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Apr 18, 2014, 07:51 AM
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I have been with my fiance for almost two years now. Well about a month ago he was doing some research online to try to get to understand me better. He has been on a quest since we got together to learn about me and understand my bipolar which I think is very sweet. Well he was reading and he came acrossed something that says when a bipolar person becomes manic they can become over sexual. Well it seems like ever since he read that he has been a little more insecure in our relationship. I have tried to explain to him quite a few times that if I do become over sexual during a manic phase that I only turn to my partner and if my partner is not around when a urge to have sex hits me that I please myself and then wait for my partner to get home. I have never cheated on any boyfriend during a manic phase in fact it is rare for me to become over sexual during a manic phase. I usually get the urge to spend money I don't have before I become over sexual. How do I make him realize that he has nothing to worry about if I ever do become over sexual during a manic phase. I tell him all the time that our sex life is the best I have ever had which is true. He is very great in bed and does everything I like. I don"t want him to worry about it. I love my fiance with all my heart. He has been so great to me for the last two years. I am sorry if I got a bit too personal but I needed to let it out. Please help me I have tried everything. I don't know what to do. I don't want to lose him because of his fear but what else can I do.
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Apr 18, 2014, 08:17 AM
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Do you go to therapy at all? Maybe bringing him along and talking about your faithfulness will help him feel more secure. Have you explained that feeling sexual has nothing to d with cheating and your sexual desire is devoted to him?
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Apr 18, 2014, 08:19 AM
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I haven't tried that yet but I just don't know. He is a little bit older than me so I also wonder if that doesn't play a role in his feeling insecure but I am willing to try anything to make my relationship work with him.
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Apr 18, 2014, 10:58 AM
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He doesn't seem to understand that all symptoms do not apply to everyone and each of us display them in different ways. Ask him to look back on the last 2 years and point out manic episode that you waited for him to come home.
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Apr 18, 2014, 11:28 AM
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I agree with you miguelsmom. Explain to him in detail that those symptoms don't apply to everyone with bipolar mania. Explain how important he is too you...how you've never experienced such a wonderful sex life like you two have. I've never cheated on other boyfriends either. Just keep trying to tell him how much you deeply love him. How good he makes you feel. Tell him that you would NEVER cheat on him. Tell him that you don't ever want to lose him and that he is the love of yr life. I hope that helps you. You sound like you guys have a very good relationship with open communication. Tell him that you are so excited to become his wife. Hopefully all these things you point out will help him feel better. I wish you luck. If you want to pm me please do. I want to know how things are going with him. :-) good luck hunny!
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Apr 18, 2014, 12:26 PM
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Apr 18, 2014, 05:07 PM
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Come up with a backup plan, a meds and allergies lists and give it to him. Leave it in a bag with a few days clothes in it in case you need to be hospitalized, then you will have a plan.
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Apr 19, 2014, 08:18 AM
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I've been in a bipolar depression for a little more than 8 months now. It's really affecting my husband's contentment with our marriage. Sometimes I think he gets it, and other times I think he doesn't. Today he implied that, "If I did something - - just anything" maybe I'd feel better or he'd feel better. I just feel so guilty about it, but I can't help/change the way I feel just because he's having a hard time with it. I wish I could change my life right now, but it's got such a firm grip on me that I feel powerless to make positive changes.
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Apr 19, 2014, 08:45 AM
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Apr 19, 2014, 08:47 AM
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Also, my boyfriend had no clue about bipolar, bipolar depression, or any of that stuff until I just had my recent serious episode that he got to witness. I have educated him and he has expressed over and over again that he was completely oblivious to what bipolar even was.
It's still not easy but communication is key? However you can get him to relate will be helpful. 
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Apr 20, 2014, 02:08 PM
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