Things you don't want to discuss with Pdoc

Without going into too much information, can someone please tell me I am not the only one with a libido that seems to go up and down constantly depending on mood? I don't mean interested or not interested, I mean really going from one extreme to the other? Thus far I have lied about it on the Pdocs forms that I fill in, I just haven't wanted to explain, but its worrying me as it affects my relationship with my partner. I dont really want to post here either, but this is more anonymous than having to talk face to face about it. I guess I should have created a new user name before posting this really.....

Hells bells my old male pdoc used to ask me that EVERY visit

My new female pdoc never does

I only wish mine went up and down,,, it's been very down since I started meds two years ago...

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can someone please tell me I am not the only one with a libido that seems to go up and down constantly depending on mood?

You're not alone. Bipolar disorder can definitely have an effect on libido (periodically increased or decreased). I have had a few pdocs who never wanted to discuss very personal matters (eg. they're problem doctors) but I've had several pdocs who had no problem discussing fluctuating libido. A professional pdoc shouldn't have a problem listening to any issue. Most men have very intense sex drives (going back to adolescence) if you're not aware. (I even had a urologist who I saw for prostate problems and he told me straight out that it's a normal and healthy thing to pleasure one's self.)

Both my and my husband's libito change with mood and meds. My husband's ability is effected by his mood
I hate talking about it but have been to the ob/gyn sinice 16 so I'm as use to it as one can.

I think altho it's an embarrassing question, Trust me Pdoc here this "complaint" all the freaking time. If your not verbally able to bring up the topic , write it down and let your Pdoc read it and then He can open up and address your current meds and work with you to find a combo that works and doesnt effect your intimate moments with your loved one.

At first I did to make clear my diagnosis, but now it's just med management, so I do not tell everything. I get sexual urges but I just can't react on them. I need a T to talk to.

My spouse doesn't deserve it because divorce is in the air.

Definitely up and down. Mania definitely increases my libido. Curiously enough so does anxiety. Depression kills is.

And I rarely discuss sexual stuff with therapists or dr's. The one time I did go into detail was probably a factor in the therapist diagnosing me having BP1 back in August.

Same here. Sex is sex. It's only a problem when it's affecting others around you in a bad way.

I told my pdoc what I did for the longest, and he thought it was funny. I'm fixn to fire my pdoc, but he's a med dispenser.

Sorry your pdoc laughed at you, that sucks. Hope you can find a better one.

And you're right, it's a problem when it's affecting others, but it's also a problem when you put yourself in risky situations, as I was doing.

Yes exactly, which affects others around you. I don't express myself well. We all know "self" is vital to the equation.

I'm stuck in a freezer of a marriage and I'm not stepping out of bounds. Even though my eyes wander a bit...

Okay, thanks for clarifying. Sorry if I misunderstood your point.

Thank you all for your replies. I really appreciate them. I think Its time I was honest with my Pdoc. I like the idea of writing something out and letting him read it. I feel I can't talk about it with the psych nurse or my T as they are both female.

Good luck, Blitter. Writing something out sounds like a good idea. Let us know how it goes.

I find myself more comfy with female doctors and nurses. Deep rooted issues with male figures. Sounds like you made a good decision. Good luck with that!

My pdoc is a man and we talk about sex pretty often. Of course, we're both medical people so we're pretty comfortable talking about it. He just wants me to have more of it. LOL

Before I restarted taking my meds three years ago I had a great sex life with my wife and unfortunately with others as well. I started taking my meds and started having problems finishing and once in awhile even getting it up. I brought this up to my regular doc instead of my pdoc cause my pdoc is for the most part just my med manager. My regular doc did a testosterone test and I was not even 1/3 of what my testosterone levels should be and I am on a testosterone replacement therapy and I will start the injections this weekend. Oh I am 41. Oh another thing if people are having problems sexually you should not be ashamed to tell your docs no matter their sex cause this is important and yes I know this can be a embarrassing thing to bring up to people but a doc is a doc and this won't be the worse thing they have heard. Good luck.

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