[SoImBiPolar?]

So I'm 25 with a four year old that adore, she's my everything. I've graduated from college and I work as a pharmacy technician but I always haven't made the best of choices in my life because I usually found myself in a hypomanic state before I was diagnosed at the age of 24. I did numerous drugs and partying but took care of business and work and school and my child at the same time but never knew how it would affect my life now in the present. My mother lives with me at my condo now and she suffers from major depression, she recently began putting her hands on me and in one incident fractured two of my ribs... which caused me to ultimately lose faith in my meds and turn back to self medicating. She constantly tells me she doesn't care if she kills me, she'll just tell my daughter I wasn't sh!@ and i try to explain to her that being bipolar is so confusing in itself. And had I know earlier in life I would of changed a lot of things but I'm trying to get help now and she just doesn't understand. And what hurts is that shes living in my condo, hurting me, mentally, verbally,and now physically. I just don't know what to do because she's my mom. Is there any one that can offer some advice?

[Trippin2.0]

Put that woman out of your house this instant!
There is no excuse for abuse!
I am appalled and angered by such putrid behaviour inflicted on you by your own mother! She needs to go, no 2 ways about that. and loyalty shmoyalty, respect and loyalty need to be earned, its not freely given, willy nilly to anybody, regardless of how they treat you.

I am sO sorry you are living under these conditions but as you pointed out, it is your condo, so you have the power to change it.

You derseve better, so here's your chance to make a good choice for you and your princess, remove the abuse from your home.

btw. to PsychCentral!

[volatile]

Be strong and stand up for yourself AND your daughter. Don't put up with that just because she's your mom.
It is so messed up that she would do that to you and treat you that way. There is no reasoning with someone like that, it doesn't matter if you tell her it's confusing being bipolar 200 different ways, she will still continue to abuse you. You're just a tool for her to make herself feel better about herself. She's is completely messed up in the head.

Why would her behavior make you lose faith in your medication? I don't understand that part. You need to stay on track and focus on yourself, don't fall off the wayside just because something gets hard for somebody else, because that is what this is. Your MOM is having issues that have nothing to do with you and you need to distance yourself from her.

I really hope you figure this out. Just stay strong regardless of what you decide. Also, welcome to pc. I hope you stick around.

[Clinte89]

I agree no one should abuse anyone even if it is your mother its no excuse. You can change it and you should if not for you, for you daughter.

[~Christina]

Toss her out, It doesn't matter that she is your mother. Mothers do not go around hitting there daughter.

I think Trippin said it best !

Welcome to PC

I agree with Trippin and others.

In fact, I suspect your mother is a severely ill manic-depressive patient. She ought
to be hospitalized and treated, in my view.

You need out of that environment; since you're the bread winner and owner of the
condo, she should be out of your life if she cannot be civil.

[Odee]

This isn't just a matter of your safety but your child's safety, and that is probably even more important to you. A mother who makes those threats is not mentally well or stable: I would not put trust into believing that she would never act in on her death threats.

Find a way to get her out and protect yourself.

[renee_28]

I would definitely stand up for yourself and take matters into your own hands. She isn't acting like a mom so she shouldn't be treated like one. It seems like she is a trigger for you so you need to do what is best for both you and your daughter and ask her to leave. It may be hard but it is best.

[BipolaRNurse]

I echo the above sentiments. You are a grown woman with a child, and you NEVER have to put up with anyone who uses or abuses you---I don't care who it is. Worse, your daughter is seeing this and will think it's normal behavior....what if she learns from your mother that it's OK to hurt you physically and emotionally, and starts doing it herself in a few years?

You MUST break this cycle of abuse and violence. You would be well within your rights to call the police and have your female parent (she is NO mother!) arrested for assault and battery. In no case should she be allowed to live with you---you ought to pack her things and kick her to the curb, literally, if that's what it takes to get this toxic, evil woman out of your life.

[faerie_moon_x]

Abuse is completely wrong. It doesn't matter that she's your mother and has depression. She needs to go. Did you call the police on her? If she puts her hands on you again you call the police and have them take her for domestic violence. Plus, if she is hitting you and abusing you in front of your daughter, that counts as child abuse, too.

At this point, she's not being your mother. And she's threatening your life. You need to get her out of your house and protect your daughter. Even if she's not hitting her, it's hurting your daughter to watch grandma hit mommy, call mommy names.

Be strong. You don't deserve this and neither does your daughter.

[Darth Bane]

I agree with everyone here.... think about your child first and then about your mom... one can say it like "get your priorities straight"