[Justugh]

hi

i am trying to think about other things then what my post was about ........i keep looping same bad thoughts over and over and over again it actually given me a headache or the pills are i am not sure i do not get headaches

any way change the subject .........i am guy and really dumb when it comes to stuff like this i never know if it is sign or a signal or anything

ok so i mail stuff off from post office alot and there is this one lady there named cinthia

well after 2 years of going in she stops me and talks with me ( i am known in my area because i look amish beard /hat/solid color shirts and jeans) so that was her first ? are u amish ....no i just look this way so ppl leave me alone except ppl like u that have the balls to ask me .

well we talk for 20 30 mins each time i go in drop stuff off she asked for my number i gave it to her we text now and then (when i am going up i send a note see if she is working) go outside and smoke a cig and ******** about life in the area

well when we started talking she lived with her kid father they broken up for a few years got back together to see if could work out ...well it was not working out so well about 5 months ago she flat out asked if i liked porn (i did not know what to say so i say i am a guy i love porn ) then she lets out she been watching it becuase her and the guy are on the outs

the fallowing months she contacts me more because she is sad and i make her laugh .......about 3 weeks ago she moves out of there and down into her sisters place ...she is much happier even seen her giggle 2 times

well last time i talked to her she was telling me she might ask me to drive her home from the dentist having wisdom teeth pulled and i am the only one she trust to be around her while messed up on the drugs.......she is worried she will say something she should not to other ppl ..........then she asked if i would come by her work on sunday just to talk while she is working ....i said sure

now the ? is should i ask her out on a date is that what she is hinting at ...she knows i am bi polar and smoked weed (her father smokes now)

so guys that knows what is going on what does this mean .........ladies what does this mean

[Victoria'smom]

I'm horribly inept at knowing signal of the friend or flirt but ask her anyway!

[emory_]

It sounds like she enjoys your company and that you two are close enough that she trusts you to care for her. I think your best bet would be to invite her out to do something, but don't necessarily call it a date. I'm a girl and I know that when some guys have asked me out, hearing the word "date" made me want to head for the hills. There's a lot of pressure when you're on a date, to be on top of your game and to be extra mindful and impressive, and I think focusing on the fact that it's a date can take away from the fun of just enjoying each others company and can add a level of stress.

Before you ask her out, figure out what she likes to do. If she's been talking about a movie series she likes and you know the new movie is in theaters, mention to her that you'd like to see it (if you do want to see it) and that it'd be cool to have some company. If there's a local event happening where you live, say that you were thinking about going but don't want to be weird by yourself and suggest that she come along and enjoy it with you. If things turn flirty while you're out, then that's great! But if they don't or if she turns you down, always remember to be respectful of her choice and to let her know that you'll still be her friend.

Good luck with it all, and give an update when you can!

[Justugh]

i can add she did this wine and paint thing ..........with her sister and she offered me the painting she did ..........a trippy wild flower

so miguel's mom is ask her out

the only reason i have not is i did not want to make her feel uncomfortable around so u are saying go for it

[Victoria'smom]

Ask her out

[Justugh]

Originally Posted by emory_

It sounds like she enjoys your company and that you two are close enough that she trusts you to care for her. I think your best bet would be to invite her out to do something, but don't necessarily call it a date. I'm a girl and I know that when some guys have asked me out, hearing the word "date" made me want to head for the hills. There's a lot of pressure when you're on a date, to be on top of your game and to be extra mindful and impressive, and I think focusing on the fact that it's a date can take away from the fun of just enjoying each others company and can add a level of stress.

Before you ask her out, figure out what she likes to do. If she's been talking about a movie series she likes and you know the new movie is in theaters, mention to her that you'd like to see it (if you do want to see it) and that it'd be cool to have some company. If there's a local event happening where you live, say that you were thinking about going but don't want to be weird by yourself and suggest that she come along and enjoy it with you. If things turn flirty while you're out, then that's great! But if they don't or if she turns you down, always remember to be respectful of her choice and to let her know that you'll still be her friend.

