Bipolar and love

Is it common for love to make a persons bipolar over active? Like, make me needy, or fearful, or obsessed? Just seems I have the emotions of a 16 year old. Like i'm in a constant chemical imbalance when I was in puberty.

[QUOTE=ParanoidPizza;4047444]Is it common for love to make a persons bipolar over active?

I think that is definitely possible. In my experience, when I have first started dating someone, it has elevated my mood or when a relationship is struggling, it can bring down my mood. For myself, I do the best when relationships are stable because it helps keep me stable. Extremes are not good for me and can effect my mood greatly. I'm not sure if that helps. Best wishes to you.

Thanks for the words. My biggest issue at the moment is being depressed because I cant be with who I love and any time I try to date I feel like im cheating and my bipolar is everywhere.

Not sure, but when I divorsed my symptoms went hay wire.

i was manic when i married my husband - i knew him for a grand total of 10 weeks. that was 23 years ago and i dont function well when we are apart. lately i hate that he has to go to work every day even. i would lose control if we split up.

From personal experience I know how I feel about me is often fed by how I feel in my relationship with my wife. If things are good then I can cope, if things are bad then I am my worst enemy. I think bipolar people rely on feedback from others more than normal people, especially when in a low. I know I certainly do

I find being in a relationship very stressful. My current relationship is complicated by distance and I find it very difficult.

As time is going on my symptoms seem to be getting worse again and I blame that on the stress I feel because I only see him every 2 weeks or so.

Sometimes I wonder if being in a relationship is even worth this.

I know in my relationship when we're not doing so well my bipolar seems to go unmanaged and more often then not I go into a depression (A few manic exceptions). When we're flying high and the relationship is wonderful, I tend to be baseline or even slightly hypomanic. So, I would definitely have to say that my relationship plays a role on my mood.

I was manic when I got married and undiagnosed! We've been to hell and back. I really give him kudos for sticking around when I went psychotic a month into our marriage. We're celebrating 7 years this November. And, I am completely hot and cold with love. Black & white or love/hate. It's really scary depending on another person and I don't think I could do it alone.

I forgot to add in my last post that I am, due to my bipolar I'm sure, a very needy person. I do not need many people in my life, infact I am happy spending and talking to only my wife. This places an enormous burden on her, as I can talk emotions and deep and meaningful til the cows come home. Needy makes me clingy, which means that I want to be involved with everything my wife does, which again leads me to smother her and not give her the time out she needs.

This for me has been a life pattern, I am unsure why. I am slowly learning through therapy and other means (my wife telling me the way it has to be for her to survive) that I need to change the way I act. However it often means that I simply internalize my emotions until an appropriate time when I can unload on her again. It sounds horrible, and I know I do it, but its a really hard life pattern to change. Its one of the reasons I am on PC, as this gives me an outlet for my emotions and lets me interact with others without the need to "preform", ie act and behave the way other people expect.

I wish you all the best

Thanks, I relate a lot to what you said. When I love someone I feel the need to be with them constantly and do what they do, I never tire of them.