[tailie angel]

So I am wondering if this is a bipolar thing or just some other crazy thing, but I think I am obsessed with my best friend. He is male. but its not like a romantic obsession. I just like being around him a lot. We hang out like everyday and he helps a lot with my depression because he has a great sense of humor. I got really drunk at the strip club the other night and he put my possessions in his pocket because I kept leaving them on the tables. He even held my hand so I would walk straight and I really liked that. Again, not in a romantic way, just in a friendly way. I have held hands with my girlfriends at times too like when we go to concerts and things like that so to me it didn't seem odd to hold my guy friends hand. Anyways, whenever he is busy and can't hang out one day, I feel like all I do that day is talk about him. Stuff we did, things he has said, our plans for jamming at acoustic nights at the cafe, things like that. He has been a major help for me and my son and I am really afraid of driving him away by being too 'needy' of a friend. I text him a lot when we aren't hanging out, and he doesn't seem to mind much because he is usually the one to text first but I feel like I think about him and talk about him more than is normal. I am just wondering if anyone has experienced anything like this?

[pawn78]

I am rarely like that, but if I really like somebody I tend to get obsessed too. I think it is partly related to Bipolar because we crave good feelings, so we can get obsessed with people that give us good feelings.

[Tucson]

Originally Posted by pawn78

I am rarely like that, but if I really like somebody I tend to get obsessed too. I think it is partly related to Bipolar because we crave good feelings, so we can get obsessed with people that give us good feelings.

Yes, this is a good observation. We crave good feelings like an addictive drug.

[tailie angel]

So is there anything I can do to keep from freaking him out? My son loves him. And he takes care of us when my husband works out of town if I'm in a depression. I would hate to drive him away.

[lilypup]

Be careful. If you're a bit hypo and your husband is gone a lot, you could get too close to this friend. Make sure you spend some quality time with girlfriends also.

[~Christina]

I feel when you start to question if your obsessing or not ... you probably are.

I think its a tricky cliff you may be walking on.

Take care

[tailie angel]

I don't have romantic feelings for him. He is not my type at all. He is very skinny, and I like burly men, with thick arms and broad chests. He's also not great with kids, and I love kids! Anyway, I think if I just step things down a notch everything will be fine.

[Talanic]

Originally Posted by pawn78

I am rarely like that, but if I really like somebody I tend to get obsessed too. I think it is partly related to Bipolar because we crave good feelings, so we can get obsessed with people that give us good feelings.

YES YES.

I totally agree.

tailie angel,
I can get obsessed as well. So I totally understand. The problem with obsession is that it can get out of hand, no matter how good it may feel or be. Even if it's healthy. Too much of anything can be bad. Might want to try and tone it down a bit like you said. It's never good to be dependent on something whenever possible. On the other hand I'm really happy you have such a good friend. It can make a huge difference in your life

[tailie angel]

Thank you

[tailie angel]

Also I don't have any girlfriends. Well I have one but she moved away for college. I don't get along well with women. I don't like painting nails or shopping or shoes or chick flicks and I don't 'click' well with women. I like guitars and art and mud and bikes and heavy metal and strip clubs.

[pawn78]

Originally Posted by tailie angel

Also I don't have any girlfriends. Well I have one but she moved away for college. I don't get along well with women. I don't like painting nails or shopping or shoes or chick flicks and I don't 'click' well with women. I like guitars and art and mud and bikes and heavy metal and strip clubs.

Ha! I am the opposite of you. I am a guy, but I don't get along with most guys. I love women and like having "girlfriends" which is also really difficult since I am a hypersexual bipolar man. So I basically have very, very few friends.

[vans1974]

Originally Posted by tailie angel

So I am wondering if this is a bipolar thing or just some other crazy thing, but I think I am obsessed with my best friend. He is male. but its not like a romantic obsession. I just like being around him a lot. We hang out like everyday and he helps a lot with my depression because he has a great sense of humor. I got really drunk at the strip club the other night and he put my possessions in his pocket because I kept leaving them on the tables. He even held my hand so I would walk straight and I really liked that. Again, not in a romantic way, just in a friendly way. I have held hands with my girlfriends at times too like when we go to concerts and things like that so to me it didn't seem odd to hold my guy friends hand. Anyways, whenever he is busy and can't hang out one day, I feel like all I do that day is talk about him. Stuff we did, things he has said, our plans for jamming at acoustic nights at the cafe, things like that. He has been a major help for me and my son and I am really afraid of driving him away by being too 'needy' of a friend. I text him a lot when we aren't hanging out, and he doesn't seem to mind much because he is usually the one to text first but I feel like I think about him and talk about him more than is normal. I am just wondering if anyone has experienced anything like this?

Hi,

I had a girl "friend" like that and she had a boyfriend who was cool with us hanging out...it's wonderful, but then I had to stop it, since I fell in love with her and she had a boyfriend. Now if you or him don't have boyfriends or girlfriends, it's different, but will either lead to love or nothing. In my opinion, guys and girls can't just be friends, especially if you're attracted to him...best of luck though!!