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Old Dec 29, 2014, 07:59 AM
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The movie - The Girl He Met Online -

The female main character who is bi-polar is also a psychopath but they don't describe that in the summary so people might be misled as to what bi-polar people are capable of.

This is just a rant, so no one has to try to make me feel better about it. It is up to each of us as individuals to be the best person we can be. To demonstrate that every person - whether they have a disorder or not is just that, a person.

Bah, idk what I am saying right now. I am 50, I have never vandalized anything in my life (although I have thrown things sometimes, or alone in my car, banged on the steering wheel) but not like what they portray.

And also, I have obsessed about men, and wooed over them, and wanted them to love me - but I haven't been dangerous. Just overly infatuated with the idea that I had to get them to love me through my being perfect, in looks and always acting or saying things they wanted to hear - although that might have been part of being borderline personality disorder 0 I'm not sure. One Dr said I had that, although she also said she couldnt treat bi-polar and so sometimes I think maybe she just needed to tack on something she could work on, no other dr has ever said I was borderline, and I don't cut, and wasn't abused.

But my opinion is, bi-polar just takes what you are, and enhances the experience. We become what we are times 6. IDk, I am just upset that people would watch that and think bi-polars are dangerous. I don't even like to kill bugs, and I am so self- critical, that I would never hurt others. I always want to help other people be the most they can be. Even my ex husbands (I married 2 guys on impulse moments) - even they say they were better off because of what I helped them to achieve during the marriages, and one still wants to be married to me, even though that will never happen again. I married my current husband because I wanted to. (The first time I married, I was in Vegas at 25 and didn't want to watch the Simpsons with my live in boyfriend, so I said,hey I will marry you tonight if it gets me out of the Simpsons - half joking, but he had me down to city hall before I could think, I knew it wasn't love, but I thought friendship was enough - (its not) and the second time I was taking care of my best friend who died's family, and I thought it was my obligation to care for them because of a mixed up sense of duty - so bang, city hall again. Both men just kept bugging me for months about marrying them. But you cant make your heart care for someone, the heart chooses.

So finally, in my 40's when I met a man who I loved - actual love - who loved me back, we married and it is very good.

I wasn't medicated during those extreme times, so don't worry if you are working with a professional support staff that you can't make decisions on your own. Listen to people, and try to avoid impulses, and don't live in Vegas.

But even though I made mistakes, huge errors - I am not psychotic like they portray bi-polars in this movie.

WE are not psychotic. WE are not dangerous and unfeeling. WE would absolutely respond if our parent was having a heart attack. This girl may also be bi-polar, they refer to mood swings. But her dangerousness comes from a whole other problem.

I wonder if all psychopaths are dangerous, or if there are some psychopaths who get mad at all the serial killers, or the portrayal of what a psychopath is capable of, or if all psychopaths are dangerous? I guess I have a distorted view of them. Maybe I am doing the same thing wrong that the movie is doing - believing a stereo type. Hmmmmm, idk.

I just know being bi-polar does NOT mean we are dangerous AT ALL.

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If you think this letter is exposing my craziness to much, personal letter me and I will delete it. I am having a bit of trouble knowing what is acceptable today, and what is maybe over the top.

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Old Dec 29, 2014, 08:03 AM
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I know. It is really bad the way media portrays us. No wonder that the outside world cannot relate to our issues. They have been scared by TV, Radio, Movies, Newspaper, Magazines, etc.
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Old Dec 29, 2014, 10:17 AM
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This is why so many people, myself include, advocate to "End the Stigma" and start talking about mental health instead of mental illness. The trouble is, those of us that manage their BP (and other conditions) to the point where other people might not know we are affected in any way, we are invisible to the general population. It's only when I deliver one of my education talks and reveal my condition does anyone learn of it. I'm not suggesting we all go around wearing "I'm BP & Proud" t-shirts but whilst the majority of us are invisible then it leaves just the extreme few to represent us all in the public eye.
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Old Dec 29, 2014, 11:48 AM
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i have heard about this movie but not actually seen it, so can't comment

but yes, movies do portray MI diffrently- and it hardly helps the stigma.

