[LettinG0]

Haunted by the Past...

Anxious about the Future...

Paralyzed in the Present...

'Nuff said...

[jacky8807]

Ive been there. Sorry you are going through it
Hope you find peace

[Hexagram]

You can't afford to forget lessons learned about yourself and the disease for fear of repeating hard mistakes, but when I get bound up by guilt and regrets I try to remember that the past doesn't exist. I found this on Google:

Regrets are stupid

The past doesn’t exist anymore, and it never will ever again. Allowing your decisions from this non-existent period of time to cause you pain is counter-productive to the time you have in the present.

We’ve all f*cked up, & done some bone head moves. We re-watch the footage over & over & over again wishing we could Marty McFly our way back to that very moment so we can change things for the better. The flaw in this (beyond the fact that time travel is yet to exist) is that there’s no guarantee that altering the past would have made for a better present.

As non-existence as the past is, so is future unsure. Cause & effect are things we wish we could simplify, but we really can’t. You don’t know how things would have been different, so stop wasting calories worrying about it. What is sure is your present state, and that this very moment is your opportunity to make the life you want to have.

We are a sum of our experiences, including the not-so-proud moments we all go through. People make mistakes, but are given the option to grow from them. Not only should you not allow your past to be held against you, it’s very bone-headed to hold other’s past against them.

The woulda-coulda-shoulda’s of life are a waste of time, for the simple fact that focusing on them will yield nothing. You end up wasting the time you have now, suffering for a time you’ve already left behind.

Most regrets folks tend to have near the end of life are things they didn’t do. So focus on the life you want, and realize that, though regret is a stupid thing to have, allowing fear to prevent you from living the life you want is just as, if not more stupid. It’s also a guarantee for regret in the future. Don’t fear the pain of work, it’s nothing in comparison to the pain of regret.

Anything you messed up on in the past can be chalked up to a life lesson & experience. Success is a horrible teacher, so rely on the missteps & failures to guide you on this adventure of life.

And ***** all the “I told you so” folks in your life. These people are despicable, and use your misfortunes as opportunities to stroke their own feeble egos. Nothing good from pointless opinions after the fact, tell these people to ***** off.

You are a piece of art in progress, constantly improving every day. Seek out experiences in the world, make mistakes, and allow them to shape the person you are. Celebrate that person your becoming, you’re one in 100 billion humans to have ever existed. Every scar, nook, cranny, mistake, achievement, tear, etc makes up your unique composition.

Don’t waste this amazing human experience on a time & place you’re never going to revisit. Be present, move forward, let go of everything else…

Humble the Poet

[Crazy Hitch]

[unikitty]

I was exactly in that place not too long ago. So far, the future isn't turning out as bad as I feared it would. ((hugs))