New beginnings are often disguised as painful endings.

Lao Tzu

[Victoria'smom]

I hope your okay.

Thanks MM, I'm good. I just had a parting of ways with someone.

[Victoria'smom]

Its painful but sometimes its for the best.

[TheatreKid]

"The hardest part of love is the letting go."

[r010159]

I still love my ex-girlfreind, the mother of my child. But I know it would never ever work out between us. We just stay as good friends. What a trip!

[Hbomb0903]

I'm going through it with the man that I love right now. He's fiercely independent, but at the same time says he wants no one but me. I want more physical time and effort from him, but the more I push for it the harder he pushes away. So I have decided that I have to do my own thing and if it is to be it will be.

Easier said than done, because I am an overthinker and find him in my thoughts often. I need to focus on me and doing things for me. If he fits in, all the better.

But I have anxiety about even though I know what I want to do.

[vjdragonfly]

I am going through a similar process, although it has proven to be a slow and painful one.

Thanks everyone for your replies

[outlaw sammy]

Originally Posted by emomom

Thanks everyone for your replies

I've decided that because I'm bipolar, I will not be able to have a LTR beyond the 13 year mark. Although I've been totally symptom free for more than a year - when "the other" (manic-psychotic) returns, and he will return, there will be trouble in paradise.

[outlaw sammy]

Originally Posted by TheatreKid

"The hardest part of love is the letting go."

No the hardest part of love ending is getting even.

[tangerene]

Thanks for the uplifting quote, emomom. I find Eastern philosophy to be really comforting myself. Have you ever done any mindfulness meditation?

Glad you are doing okay despite your recent loss. Good luck with your new beginnings!

[Jimpolar]

I fear I'm in the same boat. I've been with my SO for over 20 years now, married for 16 with a 9 year old. I'm pretty sure she's leaving me. I think she had one foot out the door at Christmas, then I was diagnosed in early January. I don't know if she's sticking around now because she is curious how I am medicated and stable, if she is guilty about leaving now that I'm "not well", or if I'm just paranoid and we are OK.

[outlaw sammy]

Originally Posted by Jimpolar

I fear I'm in the same boat. I've been with my SO for over 20 years now, married for 16 with a 9 year old. I'm pretty sure she's leaving me. I think she had one foot out the door at Christmas, then I was diagnosed in early January. I don't know if she's sticking around now because she is curious how I am medicated and stable, if she is guilty about leaving now that I'm "not well", or if I'm just paranoid and we are OK.

Why not try something radical? Couples therapy. All the focus on your mental health issues may not be the central concern or concerns your spouse is feeling. YA'LL NEED TO TALK TO EACH OTHER - and a professional marriage/family counselor sounds like what you need right now. Some people say, "But I can't afford it," and when they get the divorce papers they say, "You should have convinced me to do it."