have a few days to 'relax',& then Sunday is D-day.I'm stressed more often than notthats why I'm screwed

Well, maybe she will find a place by Sunday? If she's leaving why would she come back except to get stuff? I know that whole anxiety stress thing is so hard to deal with.

Stress is hard to deal with. I'm not any good at it, either.

Yeah, I hope its to collect her stuff. I gave in and took the AD's... They're meant to help me relax, and I need to. I hope I'm not making a mistake by listening to this dr, he knows about the bp, but said the dosage is low, and the combo (citalopram + ethipramine) should kill anxiety and induce relaxation. Said I should try it for 7 days and see if it affects my mood negatively.Do you think I'm stupid for even considering listening to him? Its not like I go fullblown manic anyway,maybe a hypo would help?

Yeah, I hope its to collect her stuff. I gave in and took the AD's... They're meant to help me relax, and I need to. I hope I'm not making a mistake by listening to this dr, he knows about the bp, but said the dosage is low, and the combo (citalopram + ethipramine) should kill anxiety and induce relaxation. Said I should try it for 7 days and see if it affects my mood negatively.Do you think I'm stupid for even considering listening to him? Its not like I go fullblown manic anyway,maybe a hypo would help?