dating hey im bipolar on disability

its real hard to meet guys when all u have to offer is a women who is bipolar and everyone knows how bad that is lol and if it isnt worse she on disability on it so she cant work , so she must really be crazy, I always lie and dont tell them about being biploar and such unless it seems to get serious hahahahahahahahahahahahaha This has really made me not want to date

Hi sprik and welcome! Dating is really a challenge, I agree! I'm in a relationship now that has lasted 3.5 years, and I'm happy with it. I don't work either, too ill and too depressed at the moment so it's just not an option. I hope you find the nice man you're looking for, and that you find what you are looking for here on PC too.

Hi Sprik! I have bipolar disorder and had lasting relationships, after dating. I was just diagnosed. Been in a relationship for over 2 years, with a man who'd been saying, "You're bipolar". He was right! But it hasn't scared him away.
I think if you're managing your disorder - whether meds or therapy - there isn't any reason you can't date & have a great relationship. I wouldn't disclose that info on your first date, or you might not get a second, but there are understanding people out there.
Maybe even try online dating - get to know the person - slowly before meeting up?
I think any relationship should be taken slow, but I have a hard time with that myself, and don't take my own advice. It's usually all or nothing.
I think dating is hard, period. Bipolar Disorder or not.

Welcome & Best of luck! PC is a great place to find friends & relate experiences.

haha. you are not the only one who is doing that

There is hope. I've been with my husband for 8 years. He has ADD and I feel he also has bipolar but is undiagnosed. So, sometimes our house is a bit of a roller coaster ride. But, it is possible.

I think it's better to keep it to yourself until it's serious anyway probably. I'm starting to see how people can take advantage of you if they know you're vulnerable.

Just because you have bipolar doesn't mean you're not worth loving or not lovable. Don't let yourself believe that.

I think the disability is the issue. You do not need to disclose the dx until you feel ready to and safe. But it is hard to hide the fact of the disability.

hey and welcome hiding the disability... hmmm... mayb e just say oyoure undemployed? that's not a lie and pretty common these days. i dont think you need to tell all until you're sure its going somewhere. i watch my gf's kiss a lotta frogs , they meet so many men on those dating sites and all that! i'd rather meet someone old fashioned way in the vegertable aisle of the market (haha) or at a bar lol

I am seeing someone who is bipolar, it is because of her that I am getting help. I love her with all I am, and I can relate to her, now I know why lol. Don't dismiss a person because of an illness, because you will miss out.

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It just takes finding the right person. I've had a few multi year relationships and I have ended most of the relationships I have been in.

As a man, this is a big issue for me...Not specifically for dating (I have an understanding GF), but I often lie to other people when they ask what I do for a living. Were it not for the fact I have a GF, I can see how dating might be a huge problem. Despite advances in society, men are still supposed to be the "bread winners." I get by fine on my disability, but would be nowhere near the earner a woman my age (50) would be fishing for. I still tend to look at the fact I'm on disability as a black mark against me.

I think you need to come up with a standard, consistent lie. "self-employed consultant" or something along these lines. Just something standard so you do not get worried about contradicting something you said earlier to the same person - just to reduce anxiety and potential embarrassment.

I am glad you have an understanding GF!

I am working now, but back when I applied to rent the apartment I am now in, I was on disability. The landlord - not a company, but a private person - ran the credit check but did not check employment. I told him that I was self-employed, and it worked, so I am offering it to you

I don't tell the girls I date I'm bipolar and mines pretty bad. I don't tell them till it gets serious. Unless maybe they open up w something personally that opens a door to bring it up.

Iam older thann all of you buthappily married despite the BP Did not tell him on the first date waited until it got serious. A lot of men would not be able to handle it. I am lucky my husband has been through everything bipolar can throw at you and he is still here