Good luck with it all, and give an update when you can!

no worries about me bad man .......my mother was southern baptist if i ever did anything with a lady she would beat me she is dead now but i am still pretty sure if i did something bad she would rise from the dead find me and kick my *** ( i sawl that lady make grown men cry just by *****ing at them words only )

so make sure i got this right no asking on a date.....just ask if want to hang out do something fun

again i am terrible at this stuff is there a clear sign i should see if she wants more ....or should i just balls up and flat ask after we had a few drinks

an no worries i am not jackass if she gets drunk she will make it home safe and sleep alone in her bed

[prepsychmel]

It definitely sounds like she has an interest in you in some way. I say go for it and ask her out

[Alone & confused]

Female flirt here.
Ask her out. She's talking to you about porn??? Yeah, I think it's safe to say you can ask her out.

[emory_]

Yes, I agree, ask her out. But don't obsess over the "date" part of it! That's all I was saying (: I think there are signals that she likes you, definitely. I'm sure it'll be great. Remember, COMMUNICATION is a huge deal, and sometimes it's better to be as honest as you can instead of pondering on it and trying to find a subtle way to find out if she likes you. If you're really curious and ever confused or unsure about her feelings, the only way to know is to ask her and to be honest about your own feelings. It's hard to pick up hints from people you're interested in because you're always second guessing yourself. But if you need an honest answer, ask her for one! "So I feel like we've gotten to be good friends, and I think you're an awesome lady. The way I feel about you makes me a little nervous because I feel like you've given me some signals that you have some kind of interest in me, but I'm not positive. If you aren't, that's okay, you're still an awesome friend. But if you are, would you let me know? I'd like to go out sometime and maybe have a drink or dinner."

Of course you don't have to say that exactly, but being honest about it is going to help her see that you're someone who can express his thoughts and feelings upfront instead of going back and forth with confusing signs and signals from each other.

[Justugh]

Originally Posted by emory_

Yes, I agree, ask her out. But don't obsess over the "date" part of it! That's all I was saying (: I think there are signals that she likes you, definitely. I'm sure it'll be great. Remember, COMMUNICATION is a huge deal, and sometimes it's better to be as honest as you can instead of pondering on it and trying to find a subtle way to find out if she likes you. If you're really curious and ever confused or unsure about her feelings, the only way to know is to ask her and to be honest about your own feelings. It's hard to pick up hints from people you're interested in because you're always second guessing yourself. But if you need an honest answer, ask her for one! "So I feel like we've gotten to be good friends, and I think you're an awesome lady. The way I feel about you makes me a little nervous because I feel like you've given me some signals that you have some kind of interest in me, but I'm not positive. If you aren't, that's okay, you're still an awesome friend. But if you are, would you let me know? I'd like to go out sometime and maybe have a drink or dinner."

Of course you don't have to say that exactly, but being honest about it is going to help her see that you're someone who can express his thoughts and feelings upfront instead of going back and forth with confusing signs and signals from each other.

odds are i will almost those exact words but add in my own slang

i was thinking about asking her to lunch .......i know she gets a hour and half 1 to 2:30 she told me to always come before then or after then she would be at lunch the other times

is lunch better then asking about dinner
lunch can have 1 drink with a big meal so good to back to work
dinner can have as many as u want with the meal

[emory_]

I think the lunch thing is a great idea. It gives you a specific time frame so if things don't go as smoothly as you'd like, neither of you feels like you "need to escape" or something because you know you'll be out of it in an hour and a half or less. Not to say that things would go badly, but I think having that schedule for a date is awesome because there's no confusion about whether or not to go to another place and keep hanging out or to go back to a certain person's house or anything. It'll be simple and straight forward, and you'll both have a lot of fun if you relax and just let whatever is going to happen, happen. Make the best of it and enjoy yourself. Don't sweat it too much!

[Justugh]

Originally Posted by emory_

I think the lunch thing is a great idea. It gives you a specific time frame so if things don't go as smoothly as you'd like, neither of you feels like you "need to escape" or something because you know you'll be out of it in an hour and a half or less. Not to say that things would go badly, but I think having that schedule for a date is awesome because there's no confusion about whether or not to go to another place and keep hanging out or to go back to a certain person's house or anything. It'll be simple and straight forward, and you'll both have a lot of fun if you relax and just let whatever is going to happen, happen. Make the best of it and enjoy yourself. Don't sweat it too much!

thanks nice lady

i owe u a cookie ......or u can have a cookie ( do something good/nice earn a sweet treat ) rule i fallow

[Justugh]

Thank u everyone

this talking stopped the looping the anger is going away i am more worried about asking her out

[Sinking Feeling]

You can ask her without asking her.

