[Hong Kong Fluey]

Does anyone else struggle with this when manic?

I have made the decision to keep myself single, BP and BPD are not good ingredients for a healthy relationship and mostly I am fine with that.

However my sex drive swings like my moods, from nothing to rampant and back again. I am not the sort of guy to be sleeping around, especially at 41 years of age, even if I choose to be single. Surely I can calm down my libido, I am not a horny teenager anymore?

If so, why is it so hard, no pun intended? I know it sounds funny but it does get me down sometimes.

[cashart10]

Originally Posted by Hong Kong Fluey

Does anyone else struggle with this when manic?

I have made the decision to keep myself single, BP and BPD are not good ingredients for a healthy relationship and mostly I am fine with that.

However my sex drive swings like my moods, from nothing to rampant and back again. I am not the sort of guy to be sleeping around, especially at 41 years of age, even if I choose to be single. Surely I can calm down my libido, I am not a horny teenager anymore?

If so, why is it so hard, no pun intended? I know it sounds funny but it does get me down sometimes.

Same for me...except I am married. I am embarrassed about it so I don't take it out on my hubs (although I know he'd probably love it), I just take care of it myself instead of having affairs. i'm embarrassed to even admit how many times in one day I've done that. I hope I can always avoid affairs.

[Axiom]

Yeah hypersexuality sucks sometimes. Especially when you're in the psych ward.

[Curiosity77]

Originally Posted by Axiom

Yeah hypersexuality sucks sometimes. Especially when you're in the psych ward.

Haha, I know. I hooked up with one of the other patients, while a psychotic patient stood guard in case the nurses came around. Then one of the older nurses pulled me aside and said "I know you have needs, but there is a no cuddling policy on this ward." It was mortifying, but also kind of funny. When I'm not locked up I quite enjoy hypersexuality and crazy adventures. It's something I miss now that I'm stable.

[Hong Kong Fluey]

I am tired of 'sorting it out myself' really. Plus I feel a bit old to be doing that really.

Cashart, why not take it out on hubby, I am sure he won;t complain!

It really does get me down sometimes, I see myself as an intelligent and decent man in his early forties and I don't want to deal with sex on the brain constantly!

[OutlawedSpirit]

I get very hypersexual when I'm manic, and it doesn't help that my wife doesn't really care about sex at all. She's told me I can go to others for it, as long as it is just for sex, but I can't do that. Just the thought of it rubs me the wrong way.

[Victoria'smom]

why not take it out on hubby, I am sure he won;t complain! my husband use to. now when manic I masterbate every time I go to the bathroom and still have intimacy time 2x a day. For me intensity when manic helps calm me for a little. The only thing I can suggest is toys, yes there are toys for guys.

[x_BabyG_x]

Yep! It's usually the first sign of hypo for me, I've noticed it's increased loads this week where as on Sunday and the weeks before that I was totally flat out! I've tried to control it to no avail... Preventing taking action on it had me having an affair, sleeping with a friend and messaging multiple married men... Picking up the pieces of all that wasn't fun

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[x_BabyG_x]

Would exercise help release some of the energy?

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[Capriciousness]

Yep. I often get hyperBIsexuality. HA. Unfortunately, the hubs can't really help out with that.

[x_BabyG_x]

^hmm I second that^ haha!

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[Hong Kong Fluey]

I do exercise, I just hate feeling like this, it was alright when I was younger but not now. A man of my age shouldn't be able to have sex this many times!

I know it sounds like 'hey dude, what you complaining about?' but I would much rather have a normal sex drive all of the time rather than monk to casanova and back again in a week.

[x_BabyG_x]

A man of your age... You are in your 40s not your 70s! Still young! I know what you mean though, it's very frustrating.

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I know the fluctuation can be a struggle. Just want to say a guy in his 40s is not of an 'age', you are young and vital, trust me! That said, hypersexuality is my main symptom of hypomania, perhaps a call to the dr is in order?

[grandmaof3]

I used to have problems with hypersexuality. I was embarrassed to talk to anyone about it but I finally got the nerve to talk to my doctor and he said it was a common side of mania and we increased my Geodon. I now take 80 mg 4 times a day. The mania is all but gone and so is my sex drive. I've gone from one extreme to the other. I tried backing off on the Geodon but when I did that I went right back to where I was before. I don't know what to tell you other than talk to your doctor.

[Theseus]

Originally Posted by Hong Kong Fluey

A man of my age shouldn't be able to have sex this many times!

That's tv commercials for Androgel and Axiron talking.

I'm almost 57 and often can't keep my hands off it. Even to the point of going into the men's room at work and cracking one off a couple of times a week. Not to mention the before work sessions at home. When my husband (I'm a married gay man) is away, I can spend hours on internet porn doing the right knuckle shuffle. And then I can go for a week forgetting I even have man parts.

[gris212]

Before I read up on BP, I thought I just had a problem. When I'm Manic or semi-manic I am quite hypersexual. I told my psychiatrist once wondering if this was because of BP and she said no...well She was Wrong! In my 20's I blame my BP for me being promiscuous, it sometimes still gets me in trouble, but I'm much better about it trying to respect myself and have some dignity.

[Hong Kong Fluey]

Thanks guys and gals, it's nice to know others have the same problem. I guess it's more of a problem recently because I am single these days and quite happy to be single, at least while I sort my head out. I guess I will also have to also sort my loins out too!

I have to say when I have been in a relationship and like this, the lady in question generally hasn't minded me being like this as long as they understand what's going on when it all vanishes. I hate it if any future partner felt rejected by that.

[talcumpowder]

I suffer with hypersexuality a lot, even when I'm not manic. As I have gotten older I have become increasingly 'self sufficient' as it were, but damn, it does take up a lot of my time! When I'm hyper, it starts to really interfere with my perception day to day. Its a kind of double edged sword, exhausting on one hand but really rather pleasant on the other!

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by grandmaof3

I used to have problems with hypersexuality. I was embarrassed to talk to anyone about it but I finally got the nerve to talk to my doctor and he said it was a common side of mania and we increased my Geodon. I now take 80 mg 4 times a day. The mania is all but gone and so is my sex drive. I've gone from one extreme to the other. I tried backing off on the Geodon but when I did that I went right back to where I was before. I don't know what to tell you other than talk to your doctor.

It has been over a year since I stopped Geodon, so I do not know if the FDA approved dosages have changed, but 160 mg a day used to be MAX. You are taking twice that...

[grandmaof3]

Originally Posted by hamster-bamster

It has been over a year since I stopped Geodon, so I do not know if the FDA approved dosages have changed, but 160 mg a day used to be MAX. You are taking twice that...

I think the max recommended dose is 240/day. My psychiatrist says that higher doses are safe. I started out with a lower dose and we just increased until it started working. I've tried several other meds but Geodon seems to be the only thing that keeps me off the psych ward. And even then I sometimes have to add zyprexa. My psychiatrist says that when nothing else works Geodon usually will. I really am not functional on a lower dose.