[Curious651]

. Thought I would share a little of my situation after reading someone else's story tonight. Hoping it will allow some processing. Been dx with depression and have had bouts of severe anger since 1995. Hit the bp after sucked attempt and severe depressing in 2008. Ex wife and I separated in 2008 after catching her lying to me over and over about her addiction, eating disorder, and commitment to someone else. Ex wife hooked up with her female addiction therapist while inpatient and continued the relationship after tx. Spoke to ex wife and therapist who continued to be involved in our marriage and our children. I finally reported therapist to state and her work. Prior to this ex and I never fought or had major issues. The morning therapist was charged by state for her behavior, my ex turned against me. Recall day like yesterday. She kissed me, hugged me, told me she loved me and I went to work. Five hours later, police at my work charging me of sexual abuse with ex, and children. In one second, homeless, alone, no money, everything I believed in was gone. Everyone I loved was gone. Was left out on streets. Found place to go. Day later, police came for me stating I was calling ex and threatening her with homicide and a gun. Then accused of stalking her, threatening her parents and my children. Homeless, no money, staying on floor at friends, no meds, depression and all the moods running ramped. Police threaten jail, loss of job, loss of all I went to school for, dignity gone, everything. Hooked up to lie detector. Voice stress test. Told I failed everything even my name. Found out after I completely broke mentally they lied to me and we're trying to get me to confess to things I did not do. Borrowed lots, lots of money for lawyers. Children protective services came after me at work, streets, very where. Told they know truth and I was liar. Reality was being questioned constantly, suicide attempt. Therapy week after week after week. More lies, lies, lies. Was medicated which caused mania worse then ever. Ended up like zombie for long time. Was in court for protection from abuse. Lies were told more. Judge told me that it did not matter if I was God, I am losing because I man and she women and smaller then me. Was told I had two minutes to prove I was innocent. I accepted the PFA with promise to see children by judge. Lies lies lies. Went to court they had no prof of a nothing and no witnesses. Eventually ex wife's mother shows up and blamed me for daughter having lip cut one evening. When that happened I was not even home and it was mother in law who did it. More lies lies lies. Had four psychological evaluations done. Ended up in state court after being thrown out is county. I showed up, ex and children's protection never even showed stating they had no evidence. Court ordered several times to see children. Children's protective thrown out of court and off my case. Ex ran to new therapist claimed all the crap again. Children stated what wife wanted them to say after not seeing them for three years. Back in court and attorney office. Still going on to this day. This on top of bp, and BPD , the hell I live In.
Sorry if you did not wan to read Just needed to get it out a bit.

[Curious651]

I wrote my story trying to not feel the pain and the anguish it is causing me, but it is hitting me now. Sorry I went very long and tried not to show any emotion.

[Victoria'smom]

I'm so glad you wrote this out. Are your children in therapy? Where are you staying now? are you able to work? Just know one day they will see through all their mom's BS even if you have to wait until they're adults to have a meaningful relationship with them. keep fighting for them though. Even if you do state supervised visitations that's somthing until things get better.

[~Christina]

I'm so sorry that you have had to endure so many lies and your life turned upside many times and still ongoing.

I really have no great words to offer , but just know that your in my thoughts and I hope you keep fighting against all the lies and abuse your suffering.

It took courage to write that all out

I gave you hugs because I can tell from the opening that you are suffering, but I could not read the whole entry. My eyes can't follow through a big block of text. If you can break it up into smaller chunks, that would help make it easier to follow (for me, at least).

[Mountainbard]

Hey Curious, I'm glad you were able to get that all written out. Now you can revisit it, a bit at a time, and it should help a lot with the processing. You've got a lot to process (as do we all) but from what you wrote you are a strong person and will weather the emotional part of the processing and learn and grow from what you wrote.

[Lemon Curd]

You are not alone dear friend.
I am so glad you shared your story.
You have a lot of strength & courage.
It is the first step toward healing.
I am so sorry you are going through all of this agony.
I can feel your pain & humiliation.
What a horrible thing, for an innocent man to be accused.
Clearly, she is getting revenge for her girlfriend.
You have all our support & friendship, to help you through this very painful time.
You know you will always have mine.
We care.
I care.
*big warm friendship hug*

[Curious651]

thanks for the support. Sorry had melt down. That does not happen often. Try to avoid things I cannot change, but they catch up at times. My children are not in tx because there is no benefit to their mother. She takes them when she wants to screw me over and coaches them with eps mother how to say things and what to say. They had years to do that since I have not had chance to see them. My side of family comepletely cut off

Sexual accusations were made about numerous family members on my side. Things that could not have even taken place. I don't know if I will ever get chance to see them, but I know I did not do any of the crap their mother is telling them. I was a teacher for elementary and I worked with abused kids. I would never hurt anyone. Not in me. I am working. Not with kids because it causes me depression. I live with a family member paying half the mortgage and bills.

Thank you so much lemon I know you don't typically post or come in here. Truely noticed and message received.

[pink&grey]

I'm glad you wrote your story and came here for support. I'm so sorry this has happened to you. This is a very sad scenario that I have seen happen in my own life. My aunt did this to my uncle and it has also happened to an old friend. Both lost their kids because the woman had some altered motive or wanted revenge. It's horrible for both Dad and kids. Sending you vibes of strength, healing and courage.

[Wander]

Don't have any advice for you. Just wanted to say I am so sorry that you are going through so much suffering and hope you can keep finding the strength to get through.

I'm so sorry that this is happening to you dear friend. I wish that I had some advice or words of wisdom, but I hope that you can continue to find the strength you need to get through this.

[Trippin2.0]

I take my hat off to you for your display of courage and trust in us by sharing all you have.


That could not have been any kind of easy. But hopefully now you'll feel comfortable in sharing your journey with us, allowing us to be your cheerleaders in the fight to regain the dignity and respect you deserve.


Hopefully you will allow us to support you in this battle to regain your parental rights and rebuild the relationship with your kids.


I'm so sorry for all the abuse and injustice you've endured, but in the same breath, I truly admire your fighting spirit, your tenacity and your strength.


Be proud of yourself for all the efforts you continuously put forth. For they are truly remarkable.