[LornaMorello]

*My First Real Thread*

But anyway, those words are the words of my mother.
She says things like this all the time when talking about how my depressive phases can make me feel numb, dead inside, un-motivated.

She seems to think that Bipolar, Depression, EDs, Phobias, Anxiety Disorders, any mental illness is something that can be magically *turned* around with a little optimism. She's too stupid to realize that her belittling my problems and constantly stressing me out is part of the reason I stay depressed.
She orders pizza like once a week and wonders why I'm always puking up my food.
Its so upsetting to live with someone who is always this ridiculously insensitive.
I'm sorry, this is kinda of a rant, but its really just. . . hurtful.
I already have to deal with a lot of the general population looking at mental illness as a joke, but to have to get it from my own mother is ruthless.
I'm too old to be here anyway. God effing bless the day I move out.

[pawn78]

Some people are just ignorant. Good luck moving out, it sounds like a healthy plan.

[wildflowerchild25]

I'm sorry you have to deal with that. My husband has done that to me on occasion. He has thought before that if I just think positively I can pull myself out of the deep dark depression...unfortunately it doesn't work like that. He knows that now, going through his own depression and issues, but for him it was more of a fear response. He didn't want to see me in that condition.

I don't know how old your mother is but there are generational differences in how things are perceived. My mother In Law thankfully keeps her opinions to herself but I know she feels the same way based on things she has said about my sister in law (also BP) in the past. Kind of the pull yourself up by your bootstraps mentality. I'm just sorry you have to live with it. I hope you are able to find a way out soon.

[SilverNeurotic]

It's much easier to sympathize with people with physical ailments because, for the most part, you can see it. Mental illness is an invisible illness, and not one that people are generally very educated about...even when they know people (eg. their own children) are dealing with it. The only thing you can do is do your best to educate your mom and hope that eventually it clicks.

It is also possible that she is deep in denial because it is extremely difficult to accept the fact that mental illness is a lifelong struggle that there is no cure for.

[LornaMorello]

Originally Posted by SilverNeurotic

It's much easier to sympathize with people with physical ailments because, for the most part, you can see it. Mental illness is an invisible illness, and not one that people are generally very educated about...even when they know people (eg. their own children) are dealing with it. The only thing you can do is do your best to educate your mom and hope that eventually it clicks.

It is also possible that she is deep in denial because it is extremely difficult to accept the fact that mental illness is a lifelong struggle that there is no cure for.

Yea I think moving out is all I can do now. I've tried to educate her, various drs, therapists and case workers have tried to educate she's just so stuck in her ways, she thinks she knows everything there is to know already Its really sad considering she works in a hospital. The marketing division, but a medical field nonetheless.

Originally Posted by wildflowerchild25

I'm sorry you have to deal with that. My husband has done that to me on occasion. He has thought before that if I just think positively I can pull myself out of the deep dark depression...unfortunately it doesn't work like that. He knows that now, going through his own depression and issues, but for him it was more of a fear response. He didn't want to see me in that condition.

I don't know how old your mother is but there are generational differences in how things are perceived. My mother In Law thankfully keeps her opinions to herself but I know she feels the same way based on things she has said about my sister in law (also BP) in the past. Kind of the pull yourself up by your bootstraps mentality. I'm just sorry you have to live with it. I hope you are able to find a way out soon.

She's 51! So officially a Baby Boomer I suppose. There really is no getting through to that generation on certain things. It almost makes me proud of my own 'lazy, technology absorbed' generation At least we keep open minds! lol

Originally Posted by pawn78

Some people are just ignorant. Good luck moving out, it sounds like a healthy plan.

INDEED. And I'm moving states away to California. Hopefully a happier population may help with a happier me as well

Thank you all so much <3