[Mimielam]

Hello, I want to thank those who have replied to some of the post I have written since i joined this forum. it has helped me a lot to be able to write my feeling and worries. I'm going back to work tomorrow afternoon and I'm a bit nervous.
Tonight I'm realizing that during the time I was off work lots of stuff accumulated, things I just could not do. Tonight I can,t help telling myself, you should of done a little more because you'll have even less time to do all these things. I know it,s one day at a time, but still for me, sometimes I just wish I had more hours in a day. I also know that if I don't want to fall again I must keep working on myself and to follow a lots of good advice..it will be hard. I also know and am afraid that slowly I'll start to forget about having my limits, people will see me how they like me to be and it will be hard to say no. I've got so much to do at home, for my family and will have to learn to delegate. I hope no one at work gets nasty with me, that I don't get any comment that make me feel bad. I hope that my family realizes that I'm still so very fragile, that I need them..but that I know that they are also overwhelmed and also in need of me being there for them. I hope I find the courage to ask for help with stuff concerning my aging mother without feeling guilty and making her sad or confused...ahhhh Anyways, I hope I don't loose my password to this website and that I still take the time to come around because I like reading, sometimes answering . Thank you for the support. I may not have the time to come so often but I'll try to take the time ..know if I could only figure out how to add this site to my favorites..add it but since Iinstalled the new iOS update I'm not certain how to do this..ah will figure it out eventually, will also figure out how I can see who answers post without having to go back and back and back...lollll well good night all and take care.

[Crazy Hitch]

Hi Mimie,

I think given your circumstances, the emotions and apprehension about returning to work is quite normal. Be easy on yourself as you venture back in to this new journey. You are still fragile and each day is one step forward in the right direction. Try not dwell on what could have or should have been done yesterday. Focus on the here and now. You've made it this far.

Be well and best wishes for your return to work.

[Darvula]

Hi Mimie,
Good advice from Hooligan. I sympathise with you b/c I am having a lot of stress at work at the moment. I think work is one of the major stressers for a lot of us. If only we didn't have to do it. Best of luck to you.

Darvula

[Mimielam]

ouff, exausted. Some co-workers, the older ones where really nice just saying, welcome back and not asking questions. Some had the nerve to ask what I had..I just said I did not really feel like talking about it right now. Many told me, you lost weight..hum...and asked if I went on a diet..ah ah ah...I just said no not really. Did I really want to say, Well I could not eat, my stomach felt like yucky all the time and food was ahr..and it still is hard sometimes. One guy really got to me but he's always like that..he likes to tell people what to do..I just looked at him bluntly and said, listen for today just don't try to tell me everything that change at all the different job task..I'm here at this one for the week, and don't worry I'll ask the team leader if I need any info. Where I work we rotate task every week..I figured go easy and one hour at a time. Brake time comes, I notices they removed the K-cup machine...and I was so looking forward to popping a Decaf coffee in there...no they put a lousy $ machine, with coffee, hot chocolate or expresso..great, exactly what I can't drink..sigh..So tomorrow I'm going to buy a huge thermos.

[hamster-bamster]

Mimi, the word you used to describe yourself - so fragile - is really nice. It does not pathologize, but just depicts the state of affairs the way it is. Can I borrow it?

I have been able to remove a lot of stress from my life by adopting a uniform approach to passwords. Yes, I know, there are apps for password generators, but I have not been able to learn how to use them.

So I have a Master password. I change it once a quarter (which may be excessive precaution). I have a reminder in my Google calendar to switch the Master password.

On each site, I prepend the Master password by a meaningful word or acronym that relates to the site.

So on FB, it is FB<MasterPassword>, on LinkedIn it is LI<MasterPassword>, and on this site it is PSYCH<MasterPassword>. Because the words or acronyms I use to prepend the Master password are not random but have a meaning tied to the site itself, I no longer have a problem recalling them. And the MasterPassword, by being typed up so very often, is very easy to remember. Still, just in case, I have a spreadsheet that lists the words I use to prepend the MasterPassword - Facebook-FB, American Express - AMEX, etc.

The MasterPassword has CAPS, lowercase, and numbers.

This works for almost every site, and when I sign up for a new site, I usually get "STRONG" or GREEN LIGHT when I choose my password.

In some rare cases, sites require special characters (_-* etc.) and then I use them to prepend the MasterPassword and note that in my spreadsheet.

I live alone at the moment so I am only working towards not losing passwords - I do not have the concern of having to hide which sites I visit from family members. If you have that concern, I suggest that you simply memorize PSYCH (it is easy), committing it to memory without writing it down anywhere.

Forgetting passwords and having to recover them used to cause me tremendous stress, especially when I needed to do something fast and could not because I did not remember the password.

Changing the passwords every quarter does take time, but then I know that I have done due diligence.

Now I wish I could use the same strategy to find my cell phone at home .

[Mimielam]

[QUOTE=hamster-bamster;4098841]Mimi, the word you used to describe yourself - so fragile - is really nice. It does not pathologize, but just depicts the state of affairs the way it is. Can I borrow it?

Hi, you can borrow fragile all you want, my pleasure. Thanks for the password idea, I may start doing this soon. For the phone (cell phone), best thing for me is to keep it in my pocket. If you have an iphone, even better, there is find my iphone..it tells you where it is as long as you're battery is still charged. or I also notices my cell phone provider offers this service for free..

[Mimielam]

Hi, today was much better at work. yé.

[Crazy Hitch]

Glad to hear this