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Old Aug 01, 2013, 04:41 PM
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There's this retired lawyer who I've started to run into all the time.

I first saw him about two weeks ago. I was going for a walk, and he asked if I needed a ride. I politely turned him down. He kept insisting but eventually left.

Then he showed up outside of a liquor store near my house. He asked for my number, he wanted to know if I was a student at the university, and he wanted to know where I live. I said that I am a student, but that I wasn't willing to tell him more than that. He asked me to come to his house. I refused and left.

I was walking on the sidewalk one street away from my place, and he pulled his car over and started asking me if I have a boyfriend and offered to take me back to his house. I told him no, and he left.

It happened again, and I told him that I'm not attracted to men and not even remotely interested in having anything to do with him. He said that he can respect that but thinks I "should try being with a man" before I decide that I'm not interest in them.

Then he showed up outside of a pizza place I frequent, but he didn't acknowledge me until I turned around and saw him watching me.

I was outside of the pizza place today, and he walked up and pulled me into a hug. I was so shocked that I stood there for a second. Then I pushed him off and asked him why he was there. I asked if he works in the hardware store next to the restaurant or if he works in any of the other stores. He looked really shocked for a second. Then he said, "I, uh, I work around. I do stuff around here." I stared at him for a second before turning around and walking away. He asked me where I was going, and I ignored him. He called me 'sweetie' as I was walking away.

I've told a few people that I think this guy is starting to stalk me. My brother, mom, and a couple of friends are legitimately worried, but the others think I'm being paranoid. I've been delusional before, but this feels different. I'm starting to run into him every couple of days. I've even seen him driving down my street a few times.

He hasn't threatened me, so I can't prove anything to the police. But I'm almost entirely certain that I'm not just being paranoid. He's starting to really freak me out. I only go outside if I am on the phone with someone or if I'm pretending to be on the phone. I'm going to buy mace, and I was thinking about taking photos of his license plate and car so I can give them to the security. Am I being paranoid? What else do people normally do when they think they're being stalked?
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Old Aug 01, 2013, 04:59 PM
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Stalker - no doubt! Yes, carry mace. I'd say, "You're a pervert stalker, stay the F away from me, do not speak to me, do not look at me." You could notify police, he could be harassing other girls too. Maybe they talk to him and give him a scare, then there's a report on file. Trust your gut - don't tell him you carry mace unless you're spraying it in his face and run for help.
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Old Aug 01, 2013, 05:19 PM
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I would do what you plan to do (capture his license plate etc) and what Blue advised. In addition, you can simply email your local PD (just convert the post into an email, making it shorter and inserting bullet points to show the timeline of events) and ask for their guidance.
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Old Aug 01, 2013, 05:28 PM
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Call the police. Not later. not tomorrow. NOW. As in, while you are reading this post. Don't use 911.Use the office number. say you are being stalked and fear for your well being. At the very least he is already guilty of harassment.

Do buy mace. do collect evidence in the form of pictures. Do not confront him at all costs. For the time being do not go out alone.

There are too many stories in the news about abductions and rapes. Don't be one of those stories
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Old Aug 01, 2013, 06:36 PM
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Stalker. I don't even run into my next door neighbor 5 times in two weeks. That's way too much. I would suggest notifying the police as well, so they at least have a record of it.

Also I'd lay low for a while as in not go to my regular places for a while or try a new route.

Having a dog is nice too. The big ones may defend you and even the little yappy ones like the one I own will notify you if someone comes close your house. I wish you well.
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Old Aug 01, 2013, 06:47 PM
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I would go to the police department and speak to them about your experiences and ask them what options you have to deal with this problem. Stay safe.
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Old Aug 01, 2013, 08:30 PM
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I had a similar situation except it was an older man from my out patient therapy. He pretty much did everything this guy is doing including showing at outside my childrens school. Do call the police. I did when this was happening and they paid him a visit and told him to stay away from me. And he did for five years till he tracked me down on facebook even tho I don't use a real name on there. Tried to add me as a friend through his wifes facebook account. Creepy to say the least. But call them and see how they can help. He ovbiously is not taking no for an answer.

I am sorry you have to deal with this but keep safe and maybe try not to walk around near your home for a while. I hope he backs off or that the police will interviene.

You are not being paranoid.
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Old Aug 02, 2013, 06:42 AM
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yes, take a picture of the car/license plate but also grab an image of the person! make no contact with him and like another poster already said, don't go anywhere alone.

this doesn't sound like paranoia to me at all...even in the smallest of towns, the frequency of running into someone that often is not likely...furthermore, his behavior (staring, insisting, hugging/contact) is just creepy.
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