Not only am I bipolar I am unloved. I just started to be up again and made dinner for my husband cleaned up the kitchen and such and asked him how his day was he said it sucked and basically that was it.. He never asks me how my day was he doesn't kiss me hug me tell me I'm pretty he doesn't do much around the house or even just complement me or tell me how he's missed me today.. I thought this was just the normal way a man treats a woman everyday but it's not. My brother in law is here now with his girlfriend and they are always holding hands kissing each other being nice to each other and even my friend and her husband are that way he kisses her after being away from her all day and he doesn't talk mean to her.. My husband just takes a pill and goes to bed no goodnight I love you kiss... No I missed you today how was your day it's like I don't exist I keep hoping and wishing praying he would notice me again or something or act like he loves me but he doesn't. He never wants to take pictures together it's weird its like were not even a couple it's like we're not even friends anymore when did it get like this ? Is it bc I'm bipolar is it bc we have a kid and he works and is stressed like I feel so worthless and unloved unappreciated he never says why don't you go out and get your nails done or anything all I do is stay at home. I just miss having my best friend having someone love me saying I love you kissing my foreword telling me I'm pretty wanting to sleep in the same bed as me I mean he is my husband.. I'm just sad I guess even though I'm not technically "alone" I feel all alone.. Oh well

[Crazy Hitch]

I know you are still struggling Sky101.

It's a difficult place you are in.

Have you posted under this forum:

Relationships & Communication - Forums at Psych Central

[wiretwister]

I sometimes treat my wife that way and I love her very much. Work stress and to be truthful just the sameness of every day I guess. I want to do better but it is hard . I am not making excuses for him just in my case it has nothing to do with my wife or. My love for her. I have no answers for you. But you are not alone

[charliesangel81]

sky I sometimes have similar feelings. I crave attention and acceptance, and acknowledgement from my husband. He works very hard, long days, and is the sole earner for our family and he has days when there really isn't much left for me. I think it as wiretwister said that it sometimes just doesn't have anything to do with me... I know that he loves me. I have to remind myself of just all he does to keep things in perspective when I start feeling like I need more and that he does those things because he loves me and our family.

[electricbipolargirl]

Originally Posted by Sky101

Not only am I bipolar I am unloved. I just started to be up again and made dinner for my husband cleaned up the kitchen and such and asked him how his day was he said it sucked and basically that was it.. He never asks me how my day was he doesn't kiss me hug me tell me I'm pretty he doesn't do much around the house or even just complement me or tell me how he's missed me today.. I thought this was just the normal way a man treats a woman everyday but it's not. My brother in law is here now with his girlfriend and they are always holding hands kissing each other being nice to each other and even my friend and her husband are that way he kisses her after being away from her all day and he doesn't talk mean to her.. My husband just takes a pill and goes to bed no goodnight I love you kiss... No I missed you today how was your day it's like I don't exist I keep hoping and wishing praying he would notice me again or something or act like he loves me but he doesn't. He never wants to take pictures together it's weird its like were not even a couple it's like we're not even friends anymore when did it get like this ? Is it bc I'm bipolar is it bc we have a kid and he works and is stressed like I feel so worthless and unloved unappreciated he never says why don't you go out and get your nails done or anything all I do is stay at home. I just miss having my best friend having someone love me saying I love you kissing my foreword telling me I'm pretty wanting to sleep in the same bed as me I mean he is my husband.. I'm just sad I guess even though I'm not technically "alone" I feel all alone.. Oh well

You are not alone. That was exactly what was going on with me and my husband for the better part of a year. We are separated now. I would have fought for our relationship, but I'm not going to chase after someone who doesn't want to be with me anymore. The funny thing was, that year was the time I've been the most stable. It was kind of like when I wasn't making messes and drama in our lives, he didn't know how to relate to me. I guess he's kind of a rescuer. Well, I didn't need rescuing anymore. And I don't think he knew how to handle it. And I must admit, our lives definitely were more boring after I got medicated and got myself together. But I thought that was a good thing, as I was not going on spending sprees, flirting with other men, drinking like a fish, running around starting different projects I never finished, etc. For once in my life, I felt like a normal person. And he didn't seem to like that.

My heart goes out to you. I felt so alone during the year that we lived as roommates, not as partners. It really hurt. And the separation has been hard. But I refuse to give up hope that the right guy really does exist, and I pray he finds me. Wishing you all the best and please take care of yourself. Keep us updated.