[hamstay]

I think my partner may be BP....
For nearly 10yrs, an on off relationship....
I could probably best see my gp for info, but I've been reading up on several illnesses and something keeps bringing me here...
I'm going to guess that his mania symptoms include; gambling, online encounters, seemingly excessive excitement over limited involvement situations, excessive talking about randomness, picking fights.....what I can think of just now,
Then the depression....
Especially after the $ losses,
Plus total lack of involvement, absence, plus other...

At times, He can also be very cruel, rude and dishonest, shows little empathy, doesn't seem to 'hear' me at all, ignored-though to the point of saying exactly what I've just said mere moments earlier, thinking it was he, himself who came up with the thought! He is quick to dismiss. And that includes the 'relationship'. He is prone to blaming me, it's in my head. He has also suggested he might have a brain tumour....
History, he may also have foetal alcohol syndrome...

I know there is a wonderful guy in there, and I think he feels unworthy a lot of the time, but isn't that my call!
I've tried, many many many times, again, again, again.....

Does this seem to fit here....and which phase would be best to broach this, if I can somehow do that......
As in..... I feel there is an illness, and I'm at a point now, where he either acknowledges and deals, or I accept that he's just an @#?? and move on....
We have an 8yr son together, who I've pretty much raised so far on my own
My partner doesn't live with us, he hasn't since only just prior to the pregnancy.....
He also has another son who turns 7 next month....

So does anyone have any thought, ideas, advice on these symptoms and also how and when best to talk to him about this.....

Thanks :/

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[thickntired]

Hi. Welcome to PC. It's pretty much impossible to diagnose bp as I'm not a professional. I wonder though if he has a very addictive personality and anger issues. But for me I self medicated the bipolar with drugs and purchases. I would guess it's a good idea if you 2 could get into couples therapy. Maybe you could express your concerns in private with the therapist. Probably calling your partner bipolar would be met with animosity. There are tons of resources here, but one persons bipolar doesn't mimic anothers.

Good luck

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[monochromatic]

It sounds like being with him is probably taking a toll on you, too. Have you considered therapy to help yourself cope? IMO it makes a world of difference with anything one is struggling with, mental illness or not.

[hamstay]

Thanks peeps!
Since I myself have had years of therapy for my own issues and life dealings, I think it only really works if one is truthful.....
Just a question for bp then....though I guess probably too broad really......how reasonable is a two-way conversation?

What is IMO?

Thanks

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