[Melmo]

I'm taking lamotrigine for depression, been taking it for more than a year. I didn't want to tell anyone at first but eventually told two of my closest friends, my sister and recently my mom and step dad. I really didn't want my dad to know, I'm not sure why. We're both the same in the sense that we are very uncomfortable talking about feelings and stuff. I told him a few weeks ago that I had been feeling really nauseous every day and he convinced me to see my dr, who told me that being nauseous is a side effect of the
Meds. Well tonight I was talking to my dad on the phone and he
Asked how I was feeling lately. I tol him I was feeling better, and that it was a side effect of meds I take for my knees (I've always had issues with my knees) and he seemed kind of weird after I said that. I almost felt like he knew I was lying. After I hung up I sat there for a minute and then got up and wentto my sisters room and asked her if she had told our dad tht I take the same medication as her (she recently started taking it too, but very open about it) and she said she had told him. Upset that not only he knows I'm depressed, but he knows I lied to him! I'm so mad, and feeling really uncomfortable about him knowing about my issues. I don't know what I'm gonna do when I see him tomorrow, I'm gonna feel so guilty for
Lying

[Travelinglady]

You felt like you had a good reason for not telling him, didn't you? So, if he is upset about it, then explain it to him. You might say you didn't want him to be worried about you, etc.

Bipolar is a disorder that's almost always treated by medications. It's not a disorder that you have caused. It's often compared to diabetes.

As we get older, we don't need to tell our parents everything. My mom is elderly and I don't want her to get really upset about things, so I don't always share with her.

I know you're upset that you were told on, but you did what you thought was correct.

[Darth Bane]

its surely not first time you are lying to him... don't worry he will forgive you... parents love you more than you love them(this is actually proven fact according to genetic science).... so its your depression which is making you feel guilty..

[cocoabeans]

I didn't talk to my parents for a very long time until one day I told them what was going on. My dad didn't mind at all. I told him I was ashamed and he responded by asking me why? He takes medication for chronic illness should he be ashamed? Of course not right. Perhaps you should just tell your dad why you didn't tell him before. The general, specifics only worry.

[Eliza Jane]

When I was in my early 20's I was experiencing a severe depression. My parents knew that, but I lived 5 hrs away, so they didn't know how bad it had gotten or that I was on a number of meds. One day they came to visit and were helping me clean and discovered my (hidden) meds (5 at the time). Although they were skeptical that I needed meds or therapy, they were concerned that I was having such a hard time and they didn't know about it. They weren't mad that I hadn't told them. Maybe more sad that I felt I couldn't share how bad it was?

They never totally accepted the meds thing until I tried to go off last year and completely fell apart. They now fully support and fully understand why I continue to take medication.

I'm sure things will work out with you fam too. If not immediately, over time.

Best,
EJ

[Clinte89]

it sounds like you felt you had a good reason to keep him in the dark. Your sister shouldnt have said anything. I would just explain that you didnt want him to worry about you.