"would it be out of line if I asked you out some time?"

[Justugh]

Originally Posted by Sinking Feeling

You can ask her without asking her.

"would it be out of line if I asked you out some time?"

ohhh that is good ..........ladies is that a good idea instead of going to lunch put that out there like that then if a yes do the lunch thing for frist few then when she gets free do a dinner date thing

holiday season she is up at 4 am in bed by 9pm

[Justugh]

see i told u i am moron at this stuff something so simple like that and it excapes me

[emory_]

Yes I think that's a good idea. It's straight forward but doesn't put pressure on anyone. Stuff like that escapes me, too, it's okay. If you need any more help, remember that you're not alone and you've got plenty f people here to help you (:

[nbritton]

I think it's obvious, I don't see where you get the ideal that she's sending you mixed signals. She's not talking to you about porn and telling you she broke up with her boyfriend just for shits and giggles. The mere fact that she's talking to you is a good sign that she's interested.

Don't directly ask her for a date, i.e. will you go on a date with me, that's awkward. Do something more like this:

You: Are you still broken up with your boyfriend?
Her: Yes
...
You: I bet you can't come up with a better first date than I can. I would...(explain your date). What would you do?
Her: I would...(explains date).
You: That sounds cool. Ok, you win. We'll go on your date. What time should I meet you?

[Chillly]

Do it bro

[Justugh]

will do

i see her sunday so if feel good spot will try it out ......but going to get the info about giving her a lift from the doctors (i will be nice and clean out the car as much as i can it is a guy's car and i was going to get rid of it soon so i stopped caring )

[Justugh]

Originally Posted by nbritton

I think it's obvious, I don't see where you get the ideal that she's sending you mixed signals. She's not talking to you about porn and telling you she broke up with her boyfriend just for shits and giggles. The mere fact that she's talking to you is a good sign that she's interested.

Don't directly ask her for a date, i.e. will you go on a date with me, that's awkward. Do something more like this:

well that is the trouble .........i have always been that guy anyone would sit down and talk too ....i learned stuff about my friends sex lives that i never wanted to know from their gf/wives

girls use to drag me into the bathroom to sit and talk to them while shaving legs ......using the bathroom not the same girl not even in the same group of ppl ........when ppl are freaking out of something is massively wrong i was the one they went too .....u have no idea how many times in my teen years i had to leave work because someone was flipping out and i was the only one they listen too

i am that guy the one that has always been the same nice guy little crazy smokes bud but would do anything to help out someone in need

u should see me with kids they love me we have a good time ....i am the only one that can kidsit for my nephew he will act up with the others

[Justugh]

well i spend 3 and half hours there

she was the only one in the office the other ppl were out dropping stuff off .....she got promoted to postmaster for that station

did not see a chance / feel a good time to ask

tho it does look like she needs some help crazy postal worker in there has said something to her she reported it to the cops but since nothing has happen nothing can be done

so i gave her my fav boot dagger .......made her feel better she colored it in like the military ppl do with it (i gave some away to buddies in the forces they love them so i got 10 more last trip to ren fair ) ...........but she feels safer now about that one guy in work

put the offer out there if she needs to can ask me to have a talk to the guy ..........he sawl me this afternoon and avoid me ........i am known as cinthia's amish guy ....she thanked me for being there otherwise he would have hung around until she was off (post office ppl can not leave until all the trucks are back in incase one breaks down )

so she asked me to show up monday she knows she will have alot of work and needs something to cheer her up so i said sure

going to try there once most of her work is over that way might sound like a better idea

[Richardnyc]

Originally Posted by Miguel'smom

Ask her out

Ask her out bro, if she brung
Up Pron, she is in the mode for sex, and she seem to like you go for it,,, ask her out!!! Luck bro

[Justugh]

well i did

she can not do anything until after the holiday season ........she is up at 4 am work at 7 off at 6 then food kid's home work shower sleep repeat

today i was there she asked if i wanted to go on a drop off (package missed the truck) so she was running it over to the house rode with her talked ......she had never been in the area so i showed her the dam headed back to work talked for 20 more mins and she got called in .......asked if i would stop in later in the week

as it stands offer is out there for her to go to new years party i know about bunch of rednecks/teachers they throw a party at bert's place he got a great set up for parties

if not there then to this nice pizza place they have beer and wine plus a real wood brick oven they cook the pizza in