http://psychcentral.com/news/2015/06...n=related_test

I know that at times I can sort of embrace my depression in a negative way. Anyone else?

[Ripose]

I know this all too well. I seem to have the idea that I don't deserve to feel good and to be happy so I subconsciously sabotage myself constantly. It serves to maintain my status-quot I guess.
After a lifetime of being told I am worthless and stupid and other such things I guess I really believe it now.
It sucks to be me!

I know what you mean. ^ Also years of being invalidated for actually having depression. Not being believed that sometimes you can not snap out of it.

[wiretwister]

please read this it may blow your mind ....Depression: Allergic Reaction? Infectious Disease?

[CopperStar]

Normally crying and such is cathartic. If you're on the edge of a meltdown, it's good to get some privacy if needed and then let yourself go ahead and have that meltdown. People without a mood disorder do that sort of thing all the time. Why would someone with depression act differently than seeking out that cathartic release of sorrow and everything else they have pent up? Problem with depression, though, is that a good, cathartic cry to a sad song usually won't clear up a mood episode. But it's not at all weird for anyone who is sad - depressed or not - to seek out a cathartic relief.

[festidump]

That article made so much sense! I know I hide sometimes in depression and don't let happy things in as they just don't fit even though I know they would be good for me. Crazy lady stuff but at least I'm not the only one who does that so don't feel as bad now. Just wish the rest of the worl would understand it!!!

[Capriciousness]

this was my take on it.....

Depressed People Get off on Depression
https://bipolarfirst.wordpress.com/2...on-depression/

i didn't realize pc published this research too

[Capriciousness]

Hey Valentina

I bumped up the thread that was on this before. There was kind of a different response. Interesting.

[Edgar's Mom]

Absolutely brilliant article. I found it insightful, witty and straight to the point.

Lisa

I understand your point of view. Sorry I missed your earlier post. I am not saying that all of us revel in our depression. I am saying sometimes I don't do the things I need to do to feel better. Self-care wise.

I hope you understand what I am saying. I am not accusing anyone of anything or suggesting we don't try hard enough.

I am very hard on myself I know that.I have to take care of myself and kids. I am the head of household. I do not have help from relatives. My ex hub helps. I am just posting the article for opinions.

I just posted the article for discussion.