someone said to me yesterday.. wouldn't it be nice if 1 day you could just walk out in to the street and have a conversation about MI where everyone can understand what it's like

and i said.. yes, but stigma has a long way to go

a lot is down to the media. i agree
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Old Dec 29, 2014, 12:17 PM
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I have not seen the movie, so I can't comment on that. But yes, I do agree that media often reinforces stereotypes about MI. On the other hand, I know of two people who are psychotic at times, and then are diagnosed with BP. One of them has been very threatening towards her parents. That person is a relative of me. I come from a family with a strong gene for BP. I don't know enough about psycopaths to say a lot about the difference. But the person I am speaking of is also very manipulative. There might be other diagnoses in this case, that I don't know about of course, that causes that behavior. But as far as having psychopatic traits, I guess people with bipolar can be as prone towards psychopathy as other people. But of course, if the movie gave the impression that BP is the same as psychopathy, then it is very negative. Clearly it is still a long way to go when it comes to the general publics understanding of MI. A big issue that needs to be understood is that people suffering from MI, are not, in general, dangerous to anyone other than themselves. I seem to come across that misconception a lot.
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Old Dec 29, 2014, 12:52 PM
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According to the media I'm a walking time bomb, not only bipolar but Iraq war combat veteran. Clearly it's only matter of time till I go on a rampage.

Sure, it's frustrating to be portrayed in an unfair way, but that's life. I know who and what I am and how far from the portrayal that is. That's enough for me. I don't need to explain myself to anyone.
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Old Dec 29, 2014, 07:37 PM
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I know exactly how you feel, Imah.
I was recently diagnosed after at least, a 15 year struggle.
I've only told a couple of close friends.. The reaction I've gotten
is "But, you're not crazy.." Sigh.. It's really frustrating because
people don't have any clue what we go through. I've learned not
to try to explain it. I too, hope that someday the stigma of Bipolar
will be non-existant.
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Old Dec 30, 2014, 06:11 AM
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There is a difference between psychotic and psychopathic. One is bipolar(mood disorder) and the other is a sociopath ( personality disorder.).

Have you been diagnosed with any Personality disorders like borderline?

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Old Dec 30, 2014, 08:36 AM
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There is a difference between psychotic and psychopathic. One is bipolar(mood disorder) and the other is a sociopath ( personality disorder.).

Have you been diagnosed with any Personality disorders like borderline?
I've been diagnosed with bi-polar disorder about 6 times. However, during the past few years my talk therapist also said I had borderline personality disorder traits. However, in order to do so, she had to overlook some major things they traditionally have. I can see some of what she is saying about Borderlines, and see that in me - the black and white thinking, the relationship all or nothing stuff. But I also see that could have been a fall out from the crazy stuff my Bipolar disorder part has caused. The last person I saw, a psychiatrist said she DOESN'T thinking I have borderline personality disorder, but definatly sees the bi-polar.

The 2 disorders can overlap. They also can seem like the other. Bi-polar has no cause for extremes, borderline has triggers. IDK, I think therapy itself is good and helpful. But I also think my talk therapist said right out one day, why are you here - she also said, she can't really treat bi-polar disorder. After that, she steered me toward borderline personality disorder, although I was still taking meds for bipolar disorder via a nurse practitioner.

When I saw a new practitioner, who prescribed me the Perphenazine, and it helped SOOOO much with my psychic thinking (my delusional stuff that comes with bipolar 1) I realized that 5 years of talking didn't do as much as 1 med did in a week. I knew I needed a talk therapy break. The Perphenazine is normally used to treat schizophrenia, which I do not have, but it seriously helped with the delusional thinking part of bipolar.

In some cases, talk therapy might cure some stuff. I know it was helpful to me, and I may go back in the future. But what I really needed was good medication to help me siphon out the crazy. And to stop over analyzing myself.

Since I stopped seeing a talk therapist and an ahrms worker I feel much less stress. I don't question every little mood. I am beginning to tell the difference between normal responses and bipolar driven responses. Over-therapy had not let me be okay with even simple mood changes.

Talk therapy, and medication therapy both have their place, and each of us as individuals must work 100% with our professional support staff to get the most out of the help they offer.

But in the end, we must do what is right for ourselves. For me now, what is right is only seeing a psychiatrist, and not a talk therapist - and developing the things talking gave me. Like, forgiveness - and the difference between normal responses, and disorder responses - like learning to like myself and relaxing a little bit. I am a lot less jumpy and my husband just yesterday said he sees a huge difference for the better since I stopped seeing talk-professionals.

The right meds, and understanding ourselves wholly is where I am lucky to be at right now.

Sorry this is long, but I wanted to answer fully. Ask more specific questions if this missed the mark please.

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Old Dec 30, 2014, 10:08 AM
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watched the movie after you talked about it,..it was scary,..if I did not have a mi I would be terrifed of those with mi,,the media really blew this one,, we will never be free of fear and stigma with stuff like this...
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