[HabitualQuitter]

Have you found that whenever things go south the blame always lands on you because you are the one with an illness?

I KNOW I have issues. That's why I take medication for them. But other people don't always realize that they have issues, too. I'm tired of the blame being pinned on me because I'm bipolar. It's total BS.

[Dylanzmama]

Yes! I'm estranged from my family because of that. It's also been easy for people to lie about my behavior because I have no credibility.

[HabitualQuitter]

I'm dealing with a situation concerning a family member bending the truth about an event that took place. In fact, my sister's husband called me today to try to be a go between (he's done this for years and it's fine with me, yk) and he learned some things she coincidentally left out. Just burns me up. And I learn that she's waiting for an apology from me when I've done nothing wrong, and I should be the one waiting for an apology. But I don't need the apology, I just need her to move on because my kids miss her kids and this is just selfish, childish nonsense. Ugh.

[BipolaRNurse]

Originally Posted by HabitualQuitter

Have you found that whenever things go south the blame always lands on you because you are the one with an illness?

I KNOW I have issues. That's why I take medication for them. But other people don't always realize that they have issues, too. I'm tired of the blame being pinned on me because I'm bipolar. It's total BS.

Yes, yes, YES!!!! I get sooooo sick of always being at fault in an argument because "you're manic and don't pay attention to what you're saying", or "you always blame your bad behaviors on the bipolar". HELLO?? Who's blaming the bipolar for everything---it sure as hell isn't me! In fact, I go out of my way NOT to use my illness as an excuse for being a jerk, even if I am manic and my filters are clogged.

My sister got after me just the other day about this. Here I am, as mellow and stable as I've ever been in my life, and she accused me of "ramping up" and saying things I "didn't mean" (oh, really?) because I was allegedly "hypomanic". It's like I can NEVER have a legitimate emotion. Burns me up, that.