[earthangel1]

My boyfriend just dumped me because he found out I have bipolar. He just sent me a text a day after he found out and said, "I just feel we have no chemistry. Let's just be friends." Am I ever going to find someone who just accepts me for who I am? I don't feel so. It seems hard to find love when everyone is afraid to date you.

[Standup2me]

What kind of person would do that?
You deserve better treatment, and more respect than that

Love will happen, just don't force it

You do deserve better. Someone will be drawn to you and love you because you are different.

[~Christina]

Well at least he showed his true colors before you wasted more time with him.

Yes you can find love while having Bipolar in your life. Bipolar is not a death sentence when it comes to relationships.

You mention people being afraid to date you?? Are you disclosing your Bipolar too soon to potential men? You do not have to fill someone in right off the bat, Hey ! maybe on date 4 you might think " Yack" I don't really like this guy"

Be kind to yourself

[StillLeftBehind]

I am going through the same thing. I am staring to think that if they can't hang there might me someone that will. Hang in there.

[Blitter2014]

Don't be too quick to reveal all about yourself. Let a potential partner get to see the "whole" you, don't hide your BP as though you are ashamed of it, but neither feel like you have to reveal it straight away just in case you have an 'episode'.

There are so many on here that have partners that they love, and who love them dearly, warts and all. You are a good person, so don't settle for Mr Right Now, when Mr Right could be just around the corner

[wing]

I didn't tell my husband until he asked me to marry him. Then I laid it all out and told him "This is what you getting into". Never told any other boyfriends because I wanted to be seen for myself, not someone "sick" and "scary".

We've been married 24 years and he has been so supportive because he knew what to expect.

[Moogieotter]

Aw bpenniman, don't let it get you down. Lots of great wisdom here. It is very possibly and likely that you will find someone who sees the whole package and accepts you the way you are and the way you are working towards being. You'll attract the right people just be being yourself and genuine. Best of luck,

moogs

[Curious651]

Sorry that this happened. it stinks when people do things out of fear and not facts. It may be for the best at this time even though you may not want to see that. I am very careful who I share things with and what the reason is that I share. many people do not know how to handle this and have irrational thought about bp. I hope you feel better soon and find someone that you can be yourself with.

[bipolartx]

I made a different choice. I just make the worst decisions when I'm ill and that especially includes romantic partners. I stopped dating three years ago and for me it was the best decision I ever made. I guess I'm just capable of managing that and this. I'm sorry you're alone. Not everybody is cut out to be a partner to someone with this disability. Takes a special person. He's probably out there somewhere looking for you.

aww.

i'm sorry.

do try take care of yourself

[Homeira]

Sorry that this happened to you! Getting over someone leaving you is bad enough, but knowing that it was because of your illness might make it even worse. Maybe as a result of my own experiences, I am today glad to be single, and seeing all the benefits of that.(no more drama!) I think the best thing to do is to focus on making a good life for yourself no matter if there is a partner by your side or not. I find that spending my energy on nurturing good friendships and growing as a human being, is in the long run more rewarding than being sad about the fact that I am single. I hope this does not come across as preaching... just wanted to offer another perspective. Sometimes life gives us these horrible punches though, and it can be real hard to get up. But with experience and learning and growing, we will also have a lot more to offer a potentional partner. And the difficult experiences might make us better at judging who is worth spending our time with, and who is only going to hurt us.

[doyoutrustme]

He dumped you by TEXT? Good riddance.

[Homeira]

I agree with doyoutrustme. The guy sure showed his true colors!

[medicalfox]

There are crappy people out there, but also good ones too. Most of the other guys I dated before my boyfriend stopped talking to me after a manic episode. My boyfriend knew I had bipolar before we even started dating because our friend told him about me. When he learned I was actually more on the schizophrenic spectrum along with my other MI he still stayed with me even though I was pretty rough around the edges and still kind of am. We've been together for 3 years.