[earthangel1]

I am dating a new guy, Jake. He knows I am bipolar and we've discussed it. He is intellectual so he asks me questions concerning my bipolar. But would he be understanding if I had an episode? What if I went to the psychiatric hospital? Has anybody been rejected because of bipolar disorder? Do you have any significant others that are understanding?

[LacunaCoiler]

I think it's kind of a wait and see kind of thing. It's one thing to know and understand it all, and another thing to experience one. My gf has learned as much as she can on the subject and still finds it rather hard to deal with me when I get one. He seems to be doing the right thing by becoming educated on the subject and I do wish you the best of luck when the time comes, hopefully it doesn't come until you two establish a stronger relationship.

[HALLIEBETH87]

Im not sure. It would just depend on the individual.

Me, personally...I fear I will never find anyone who would accept all my crap.

[Soul Quake]

You might not ever have an episode again. You may never have to be admitted. Try not to concern yourself with the 'What ifs'.

[ayana95]

My boyfriend understands. He also has mental illness.(not bipolar). In my last relationship it was harder for the person to understand. He didn't want to understand.
I would suggest getting him to read on the subject of bipolar. There are looks of books and memoirs out there. Be open and honest. I wish you luck.

[Gray Rider]

Originally Posted by Soul Quake

You might not ever have an episode again. You may never have to be admitted. Try not to concern yourself with the 'What ifs'.

I agree with this

we will all be dust in the ground one day, just enjoy the relationship as long as you can
I've found that some people will stick with you thru the tough times, a lot won't...

[Pikku Myy]

I tell everyone upfront I am bp1... To my surprise, now one of the people I am dating is a psychologist!!! How funny is this!!!! lol

You gave them the heads up.. now up to this person to love you no matter what. It is what it is. Make sure you love yourself first.

[x_BabyG_x]

Sooo many (and might i add, perfectly normal) thoughts racing around our disturbed minds when we start dating someone who we know wont be prepared for the shock of the fall!

My advice to you -and to myself! - Is to take things one day at a time, and try not to worry about the future. You never know, when it comes to it, he might surprise you <3 xxx

[furiousfever]

I'm terrified of trying to explain it to a new partner. Also new dating scenarios seem to trigger episodes for me. The funny thing is, I've been the most stable when in a serious relationship. Though, I didn't know I was bipolar. When I told him after I was diagnosed and post break up, he said "well, that explains so many things"
Oof!

[Blitter2014]

My now wife knew I had bipolar when we were dating. It was not something I could hide. She saw both the highs (and enjoyed them) and the lows and was there for me through both. I know I am very lucky to have her and my world would completely fall apart without her.

I believe someone who truly loves you will be there through thick and thin. What is to say that you might remain stable and they get an incurable disease? Be yourself, and let the person you are dating see everything. Better to be rejected now (less painful) while you are still dating, than get into a relationship that falls apart later because you hid who you really are warts and all.

Having said all that, I wish you all the happiness in the world

[brokenandalone1234]

I have been rejected by one guy for being Bipolar. My fiancé is understanding for the most part. We have had a lot of problems in Two and a half years. I am hard to live with when I am not on my meds. My fiancé agreed a year into our relationship to be my voice if there comes a time when I no longer can be my own voice. He even agreed to be my voice if we broke up. He has always said even if we broke up I will only do what is best for you. That's why I asked him to be my voice if I can't be.

[Tucson]

My solution has been not to go on dates. This has been true for 15 years now. I am afraid to go back to the dating scene. But I do think it is not a good idea to be revealing during the initial part of the relationship. When the relationship gets to be more than a casual fling, then I would talk about the MI.

[Becoming]

It's a good step that you told him and he's making the effort to understand BP. I made the mistake of not explaining to my ex that I have BPII, but then again I couldn't really pinpoint that my behavior had to do with my BP until after we already broke up. So it's really important for someone to understand and know about it. I'm glad he seems to.

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