[medicalfox]

My friend from down south wants me to be her roommate when she moves to my state. She will inherit a house in a really nice town which sounds like a dream come true if you know my living situation...but, I have disabilities. I have no idea what I should tell her about the living situation. I'd love to move in with her (and my boyfriend) to a nice home, but what will I do during a manic episode? How could I possibly hide it? If I say I don't want to move in she will take offense to it and not understand why. She's not a super close friend and she doesn't know I have a whole bunch of stuff wrong with me. Most people think I'm an over achiever with quirks so if I tell her I have bipolar I don't know how she will react. She was one of the popular girls in high school so she likes to gossip, go out for drinks, etc. If it was with someone else this would be so perfect, but it's not :/

So what I'm asking is what would you do? Do any of you have roommates? What is your experience with living with friends?

[medicalfox]

I just realized I should have made a better name for this topic. I'm not doing well and I'm trying not to have a break down so I apologize for me being stupid.

if she's a really good friend, she'll understand

just tell her... hey, theirs something i need to tell you- then gently bring it up

but if it were me?

i'd tell her i'm not ready to move in- and if she asked why, i'd make up some excuse.. bt i'm cheeky like that. so!

[medicalfox]

That's a good idea, maybe I can just make up a lie and hope she goes with it.

Knowing your living situation, I'd be taking any option to get out of it. This sounds pretty perfect. I dont know how severe your episodes are so Im not sure if you can find some coping strategies to help you limit their effects on the people around you. You dont have to tell her that you have anything "wrong", who knows moving into a nice home might help with stability.

[A Red Panda]

I'd really be weighing the pros and cons here. You're living in a horrible living situation that's very unhealthy (you are living in the room with the fibreglass right? And have the roommate who doesn't take care of his cats? If those ones weren't you... then I am sooooooooooo sorry but my memory doesn't always connect threads!) and it would be in your best interests to get out of it.

Who all is your friend connected to that she will gossip with, if she gossips? What is the most likely result if she was to talk about it with others? (As in, not the most feared result. What do you actually think is the most likely result of the people you know learning about your diagnosis)?

What are you like when you are manic and can't hide things? What sorts of things do you do? Could they be passable as something else?

Personally, I'd probably take the chance to get into a healthier environment. And then I'd risk explaining it only after I'd lived with her for a while - after all, I might hate living there anyway. I wouldn't self-disclose until I thought I was at a point that I needed to - I'm sure your boyfriend would help with that.