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Mar 13, 2013, 08:37 PM
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I dont talk to my family anymore. Not because of anything they have or have not done. They have not seen me since 2005, before my bipolar became what ever it is today. I dont see them or talk to them, because I dont want the to see what I have become. I cant stand to see myself through their eyes. And I miss them so much. So what would you say if you were me? Hi, I miss you but I am now now longer a real person, just a shell where a person used to be. I dont leave the house and I can barely sum up the will to shower let alone function on any normal level......
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Mar 14, 2013, 09:44 AM
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First off, I have to say that you are a real person. Maybe you aren't the person they remember, and maybe you don't fit into some box that society requires, but that doesn't mean you're not a person. You are a person who is struggling with a very real illness, and that doesn't make you less human.
 As for reaching out, maybe honesty is the best. Tell them that you have been struggling for a long time. Tell them exactly what you just said, that you don't want them to see what you've become. But do tell them you miss them.
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Mar 14, 2013, 10:09 AM
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I agree you are a real person just dealing with issues that doesn't make you less of a person.
I do think reaching out and being honest is best if they love you they will understand. I think your being to hard on yourself.
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Mar 14, 2013, 11:19 AM
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Can relate. I jump in and out of my family's life everytime my bipolar gets really bad. They haven't seen the deep dark down part (but they have seen me depressed), they have seen me mildly manic and funny, but they haven't seen me write on walls with red lipstick either.
My family does not know how to deal with my bipolar but that's a power in itself... knowing that my family does not know how to deal with bipolar. Perhaps you could work with a therapist on preparing to perhaps contact your favorite more accepting family member for a start? PS: Sometimes when the depression comes on, I get allergic to my shower and hide in my suite until something triggers my mood to change.
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Mar 14, 2013, 11:33 AM
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"I've been having a rough couple of years but I miss you, and I'm sorry. I was hoping just to get through the rough patch and then reconnect. I thought it world just take a week or two, not years"
If you don't want to tell them it's BP you can say it's a hormone imbalance.
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