[musicalmonotone]

Hello everyone,

I'm new to the forums and have recently decided to continue with treatment despite the crappy side effects of weight gain and sexual dysfunction. This happened after being hospitalized 4-5 times in 5 years.

With this being said, are the other guys on here even able to have sex? What are your experiences like? I can't even ejaculate, so how do some of you have children? Was it before given medication?

This is quite personal to me (as I'm sure it is for you), but I hope that some of you here are able to share your experiences. I'm also a man in his late 20s if that provides any more information. Thanks, and I hope to participate in these forums more regularly.

[beanman56]

I'm new too. I have, in the past, had this issue (inability to ejaculate) due to medication. I am taking Zoloft and have taken numerous other anti-depressants in the past. I have had sexual problems with all of them.

Doctors are so apathetic to this problem. I went to two doctors about this, hoping that a counter-active medicine (Wellbutrin) would work. I got the Wellbutrin only because I suggested it. It didn't work and I am no longer on it. The doctors I talked to were so unwilling to discuss this problem and acted so weird when I brought it up that I was ashamed for talking about it.

Luckily, I found that this problem has largely dissipated over the years. It's weird, but I think it has a lot to do with having a very patient partner who is willing to take the time to let you re-sensitize. In other words, I think that continuing to have sex helps, even if you can't ejaculate. I believe I retrained my body over time and have had a pretty normal sexual life, despite the medication.

I hope my common experience helps with the anxiety that accompanies this problem. I think the sexual tension sometimes becomes so great that we become very focused on what we're not able to do and we worry about our partner. I used to call myself a sexual tyrannosaurus (ala Jessy Ventura in Predator) because I could last so long. My wife was very patient and loving, and it made a world of difference.

Good luck.

[glok]

Hello, musicalmonotone. I, like you, have experienced sexual dysfunction while on medications. My psychiatrist told me he may be able to provide a remedy, but could not.

I wish you well.

[otroo]

The only problem I have had is not being able to finish at times I can literally go for hours just have to quit cause I am to tired. I can finish manually no problem. You need to talk to your pdoc and tell them what is going on who knows maybe they will give you the little blue pill. Good luck man.

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[MinnesotaComidian]

I have had issues in this area too, even off meds. I can get erect but out of nowhere during intercource I will become flacid. It takes a lot of consintration to even get to the point of ejaculation. It might not be the meds, I think it has to do with the racing thoughts, having a hard time staying in the moment. Does that make sense?

[jesusplay]

paxil, prozac, and zoloft. on paxil I could not ejaculate, but I kept at it for a 3 months then one day the cork pop'd. Then I would last longer and orgasm. months later no problems with prozac, a year later no problem with zoloft.

delayed ejaculation I last like 40-60 minutes, I was a premature ejaculator before.

[beanman56]

Originally Posted by MinnesotaComidian

I have had issues in this area too, even off meds. I can get erect but out of nowhere during intercource I will become flacid. It takes a lot of consintration to even get to the point of ejaculation. It might not be the meds, I think it has to do with the racing thoughts, having a hard time staying in the moment. Does that make sense?

That makes perfect sense. I have the same problem of getting carried away by my thoughts a lot when I'm having sex. I don't know what it's all about, but it can be so distracting that my wife notices. I am so embarrassed when it happens that I try to play it off with some stupid excuse.

It's so good to hear that this happens to someone else. Not that it's good that it's happening to you, just that this may be a common experience that I don't have to be so concerned about for myself. I really appreciate you being so open since I wouldn't have known how to express it very well.

[r010159]

A shot of testosterone did the trick for me.

[pawn78]

For the first two weeks on a full dose of lamictal, I had arousal problems. I still wanted sex psychologically, but my physical arousal just wasn't happening like I am used to.

I did a bunch of research about it, and found almost nothing. I even found some reports of men actually having an IMPROVEMENT of sexual function on Lamictal!?

It turns out it was temporary, and I am fine now. I found ONE article by a psychiatrist about it...and it fits me exactly. All my life I have been HYPERSEXUAL, needing it multiple times/week, and sometimes even multiple times/day. Hypersexuality is a common symptomof mania, and I am mostly manic all the time! So when I started the Lamictal, (a mood stabilizer), it stabilized my brain, and my sexual state became more "normal". But compared to my usual sex-crazed mania, it seemed like something was wrong! Anyway, I am better now, just thought I would share.

[woundedsoul]

I hate to intrude on your conversation guys, but I kinda know what you're going through except from a girls perspective. This has been a problem for my whole marriage and I don't know how to fix it. I've asked doctors if there is anything they can give me to help with my sex drive, but nope, nothing. There always talking about the little blue pill on tv. Well, if your wife has absolutely no sex drive, her husband won't need that little blue pill. But nobody cares about the woman. I swear, more and more women are have lost their sex drive, and we don't know why. It's not that we don't want to want to. We just don't know why we don't want to, and nobody will help us find out why. I know I have some issues from my childhood, having to do with my father, but it seems like the there are so many women out there that have the same problem as me, that I feel like it's more than just that. But it has really been a major hardship on my marriage. And I understand why. I'm surprised that he hasn't already left or went looking somewhere else. And it would be my own fault. This has been going on for 15 years now. I'm really ashamed. I really wish I could fix this. Well thanks for listening.

[pawn78]

Hi wounded soul, it sounds like therapy might help in your case, since you mentioned issues with your father. Or it could be a medical condition. Are you seeing a therapist? Have you told then about your problem?

[woundedsoul]

Yeah, I've actually tried telling doctors, therapist. I don't know who else to tell. Doctors don't have anything they can give women because the drug companies have only focused on men, and I I know what happened when I was a kid, but what really does that have to do when I want to want to, you know? I just don't want to. .. I wish I did. Darn, I wish they made viagra for women.

[pawn78]

It sounds psychological to me. Or it could be hormonal. Keep telling your health care providers and be persistant! Good luck

[woundedsoul]

Originally Posted by otroo

The only problem I have had is not being able to finish at times I can literally go for hours just have to quit cause I am to tired. I can finish manually no problem. You need to talk to your pdoc and tell them what is going on who knows maybe they will give you the little blue pill. Good luck man.

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If you can finish by masturbastion, but not by having sex with your partner, could it possibly be a lack of sensitivity to your area caused by the medication you're taking? There are so many side effects of medications, some of them aren't even known, and everyone is different and can experience different side effects. I was put on a Parkinson type medication to help control my restless leg syndrome because the others had stopped working. After an increase in the medication and about 1 month, I started having narcolepsy type episodes. I would nod off in the middle of a conversation, or while watching tv. I was afraid to drive for fear of falling asleep at the wheel. My doctor had her technicians, and P.A's researching all my med's trying to figure out which one could cause these side effects. My husband actually figured it out. I stopped taking it, and by the next day, I was fine. Of course, then we finally realized that my iron was so low and I needed an iron infusion, and that's why I was having restless leg syndrome and why the meds didn't work.

[betaSpirit]

Originally Posted by r010159

A shot of testosterone did the trick for me.

Can you tell us more about it? Is it a supplement?

[r010159]

I was very low in T by blood work. So the doctor prescribed it to me

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