so how do you pretend your good?

So I've never been stable for more than a month and I'm going with my parents for 6 wks. We'll be together 24/7 in a cargo size van. Here's the thing... I'm the sane, responsible , put together, we don't have to worry about that one child. With in 6 wks I'll ruin that facade. Thanks to therapy I no longer have the I'm well put together facade. I need it back, so I don't ruin my relationship with my parents. Any ideas would help and no I can't tell them the truth. I'm cracking under this pressure and my husband is taking the brunt of it. He even talked to my therapist today.

Wow that's a tough one. Oh man, I'm really struggling to come up with something for you.

Avoidance, distraction, walks, deep breathing, PRN's lot's of PRN's

Idk what else to suggest my friend.

That's going to be really difficult to do. I'd hate to say go back to what has worked in the past but if therapy has brought you this far, I'd hate to see you go backward.

I hope you get some good suggestions because this stress of this alone would at least make me really struggle.

Good luck hun

Suggestion ...

You don't have to tell them the truth, but you don't have to hide shamefully who you are.

Can you set some parameters without them knowing at the start of the trip...."mum dad, im really stressed about this whole move and new xyz....Im going to need some space at times or just need time out. Can you please no ask questions and just be ok with it?"

That way you control their perception, your in control and dealing with the stress in your way and giving them a way to help you (by giving you the requested space)......it works for you and them.

If you try not telling them, I know for me there's only so long I can hold it together before I implode or explode....so perhaps this option lets you control the facade and let's them see your human too. I bet your parents haven't always held it together......so don't be afraid of being you. You should be proud of yourself and how despite so many obstacles you have a life worth living, and a family worth living for. If things get awkward, they already know why....anyine would be stressed wuth such a big upheaval (without mental health issues!)

Stand tall and be yourself. You are your parents equal, now raising your own family, and doing the best you can....and from all accounts, a great job.

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"mum dad, im really stressed about this whole move and new xyz....Im going to need some space at times or just need time out. Can you please no ask questions and just be ok with it?"[/B] last time I did that my mom called my sisters to see if they knew wOvc /hat was wrong.

If you try not telling them the funny thing is they know I have BP, taking medication and going to therapy but its a " Everyone who walked into a psychiatrist gets DX bipolar", I don't have the heart to tell them no that's just this family. They even watched silver lining play book with me. Now that was awkward.

Interested to know what silver lining playbook is

Do you have some prn's you can bring along in case you need them?

Are you bringing any pets that would need extra walking during this time? They have a dog but its literally attached to my dads hip. If my dad gets up from a chair she'll get up and walk by his side then when he sits down she lays next to his feet. My mom even tries carrying treats to get the to be round her. The dog didn't even fall for that! The funniest thing it the dog was bought for my mom. So I don't think I can walk her.

I am bringing my tablet, mp3 player, my CBT journal and some art supplies. husband act like you had a big fight and that makes you angry. nooooo.... They already don't like him and my refusal to tell them what wrong they assume he's abusive.

I can tell them I'm stressed about the move but I don't know if that will be enough or if they'll think in just being a ***** or not enjoying it. I really want to go but I'm worried I'll screw up. They think BP issues are normal given 3 of 4 kids they had are dxd BP or sza and the other one would be if she'd agreed to get dx'd. I'm pretty sure they each got dx'd at some point. 2 of 5 grand kids are dx'd. Myself and my son being the only legally medicated ones .

Silver lining play book

Do you have some prn's you can bring along in case you need them? yep, I've been picking them up every month so I have a stock pile but they knock me out, make me fat, and make me looked druged. I also have tons of viibryd too. Ad/AP.