*TRIGGER and I might piss you off*

Like what the **** is up with this article?

If you were what E. James Anthony called The Invulnerable Child, you were able to pull yourself up from nothing and make something of yourself: look at Presidents Clinton and Obama, two men who had weak paternal support and nonetheless, perservered.

Obama and Clinton were invulnerable children? There are no invulnerable children, that is easily proved by stabbing them. They all bleed. And lacking a little paternal support equals "pulling yourself up from nothing"? Oh my God I hate all these rose-tinted, rose-smelling, self-loving, back-patting bastards. Paternal support is nothing. Oh boohoo, you didn't have a dad. Yeah, life is so tough, you need to go cry in a corner.

Who needs to be taught radical acceptance by an asshat like this who doesn't know crap about life? I knew all about this **** when I was 5. And I had no tolerance for annoying people back then either.

And what the hell is up with that Snowden farce? Is it humanly possible to be more hypocritical than the US government is? (i.e. trying to force other countries to extradict him, when the US routinely refuses to extradict criminals to some of the same countries for similar "crimes", and Obama administration loving whistleblowers so much they want to keep them safe in jail forever) I'm not saying he's a ****ing hero. But he's not a ****ing international criminal either. The US should have watched their own borders. They didn't, so now they should SHUT THE **** UP AND BEHAVE LIKE ANY OTHER COUNTRY IN THE WORLD WOULD. Is your government blind or just damn stupid? They can't do a single **** right once they start messing with things outside of their own borders. OMG.

And what's up with calling that two-party system a democracy? I'm sure there are better democracies in just about any part of the world.

[Nessa213]

I know many Americans who would join you in the government disdain.

I still love living here, a lot. In my opinion it really IS a great country underneath all of the lying and scandals and politics. The two party system is crap. Complete crap. Many people I know in their 20s or 30s are registered Independents. (I'm personally Libertarian... I'm that... special kind of crazy.)

I had a dad but he was never around. So I guess I should start walking around with an air of self gratitude? (Sarcasm)

Originally Posted by Nessa213

I know many Americans who would join you in the government disdain.

I still love living here, a lot. In my opinion it really IS a great country underneath all of the lying and scandals and politics. The two party system is crap. Complete crap. Many people I know in their 20s or 30s are registered Independents. (I'm personally Libertarian... I'm that... special kind of crazy.)

This is very good to hear. There is hope!

Originally Posted by Nessa213

I had a dad but he was never around. So I guess I should start walking around with an air of self gratitude? (Sarcasm)

I'm sorry, I was too harsh with that part of my rant. I didn't really mean it that way. What I was thinking, and I think most here might agree with that, is that there are much worse things than not having a father figure. Not having a dad is often a normal persons idea of a rotten life or an impossibly difficult childhood, and I think that's actually very silly. I still get that not having a dad can be difficult though. It's possible to have a good life without a dad (I really hope had you enough support and a good family otherwise). Reading such things is very triggering for my anger, because I get so frustrated at normal people.

PS: If I seem like a jerk now then it's because I'm socially retarded and oblivious to it. Sorry.

[Nessa213]

I didn't take it as harsh at all actually! I'm having problems properly conveying sarcasm lately. There are much MUCH worse things. On the article's side, it's almost insulting to insinuate that. There are people who grew up abused or completely neglected, people that could thrive from THAT situation are more deserving of the title "Invulnerable Child" I would think.

Originally Posted by Nessa213

I didn't take it as harsh at all actually! I'm having problems properly conveying sarcasm lately. There are much MUCH worse things. On the article's side, it's almost insulting to insinuate that. There are people who grew up abused or completely neglected, people that could thrive from THAT situation are more deserving of the title "Invulnerable Child" I would think.

Exactly!!! Thank you!

And also, dandelion child is a much better term for it, because no one is invulnerable, especially not children.

[Victoria'smom]

That article is stupid! I'm a firm beliver that kids all kids idolize the adults in there life (adults could be kids a bit old then them to). Around early teens when they start kinda looking at how other 'house holds' are run but it's not until adult hood until really understand. Even then maybe not. I hate article like that, sorry. I think serviving to adulthood is triving for a lot.

[NWgirl2013]

Mandrec ~ you actually did a public service (for me) today with your commentary on the no-dad situations.
My kid has no dad, well, he exists, but has handed me the reins to rear our son & says being hands off is the best he can do .... uh, ok?! I guess. Not what I had in mind, being a single parent, but hey, my kid is figuring things out just fine.
I also like the word asshat. Makes me laugh.

[wiretwister]

My meds must be working I feel no hostility toward anyone commenting here at all.. I love you all and wish you all the best. Please do not fight life is to short. Hope I do not sound snotty but I really have love for all you guys..

[~Christina]

I don't think anyone is fighting

Well, I agree that no child ever survives childhood without some minuscule injury to the
ego. Maybe that may be what pushes us all to strive to be the best that we can be
(when we're healthy and understand what takes place in childhood that injured us.)

But it's being carried a little too far, in my view.

Everyone is human; the writer (and I agree with you about his lack of knowledge of
childhood) is trying to impress, frankly, and I don't buy that. Enough education
teaches us that the only real thing we know is that education teaches us how little
we really do know.

Those people who are gentle enough to really be strong have too much respect for
themselves and others to suggest that only the "rare" individual can "pull himself up
by his bootstraps". Nonsense.

We are all created equal, but we are not born equal. Therein is the food for articles
like the one you read and reported to us, in my view.

I enjoyed the responses to this thread. But don't put your heart to the task of
managing the stress that occurs when you let things like that article upset you;
it isn't worth the injury to your system.