[Ursaula]

Hello everyone,
So I just signed up on this site to seek help on what I should do in regards to my family (specifically parents). Ok...so this all started last weekend. I was really sick with the flu and in the hospital for a few days then Saturday my parents left to go into the city and I was home alone. (I am 19 years old). I had a manic episode and "borrowed" their vehicle, drove 8 1/2 hours to meet a boy I met online. We had been talking for almost a year and we considered each other as best friends although we had never met. Anyway, so yeah, I drove 8 1/2 hours to meet him. I finally get there and we meet up and he's awesome and everything, my parents FREAK. Whatever though, it was expected. They told me to come home the next day but I couldn't because it was a blizzard outside and I had bald summer tires on the vehicle. So I stay another day. They threaten to CALL THE POLICE to report their STOLEN vehicle. (I pay car insurance on the vehicle and I'm the primary driver but it's under their name). So I end up driving home (8 1/2 hours) at 10:00PM. I got home just after 5:00AM (time change) and they were sitting in the kitchen waiting up for me. They told me I need to go to the hospital because I'm not in my right mind. So, to make them happy, I agreed and was in the hospital for about an hour before they sent me home. The next day (after I slept) my mom informed me they are going to be putting me in a group home in the city because they've had enough of my foolishness. Of course I freak out.

Now back to presently what's going on. Throughout the week I have been going to KIA in the city and discussed buying a vehicle. Yesterday after work I signed the papers and put money down on the vehicle that will be arriving November 22, 2014. My plan is to move 6 hours away from home (to a city I attended university in, and also to be closer to my best friend and other friends I made while in university). This morning, my mom looked at MY bank account and saw I purchased "something" at KIA. She told my dad and once I was awake and upstairs they had a freak out. My dad almost HIT me (he has never been abusive except for discipline when I was a kid). I then went to church with my mom.

Here's what's going on this very second. I NEED OUT! Tomorrow my mom and I meet with my counsellor. My parents are going to KIA to cancel the car because they think I purchased it in a "manic" state. I'm not allowed to drive any of their vehicles (which is understandable because I used one to drive hours to meet a friend). I lost my job yesterday because of being sick in the hospital (was still on 3 month probation). I will be trapped in a tiny town, where I have no friends. Did I mention I'm 19 years old and my mom stalks my bank account? I've made a bank account with a new bank, a "secret" account. My parents are also taking away all my electronics...but they forgot to take away my iPod touch.

So, I need out. I have no money because I put it all towards this vehicle that I WILL (determination) be getting on November 22. What do I do until then? Once I get the vehicle I plan on moving straight to the city 6 hours away. I've started looking for jobs in this new city. Do I get a job now? It's only for 13 days I'll be here... Where do I live until then? Where do I live when I do move?

List of questions:
What do I do until November 22?
Do I get a job for only 13 days?
Where do I live until November 22?
Where do I live in the new city until I have money to afford a place?
WHAT DO I DO!?!?!?!?!?

PLEASE HELP!
~Ursaula~

[Crazy Hitch]

Ursaula, this is an extremely concerning situation.

I can see both sides of the story. I hear your frustration but at the same time I acknowledge your parents have their concerns.

My suggestion is this. Go to a neutral third party. I'd recommend seeing a psychiatrist (if you're not already) and discuss your list of questions with them to get a third, neutral opinion - and take it from there.

Be well and know you can get professional advice before making any decision as you have a lot to choose from.

[~Christina]

You do need that impartial person to help you and your parents to find a solution that will work for all of you.

You said your parents think your Manic and that is why you have done these "things" ..

Have you been diagnosed with Bipolar ? and are you being treated ? Do you see a Therapist?

In all reality your 19, your parents can't just place you in a group home, your of legal age , They could ask you to leave there house/ your home..

I hope you find a solution sounds like a very complicated situation. Welcome to PC

[Victoria'smom]

I can see both sides I suggest not letting your mom talk to your councilor until you've spoken to him/her. Tell the councilor you would like them to meet with both of you after the 1st half of your appointment.

[Justugh]

your 19

your parents have no legal way to cancel any contract u made .........they have to accept that fact once u turned 18 they lost that right

as for a place to sleep ..........your best bet is to get a hotel/motel room at a cheap place in the city u plan to live in ..........if not then go for Hostels ( u know cheap places for travelers) ....other wise call up a buddy and ask for their sofa for a few weeks

u can get the job now .....just use public trans

just know when u get the car u still need to go to do paperwork and pay more money tags title insurance 500-1100 more bucks depending