[creativelight]

Hey guys, how y'all doing? I've been stressing and enjoying too, this last few days before I get back to work on Friday. My changed supervisors before I left my job and she called me today, to tell me that on Friday, my old boss and herself would talk to me. She said she didn't want me to feel ambushed. I do appreciate the heads up, but I still feel ambushed. I did not complete the expected numbers for my job before leaving and now they need me to do it by June. Thing is the way they structure my functions do not help to achieve their goals. I ***** about that all the time, more before I got a new boss. My old boss didn't do such a great job, but I have high expectations from my new boss. So, I'm stressed about that, a little, wondering if I should mention that I'm bp and possibly have postpartum depression. My husband said not to tell them.. But he also happened to tell me that he thinks I do the bare minimum. That my friends, hurt my feelings. Maybe I do, do the minimum at everything. I don't know why.. Do I do the minimum? Is it bp and my difficulty to get organized? I don't want to feel like there's something wrong with me. But sometimes I do... I don't know... Aaaahhhh oh well.. Hope y'all are doing good, haven't read ya in a while.

[bluemountains]

I would not mention the bp or the postpartum depression, although the postpartum depression is safer because it will go away.
The way I'm reading your email, and maybe I am misinterpreting, but it sounds like your husband is not helping your self-confidence at all! He should be your biggest cheerleader instead of being critical.
What is your outlet? Do you see a t? It sounds like you need to talk this out. Also, it wouldn't hurt for your husband to seek counseling for how to be a better husband!
Bluemountains

[Dragonfly33]

I would consider mentioning the post partum and I'd look into getting a note from my doc. Then you're covering your butt (for a little while anyway).

I'm sorry your husband said that to you. My feelings would have been hurt too. I hope you told him that.

I know that I do the absolute bare minimum when I'm down (not that you do). I'm lucky if I can shower on those days...

[creativelight]

Originally Posted by bluemountains

I would not mention the bp or the postpartum depression, although the postpartum depression is safer because it will go away.
The way I'm reading your email, and maybe I am misinterpreting, but it sounds like your husband is not helping your self-confidence at all! He should be your biggest cheerleader instead of being critical.
What is your outlet? Do you see a t? It sounds like you need to talk this out. Also, it wouldn't hurt for your husband to seek counseling for how to be a better husband!
Bluemountains

Thanks! I don't see a t, I just tried to get a dx some weeks ago but instead I got his nurse. Only been there once. I called a help line that will help me find a dx and I got a few numbers to see a counselor. My husband has PTSD, depression and acute personality disorder. I tend to be his cheerleader, he doesn't know how to deal with bp. He hasn't tried, maybe he will sometime soon. I will surely ask him, I just want to start fixing me before I ask more of him.

[creativelight]

Originally Posted by Dragonfly33

I would consider mentioning the post partum and I'd look into getting a note from my doc. Then you're covering your butt (for a little while anyway).

I'm sorry your husband said that to you. My feelings would have been hurt too. I hope you told him that.

I know that I do the absolute bare minimum when I'm down (not that you do). I'm lucky if I can shower on those days...

Thanks, I did tell him that. He said that I said it myself, and I did.. It just caught me off guard what he said, so I agreed. I was trying to see it as I can always be better. But it hurt.. **** it hurts a lot.. He said that they probably gave me that raise because they see my potential.. But that I won't get it again if I keep doing as I have... He has no idea how complex my job is and given that I don't take pills or see a therapist etc I done exceptional, but he wouldn't know that...

[creativelight]

So here I am going nuts over this. I opened my goals and objectives for the remaining of the year and there's no mention or percentage on what is half of my duties.. So.. If they don't have any weight or accountability to those responsibilities, can I ask them to take them off?
Again, I have two completely different roles, however, they failed to specify anything regarding one of those roles. They only focused on one. So.. I feel like I should be released from the second role responsibilities. I'm not sure if I can do that but I'm damn sure I'm going to try.