Going out alone

Do any of you go out alone? I don't mean meetups but genuinely going to a bar by yourself and socialize? How do you do it? I feel great shame if I'm out at a bar by myself and only tried it once. Actually did a few at the airport years back but that didn't feel weird. I just want to enjoy life but I feel now it's harder on my own when all my friends are distances or now have kids and other responsibilities. Can anyone relate?

I can completely relate. It's the story of my life. I feel awkward going out alone, so unfortunately I don't even bother. But a part of me is tired of being home so much. It's a catch 22..

I never go out to alcohol-based places like bars and pubs by myself, because as a woman it's just way too awkward for me. It makes me feel like the men in the joint will think I am there just to hook up with one of them, or something.

I do however feel comfortable going to places like coffee shops once in a blue moon. In those places it's very common for people of all sorts to be sitting alone and drinking coffee while reading, texting or doing stuff on laptops. Some even have their earbuds in.

I find it to be a rare thing to find places where it's a good middle ground.. Where you can go by yourself, and the idea is to talk to people, but there's no pressure and no one will 'bother' you, but you won't be 'bothering' anyone else if you say something. This sort of thing seems to only go over well at events.

I had that problem for years. I could sit at the bar by myself but honestly back then it was so I didn't drink alone and I wouldn't talk to other people anyways. Now I do go alone and not so much to drink but to watch a yankees games or get dinner. In the beginning it was really hard. I just felt like a loser for eating alone but I kept doing it and found that I would start conversation with people from time to time some went well and some were utter train wrecks. I expressed a common liberal political view one time and this guy called me mentally ill, but I do live in Montana (conservative state) and technically he was not wrong I am bipolar, but I digress. I have a place, it is a bar, that I go to and all the employees know me which for me helps a lot because even if I don't start a conversation at least one person will call me by my name and say hi or ask how's it going. It is hard like you are not worth anything because you are alone, but eventually I started to notice that I was not the only person in the bar eating or drinking alone and honestly when I started to notice how common it was it was a huge refielf

Fellow Yankees fan in Montana?!??

I have noticed in some bars that the usuals are ones that are their by themselves.

At the moment I've got a multitude of MI factors that have crashed into one giant mess.

So I only go out to medical appointments or out if it's somewhere with my family.

Otherwise I tend not to.

Yup, living in Bozeman. It is easier to be a Yankees fan in Montana then it was in New Hampshire with "Red Sox Nation" and all

I LOVE GOING OUT BY MYSELF! Carry a taser or some weapon to protect yourself. When my friends can't go out, I do it by myself with pride. I fix myself up to some upbeat music and feeling very sexy that no one can tell me nothing!

No, really. Going out by yourself has a lot of pros. You leave when you get ready, you absorb the environment, you get to mingle with others, make connections to further pursue your goals, etc. It helps to be an extrovert or ambivert. If you're an introvert, you're probably going to freak out because you are out of your comfort zone. So, stay home if that is you.

I don't go out by myself... Sounds kind of lame. I'm married with 3 kids... I may go get a beer once a year by myself but there is 0 incentive to talk to anyone. I met my wife during a manic phase.. Plus I'm not an ugly person and that tends to help in the ease of access to a relationship. Just saying

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I never get to be alone. I'm always with me, myself, and I. They constantly argue and it's getting on my nerves. If they could all get on the same page for once, it would life much easier for me.

I go out alone a lot actually. Some oft craziest nights have been field by alcohol and mania and it was all on my own.

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If I went out by myself it would be the first of many opportunities to do so, because my wife would divorce me.

I haven't been out alone for a long time in the past 5 years probably less than 3 times.

I never go out alone, I can't even get myself to do grocery shopping and such alone.

If i'm alone I need to have distractions, music through earbuds, my ereader or paperbacks.

If I expose myself to glances of others or chatter I get paranoid and my anxiety gets bad. Or I get ticked off.

That wouldn't work in a bar....

I know what you mean.

I just want to get out there and enjoy life. I feel awkward by myself.

I really enjoy going out alone. I'll grab a cup of coffee, or a beer, or a meal by myself. More often during 'down' times than 'up' times.

I go through periods where being around people is difficult, so it's unlikely that I'll go out with friends to a diner or bar. But I don't want to forgo the occasional meal out or post-work beer. Some time to collect thoughts, really appreciate food or drinks without the distraction of socializing, etc. Plus soak up a bit of the experience from the people and textures around me.

Occasionally I'll actually enjoy conversations with strangers when I would be too awkward to talk to friends. There's less pressure in talking to somebody that I'll never see again.