[Sakura13]

Okay, so, to make a long story short.... My mom has always tried to force medication on me even when my psychiatrist agreed that there would be a day I didn't need it. That day came last year, right before I made the sudden decision to come back to college and all of that stress began flooding in but honestly, I was doing really well. I had a few times I broke down, and I did have bouts of depressive episodes more often than usual but it's important to keep in mind that I had just drastically changed my entire way of life. College, living on my own, working to support myself, etc. I didn't just step out of my comfort zone, I BOUNDED from it.

Now, two and a half months ago I had to abruptly go off of Birth Control because I was getting migraines with aura. I had been on estrogen birth control since I was 13 and I'm now in my twenties. Ever since then, I've been a sobbing mess over the littlest things and my anger has been really bad.

Mom once again told me I need to be on medication, and she told me that today while she was here but also made me feel guilty by saying "I can't handle seeing you struggle on a daily basis like this" but she doesn't seem to understand the situation. I was supposed to be in therapy and that was going to be my treatment but they never let me do it because I don't have my own car. I tried counseling here at school but that didn't work.

I'm about 100% convinced that my mood swings now are because my hormones are all jacked up from the lack of BC. I now have a new one I'll be starting tomorrow that should get everything level again, but I don't know how to get my mom off of my back to know that I'll be okay without my medication. I've done so much better off of it and I KNOW I wouldn't have been able to do well this year had I been on it because it just clouds my mind way too much.

I promised her I'd talk to my psychiatrist about it, to get a professional opinion, but even when he says (like before) I am okay off of it, she still insists I need it because she disagrees with the Doctor I've been seeing since I was about five years old.

Any suggestions? :/ I'm really frustrated. I know she means well but this just adds stress and guilt because I end up second guessing myself.

[wiretwister]

I do not know in your case but in mine I value outside opinions. I don't always follow them but I listen... For me I have accepted my pdoc has my best interest at heart and for the first time I am being med compliant. if I was given the choice between my mother's assessment and my pdoc's I would chose the pdoc... that is just my opinion though..I have no idea what is right for you ....

ps.. I had to leave home and cut ties due to my mother's perfectionist and controlling nature...so I may be a little biased ....

[Sakura13]

Mom thinks medication is a cure-all even though she insists it isn't. She doesn't understand how things work sometimes and it's rather unfortunate. ): But I told her I'd talk to my pdoc and if he says I need it then I'd listen to his opinion because he's the medical professional.

Thanks for the input!!!

[Crazy Hitch]

Sometimes people mean well but it can be frustrating for us, personally, when their good intent does more harm.

We're sometimes our best advocate when it comes to what works for us. The fact that your pdoc has put it out there that you could possibly try the med free route makes your mother's reaction a bit confusing to me

Since you had significant problems/symptoms that started concurrently with stopping the BC (and suddenly, at that), that would be something to look into. Hormonal stuff can really wreak havoc. And it sure wouldn't help anything in trying to stay balanced BP-wise(!) As you say you are starting a new BC tomorrow, that may help in figuring out what's what. I have no idea what kind of timeframe your body's adjusting to the BC would be, but definitely ask them.

It may help in easing the mother situation if another possible factor in your struggles can soon be determined. Maybe it can hold her off a bit. "Step one, let's find out how much of this is hormone-related, then take it from there." It's very logical and sensible order of operations, plus you're not directly disagreeing (at least for now ), you know?

Good luck and keep us posted.

[Crazy Hitch]

I second what Innerzone and tiggs say. Hopefully this may be of some use to you

[Sakura13]

Thanks guys. (: I've got an appointment with the pdoc tomorrow anyways so I can discuss some things with him. I'm pretty happy to know mom has backed off a little bit too.

[Crazy Hitch]

Glad you got that appointment tomorrow.

Hopefully you get some strategies that you can use effectively to manage this rather complex situation that your mother is creating.

[Sakura13]

Thank you. (: We shall see what he says and hopefully he has some good answers.

[Crazy Hitch]

Awesome - I usually find brainstorming with my pdoc helps

[Sakura13]

My pdoc 100% agrees with me. I was asking about if I should actually try something, because I started second guessing myself but he said my line of thinking is more than likely what's going on. So mom has backed down because my psychiatrist has the final word. Thanks for all the support!