[spoiltmom]

I've been married for 15 years now. I go through these phases where I'm sad, depressed and want absolutely nothing to do with my husband. While I'm in these phases I even think of leaving him.

Is that my BP talking or what? I will say, he doesn't make things easy on me, so it is easy for me to get discouraged with him.

I'm thinking this is a BP trait. 6 yr relationship here, and I do it all the time.....back n forth on what I really want.

[spoiltmom]

Since I definitely do not want to tell my husband about this, I assume this is the type of a thing a therapist can talk me through? I hate feeling like this.

[Victoria'smom]

I've been with my husband 12 years, both of us bp. We have a 6 month rule for any big decision we have to sit on for that long. If our feelings change at all during that time we have to start the 6 months again. We also have this complicated rules for who dicides worthiness of the significant other. I tend to want to leave when irritated or feeling smothered. So I'm right there with you right now. So I'll be talking to my therapist about it Monday.

[BipolaRNurse]

Married 32 years to the same man. I don't know exactly how or why, but he's seen me through EVERYTHING and still puts up with me. I am indeed blessed.

[~Christina]

Married.

[Yoda]

last relationship ended in tragedy in 2000

no desire for another romantic relationship

[nannywoofwoof]

Married 10 years and I prepare to leave at least once a year, or persuade myself that he woulbe be much better off without me ( and be a lot happier) everyfew months approx. Then, all of a sudden I realise he is wonderful, I love him, and yes I have been down again and it's all in my mind.
My first marriage lasted 14 years and was a lot more difficult, but amazing. However, we were so very bad together. It broke me in the end and I left during a particularly manic peroid and ran off with my present husband. Enough said, I think, but to answer your question, it is most probably your BP talking, but you could try counselling if your husband is not being supportive or you feel you need help with your relationship.
Good luck and don't give up.

We'll celebrate 26 years of marriage in March. We've certainly had our challenges, but we try to be supportive of each other and ride through our difficulties.

[Speed3]

I will be married for 30 years to the same man on September, 16,2013. Through all the wild ups and downs he has stuck it out.

There are times where he is like a drill sergeant, when I want something a little softer. But I know he truly loves me and only wants the best for me.

He is my soulmate

[cocoabeans]

Married. Been together 8 or 9 years can't remember! He has bipolar too. We're happy together even when we're not.

[purpledaisy]

Three divorces before age 30.

Haven't been on a date (or had sex, thank you very much) since 1997.

That was the only way I could stop racking up divorces. Just stop dating.

I do know that I drove my husbands away because of bipolar. Only one of them knew about it, and that was because our brief marriage was going on when I found out what was wrong with me.

I can't imagine being with someone, but I also can't imagine spending the rest of my life alone.

[Debi54]

Have had 3 marriages end in disaster. My current relationship has lasted over 12 years, on again off again, we have tried living together but I feel smothered, like living alone with my son. He knows the good, the bad, and the ugly, and loves me anyway. Same with me for him. Our relationship has lasted longer than any of my marriages. I have no desire to live with him again, or get married, like things the way they are, but I love him very much and can't imagine not having him. But never want to get married again, I do feel smothered and like my freedom has been taken away.

[bjames]

Happily married most of the time. Unfortunately everytime I am unhappy can be tied directly to my bipolar. I'm grateful to have such a patient and understanding husband though. He never takes any of it out on me. He bears it with stoicism. I admire him...I know it has to be hard.

not over here.

it's not something i'm ready for... i've a lot that needs sorting out first- both mentally, and in a physical sense

[Confusedinomicon]

5 1/2 years of dating. I am very happy with him.

We have similar interests so there is never a dull moment. (A figure of speech, but we do have a lot of activities we do together.)

[spoiltmom]

I love all these different responses It makes me feel like I'm okay after all.

[creativelight]

ImageUploadedByTapatalk1359310375.019367.jpg I'm married, it will be a year in June. We were together for 4 yrs before marriage.
I think about leaving sometimes, when I feel frustrated etc. Like the article says I can feel how I change, my heart is racing and I'm in fear / anger mode. The other day, before buying this magazine, I realized it. So I sat down and wrote down my feelings etc. I was later able to talk to my husband without being angry and upset. Explained how I felt etc. I couldn't solve everything in one sitting, but we made progress and I felt better.

[bjames]

Together 11, married 10 years. My bipolar began to show then and it came out in rages. Only when manic would I find fault with or consider leaving my husband. He was remarkably patient and never raised even his voice to me during these periods. Now I am an empty nester and am recently able to feel a manic coming on and as best I can manage it. This began in December and it was very disconcerting to know all the "off" things I was doing and try and keep control of it. Unfortunately I am in another manic so quickly. My husband is being wonderful. I'm so glad I married him!! And I love him without bounds! He is the best support system.

together 14 years, married 13 years now. two girls, 12 and 10. yeah, serious relationship.

[ellipsisdream]

Together with my boyfriend for the past 2.5 years. We live together, and he tries very hard to understand my BP. I have certainly had times where I was ready to run away- but it is the best relationship I have ever had, and I would not change it for the world... so long as I am not manic.

[~Christina]

I do think Bipolar people need to make sure that Bipolar isnt the automatic reason/blame for any and all disagreements.. Bipolar people can and do have arguments and it has nothing to do with Bipolar