[Hydrophobic1212]

Okay, so, this isn't really a big deal, so I don't know why I'm crying, but it made me really upset.

So, awhile ago, my dad and I butt heads because I have a fridge all the way in the basement where I keep my soda, and I was keeping a big water bottle in the fridge upstairs. Well, he threw away my water bottle without asking because he was sick of it being in there. My mom was kind of upset about that too, because I needed it for work and he just threw it away without asking.

Well, he told me he was tired of me putting my things in the fridge since I had one in the basement and I said "the basement one is for my unopened sodas, because it's easier for me to come to the kitchen and get it from there, instead of going all the way to the basement and getting from there. So, we agreed I could keep one container of something in the fridge.

Well, I come down this morning, hoping to drink my soda which was in a can that I opened last night. I put it somewhere that it wouldn't spill. I start looking all over the fridge and I can't find it, so I ask my mom where it is and she said she doesn't know then my dad goes "Oh, you mean the one I threw away?" And I asked him why he did it, and he said "Because I told you no open cans in the fridge." NO. He never said that. Not at all. He was in a pissy mood and he said I couldn't keep anything like that in there now and he also claimed I had an open water bottle in the fridge too and he threw that away as well. It wasn't mine, so I don't know whose it was. Well, I got mad at him, because he just wasted one of my sodas, that I only get one box of every two weeks. It was completely full. I had only taken a sip from it last night.

Well, of course I got angry, so I told him "you just wasted your own money" and I said he told me I could keep something in the fridge then he got mad and started saying I had to keep things in the basement again, even though we agreed I could keep one thing upstairs.

What really, really, REALLY pisses me off about this, is that he lets my sisters keep open cups of soda in the fridge and never does he complain to them about it. So why can they keep something like that, that will spill just as easily, and I get yelled at? I feel like he's picking on me in specifically, so I'm still crying, because it really hurt my feelings that he's singling me out again. I don't know why, either. Today's starting off to be a really bad day...

And, on top of it all, I have kept open soda cans in the fridge for months now and never did he say anything about it. He would never touch them, until today. So obviously, he's in a bad mood and he's taking it out on me. So I don't see why I have to suffer, just because he's pissed about something else?

EDIT: That's it. I'm ready to move out. How do I make this happen? I'm turning 19 years old this year, and I was originally staying home to go to school. I don't care if I have to drop out of school or what. But I cannot take this anymore. All he ever does is make me feel like crap and I cannot handle it anymore. My mental health to me is more important than schooling and my cell phone. I love it so much, and I have to keep it for two years, but after that, I'll get rid of it if I have to. But I need to figure out how to get out of here now, or I'm not going to be able to handle it any longer.

I don't think I get paid enough to support myself, but I have to find a way to do something. My school doesn't offer living accomodations or I would stay there. I am not 100% mature enough to live on my own, but I do not care. I'll figure it out myself. Anything will be better than this.

[usbusi]

I would tend to recommend staying in school, staying home, and getting school overwith. And spending more time in the school library if they have one, or a public library, studying. That way you aren't home much?

[roads]

Do you know the counselor at your school? You can learn coping skills to deal with your dad--you're half way there already, because you realize that you're not his problem--he is just throwing that anger in your direction. That's very mature awareness. usbusi is right: Don't mess up your future, throwing away schooling & settling for crappy jobs just to get away from your dad.

Work with your counselor and find a diplomatic way to approach your dad. Maybe say that you're sorry if you're adding to his stress, and could the two of you sit down & quietly clarify the "open can" issue in a week or so.

Please, though, Hydrophobic, put this in context of the rest of your life. Take a deep breath. There'll be lots of open cans and in a few years you can put them all wherever you want to ... If you have a good job and live in your own place. Handle this with common sense, not your own (albeit understandable) anger at your dad's unreasonable anger at you.

[~Christina]

I agree .. don't quit college. Stellar advice from Usbusi and Roadie.

[Hydrophobic1212]

I wouldn't be quitting. I'd just be taking a break. I can barely afford it now, anyways. So I was going to have to stop for the time being anyways. I don't know, though. I'm not in a good place at all right now. I feel like everyone hates me. And I feel like the powers that be hate me too, because nothing in my life goes right for me. I have no idea what I've done to deserve any of this. I make a point to be nice to others and to be helpful. Yeah, there are times when I'm mean ,but not everyone is perfect. I feel like I'm a good person, but yet, nothing good happens to me.

[Victoria'smom]

If you do choose to stop attending please pick 4 classes you can "test out of". So your kinda still attending.

[~Christina]

So many people had to "take a break" from college... and so many never make it back. You dad has issues! they are his issues ! But since you live there you have to deal with it. You need to change how you react.. So the problem started over a open soda can Him being this ridiculous about it proves he is overreacting. For now just stay out of his way, no point poking and angry bear I say.

