[wiretwister]

My t said one day she thought I was a product of emotional neglect in my childhood, ... just curious if anyone else had been told this or ever felt this way, ... I really believe my mother had a MI ... and this may have been a cause ... I remember no emotional connection to anyone or anything as a child ... and really never felt loved till I married ... That is probably why we have stayed together so long ... this may have nothing to do with bp but you guys are like family and I just wanted to ask ... any comments at all will be appreciated ... you can also pm if you like ...

This is a hard question for me to answer. Yes, I was emotionally neglected as a child. My parents both had their own issues, and it resulted in a sort of "distance" emotionally. I had physical neglect also, but the emotional was more pronounced.

I love my parents dearly. Our relationship developed better as I got older. But there is still a "distance" with me and my dad.

I don't know if this has anything to do with my BP though. I believe my parents have Mental Health Issues of their own. So, it's a matter of genetics, environment, or both.

[CANDC]

I am so glad someone else shares the feeling of being with family here on PC. I have felt that much of my low esteem was due to the emotional withdrawal of family members at critical times. Finding a lasting love has been a challenge, so I understand what you are saying.

Now I find out something new tonight. Tigger loves me! That is just what the doctor ordered.

Originally Posted by wiretwister

My t said one day she thought I was a product of emotional neglect in my childhood, ... just curious if anyone else had been told this or ever felt this way, ... I really believe my mother had a MI ... and this may have been a cause ... I remember no emotional connection to anyone or anything as a child ... and really never felt loved till I married ... That is probably why we have stayed together so long ... this may have nothing to do with bp but you guys are like family and I just wanted to ask ... any comments at all will be appreciated ... you can also pm if you like ...

Absolutely. There are some great reports around lately that are linking childhood neglect and guilt to mood disorders in adults.

I still struggle with the term "neglect" in my case but I certainly had a hell of a lot of childhood guilt.

[Nammu]

Probably but that's how my parents were raised. I sometimes feel deficient in that department. I've never gotten that transference with a T makes me wonder what wrong with me.

[Crazy Hitch]

Yeah wire for some period of time in my life I was emotionally neglected as a child.

I still have issues with so called "attachment" to people.

I noticably lead a somewhat emotionally-independent-of-anyone lifestyle.

It's my choice though.

Rather that than attach and people leave.