[Incubus]

Hey all,

I was having a swing and my wife thought I was full of it. She thinks its weird that I can tell when I am having a swings. I know when I am not feeling right and I know its a swing. I just need to relax and let it pass. Does anyone else know when they are having one

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[Edgar's Mom]

I'm not sure what you mean by having a swing... Do you mean that you had a mood swing?

[Incubus]

Mood swing.

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[Ripose]

I definitely know. Every time it happens, it's difficult to stay calm and not go off on my wife, but I manage,,somehow.

[Trippin2.0]

Tell your wife its not weird, its called self-awareness.

[Incubus]

I do tell her that. Still thinks a load. I just wait til it passes. It's like my panic attacks. Just got to wait

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[Nix]

No! I cannot evaluate my own moods/symptoms very well and it's extremely frustrating. You're lucky that you can at least know what is going on with you and therefore take appropriate action.

[Crazy Hitch]

Yeah I'm pretty much aware within me when I'm swinging, unfortunately, and it doesn't feel very nice as I'm currently going through one at the moment.

[CopperStar]

Are you excusing any behaviors when you are having a mood swing? That sort of thing can make people frustrated and can lead to them thinking it is a made-up excuse.

[Incubus]

I just get really down and upset. I also get really quiet. Get a bit moody but nothing major

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[Trippin2.0]

Originally Posted by Incubus

I do tell her that. Still thinks a load. I just wait til it passes. It's like my panic attacks. Just got to wait

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So if I am comprehending your reply accurately, your wife thinks its impossible for a person with BP to have any self-awareness...(?)


Now that IS a load.


I don't understand her logic behind this at all.


Only logical explanation is that she doesn't sound too well versed in the BP arena. Mrs Incubus may be getting her BP101 from unreliable sources (like movies) if she believes self-awareness is a luxury the MI population can't afford.

[Incubus]

Thinks I also bring them on myself. We know its load. We can't control what happen. She also thinks that with meds that I am not suppose to have mood swings. Sometimes it does happen

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[Trippin2.0]

Me thinks Mrs incubus should accompany you the Pdocs office for some schooling.


Settle this misunderstanding once and for all.

[Monianna]

The mood swings are a real problem. I am bipolar II suffering from hypomanic right now. My husband hasn't really seen me this bad before and it is causing alot of problems. He doesn't understand that this is a actual disease and it takes alot of time, patience, and medication to just get stable. I am trying to help him but I must get help first.

[Incubus]

I don't have all the time. Only when she starts to put me down. Then thats I think about until my mind says let it go. As little as 20mins to who how long. She doesn't seem to understand. I know she went to a support group meeting put on by NAMI. She hid from me but I found the info she got.

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[FireKitty]

I can tell when I have swings. I knew about my mood swings before I was diagnosed, just didn't realize there was now a step down from what my mom had (my swings have never been as bad as hers). I'm a rapid-cycler, so I could feel many swings in a day. It was really weird and I would be exhausted as if I had ridden roller coasters all day.

My hubby is very in tune with my moods and is also able to tell when I am swinging. I'm pretty even with the meds and only slight mood swings and not as cycling as before meds. I also do not have the anxiety spikes that I had prior to being medicated as well.

Not sure if you are in therapy or not, but maybe the therapist can have a "family" session with you and your wife? It might help.

[Incubus]

I was therapy and ins dropped her need a find a new one. We tried family and didn't cause it made the wife mad cause she dragged into what suppose to be for me

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[Trippin2.0]

Originally Posted by Incubus

I was therapy and ins dropped her need a find a new one. We tried family and didn't cause it made the wife mad cause she dragged into what suppose to be for me

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So either your wife gets mad when someone points fingers at her to show her how she may be causing or adding to a problem?

Or she doesn't want to attend joint therapy because she doesn't want to be dragged into "your" stuff?

Either way that's not good...

Not good at all

[Incubus]

My therapist said the samething and the therapist also that doesn't know how I do. I also have panic attacks that doesn't help either. Cause when we have a disagreement or fight or she is just plan mad at me for no reason

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[Trippin2.0]

Hugs (((((((Incubus)))))))))


I can't imagine how hurtful it must be to experience being dismissed in your time of need, by the very person who is supposed to be holding your hand.


I hope coming here and posting about your struggles offer some level of comfort, even though its not the same as the type a life partner would and should provide...

[Incubus]

Tripping coming here does help a lot. I need all the hugs I can get. I don't not get much of those here. I walk up to her to give a hug and kiss she says I don't like you blocking me or standing in front of me. It's like she only care about herself

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