You just recently got a job that pays you more than the last one. Of course its something you don't want to do the rest of your life, but its new and may lead to working in another department if you decide to.

Hows that tattoo? I bet it looks amazing. Mine is still peeling a bit, but it looks fanastic. Can you post a pic of yours here? I have yet to figure oout how to post mine (duh)

It can feel like the world is out to get you .. Oh it sure can feel like ! Think about the positives in your life right now.. Yeah its hard to see them when your feeling so down, but they are there. Keep being you and tossing oout positives into the world it all comes back 10 fold.

Don't make any decisions about anything right now, give yourself time to process everything and post here and post here and post here.

[Hydrophobic1212]

Thanks. I was talking with him a little bit, but I'm not talking to him more than I have to. My sisters put open sodas in the fridge yesterday, so I put my can back in there. I really don't care anymore. If he's not going to yell at them, I'm not going to listen to him. Call it immature, but I don't think I should have to if he's not doing the same for my sisters.

And morethinsgwrong, I wasn't going to post a picture of it. For one, I'm not sure how, and I don't really want to, since it's unique and I don't like sharing any personal pictures of me. Dx I hope that's okay.

As for how it's doing, it's already peeling! I'm concerned! I just got it Wednesday and all that I've read say that it's supposed to start doing that the last week of healing... I really don't know. So I'm keeping it moist and washing it like I'm supposed to.

I am, however, getting my next and last one this summer. It's going to be on my foot! Cherry blossoms like this: http://www.tattooboy.org/wp-content/...m-tattoo-3.jpg

Without the symbol and smaller too. It'll spread across my the left side of my left foot on the top. I think it'll be pretty... Just nervous about the pain level.

Thanks everyone for your support! I'm feeling tons better now, thankfully. Just a little pissed off because I worked with a bi*** tonight and when I came home, the stupid dog that I absolutely cannot stand had knocked over the garbage can and ate some of the contents of it, chewed through the garbage bag and sprawled out all the contents on the floor. That was a JOY to clean up. Now I'm just relaxing...

[cocoabeans]

Lots of people take a break and return to graduate. Not that an education will do you a lot of good in the work place, well depends on what you're in college for. I know lots of university graduates working the same jobs they could have right out of high school. Just think that tuition could have been a down payment on a house!

[~Christina]

LOL I cant figure out the way of posting my tattoo pic either !
Ohhhhh I love the cherry tree very beautiful ! I have a few ideas I am mulling over if I decide to get another one.. If I do I will have to wait until I can make a trip down to florida... My daughter only wants to do her tattoos if I comedown there and have mine done. Plus the artist we have down there is amazing.

Good for you that you wont worry about your dad getting all upset ! Very mature of you!

Sorry about your dumpster diving dog .. I had one do that before !

Oh bad dog bad dog .

[Hydrophobic1212]

Originally Posted by morethingswrong

LOL I cant figure out the way of posting my tattoo pic either !
Ohhhhh I love the cherry tree very beautiful ! I have a few ideas I am mulling over if I decide to get another one.. If I do I will have to wait until I can make a trip down to florida... My daughter only wants to do her tattoos if I comedown there and have mine done. Plus the artist we have down there is amazing.

Good for you that you wont worry about your dad getting all upset ! Very mature of you!

Sorry about your dumpster diving dog .. I had one do that before !

Oh bad dog bad dog .

Thanks! I'm really excited for it, but super nervous! It's going to hurt. xD Worse than my first one!

And ah, I see! We go out of the city we live in, to get to ours. However, I'm not sure if I want to go to him again... He's really good, but on mine, I see some spots that are missing ink... It's very, very minute, and I'm probably just being really picky, but he does a great job, so I'm probably just over scrutinizing it. xD

And yeah... I really don't like dogs, and he made me hate him more. But, my parents were at least really happy and nice to me, because I cleaned it up for them... SO that was a plus.

[Hydrophobic1212]

Originally Posted by cocoabeans

Lots of people take a break and return to graduate. Not that an education will do you a lot of good in the work place, well depends on what you're in college for. I know lots of university graduates working the same jobs they could have right out of high school. Just think that tuition could have been a down payment on a house!

Yeah. I'm going into psychology, so I need a degree... But I'm worried I won't get into the field. It's really hard...

[~Christina]

You can handle the work ! Yes you can!
Was very nice of you to clean up that mess

Loads of tattoos need some touch up work .. the place you went should have a 90 days window or something like that to touch up the work if needed at no charge . My tattoo is just whimsical and no definate lines so its to me its perfect.

[Hydrophobic1212]

Yes. :3
And I had to... Otherwise the other dogs would have eaten it. Dx

And I suppose so. They do offer that, though. So I'll get it fixed if I still see problems with it.