[unsure989]

Gotta love labels right. So I have this one that I used to not care about, but now that I think I've accepted a little more this disorder I have, I hate having this label "non-compliant" Don't really think I was being non-compliant just more not believing the diagnosis. So I would try it on my own again and again. Idk but something inside said "ok, your going to take these meds, and your going to give it a real shot" So I tried, and the med doesn't work so well, yet the doc doesn't listen because well i'm "non-compliant". So to them it's I just don't want to take it. Med was giving me real issues that was interfering with my interactions with my kids. So yet again I have stopped the med. I see a new doc next month. What is the best way to convince him i'm not being non-compliant I want this label gone, but you have to listen to me, you have to understand it's not all about me being stubborn?

[tigersassy]

Be upfront and honest. Tell him yes I've been in denial about this diagnosis, but my actions were not making things better for me. I am ready to give meds a chance, but I really need you to listen to me when I say a med is causing issues. I'm willing to try these meds, are you willing to listen?
Also if you have a therapist talk this out with them. They might be able to help you decide what you need to say.
Good luck.

[HALLIEBETH87]

I hope things get better!

[~Christina]

There is a huge difference between being non compliant and stopping meds because the side effects are intolerable ... Make sure this is part of your first discussion with your new Pdoc.

Good luck

[Victoria'smom]

See I've had the opposite response. My former pdoc listened to my concerns closely because if i had a slight undesired side effect then I'd likely get off that medicine. We had a deal he saw me once a month and i took the prescription we agreed on for the month. We would go over what side effects are tolerable. Even if i had the same complaint month to month. We'd go over the things stopping me from taking the medicine and fix that. I've more or less been on the same meds for 3 yrs because i don't do well with med changes. Yes i have dry mouth and nauseous from my medicine but it has the (un) happy side effect of making me eat & drink to tolerate it. Sit down write down why you went off each medicine.

[Dix888]

It takes time for each medication to start working right & for some side effects to calm down. Not all side effects will disappear but some will & some will lessen with time. 4-6 weeks is a normal time to see if the med is working for you.
Not sure why you were labeled "non-compliant" Sometimes a pdoc is overly authorotative (sp) & that makes us balk. Can you change doctors?

Originally Posted by unsure989

Gotta love labels right. So I have this one that I used to not care about, but now that I think I've accepted a little more this disorder I have, I hate having this label "non-compliant" Don't really think I was being non-compliant just more not believing the diagnosis. So I would try it on my own again and again. Idk but something inside said "ok, your going to take these meds, and your going to give it a real shot" So I tried, and the med doesn't work so well, yet the doc doesn't listen because well i'm "non-compliant". So to them it's I just don't want to take it. Med was giving me real issues that was interfering with my interactions with my kids. So yet again I have stopped the med. I see a new doc next month. What is the best way to convince him i'm not being non-compliant I want this label gone, but you have to listen to me, you have to understand it's not all about me being stubborn?

[Tucson]

Placing myself in the doctors shoes, and knowing how common it is for BPs to go off their meds, which did happen more than once, then if can understand the label of noncompliance. I think you need to sell the pdoc on the idea that you will be compliant in the future of taking your meds. You have an up hill battle on this one because you have your history of noncompliance to deal with this doctor. But I understand that you want to change this. Perhaps it will be easier with a new pdoc? Still, you need a pattern of compliance. Otherwise, you can end up in the same boat you are in now. Personally, if I was the pdoc, and noncompliance became the issue, I would likely refer you to another pdoc. I would want to spend my time with those that I have a much better chance in helping.

FWIW

[BipolaRNurse]

As a health professional, I hate the term "noncompliant" and refuse to use it to describe a patient. My preference is simply "the patient chooses not to do x". It's so hard to get rid of a label once you've got it, so I hesitate to use loaded terms when discussing patients. I wish more medical people would get that.

[unsure989]

Ty all for the replies. I saw my therapist today and he wants to see me once a week until I see the psych to check in. We did talk about it and I was just frustrated and he said that they will all keep working and find something that will work. So hopefully they will and I'll stay on them. We also discussed what I would say to the new psych and I just hope he doesn't form opinion on charts alone.

[Tucson]

Originally Posted by BipolaRNurse

As a health professional, I hate the term "noncompliant" and refuse to use it to describe a patient. My preference is simply "the patient chooses not to do x". It's so hard to get rid of a label once you've got it, so I hesitate to use loaded terms when discussing patients. I wish more medical people would get that.

IMO good points are made here. Once you get the label, it is difficult to change that no matter how compliant a person becomes.

[unsure989]

IMO good points are made here. Once you get the label, it is difficult to change that no matter how compliant a person becomes.

sorry don't really know how to quote yet, so is it ever going to go away, or do I just need to learn how to get around it?

[Tucson]

Originally Posted by unsure989

IMO good points are made here. Once you get the label, it is difficult to change that no matter how compliant a person becomes.

sorry don't really know how to quote yet, so is it ever going to go away, or do I just need to learn how to get around it?

I would change pdocs. Doing this may provide you with a clean slate with the new doctor. I also would tell the new doctor that you are committed to compliance. It is all in how you handle your conversation with the new pdoc.

I hope you will find the right doctor for you!