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Old Jul 28, 2015, 02:33 PM
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Hey everyone,

This is a very long post. Part of it is venting, part is recording my recent memories of this event so that I have a record in case I forget the details later, and part is asking for confirmations and even advice (if that is acceptable, if it isn't then scratch the part about the advice).

I posted on here a while ago and had a warm welcome even though I haven't been diagnosed with anything except my family doctor thinking I could have anxiety (I don't know if she diagnosed it or not), and ADHD (only due to my quiz answers and there being the possibility of me having it as a kid). This past week has been difficult for me. I will use the trigger icon for the details of my experience because it is a very vivid recollection and could be potentially nerve-racking to read.

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It is funny that after the episode, I didn't feel any pain anymore. It was a bittersweet 20 minutes or so and I felt relieved and kind of happy. Then the pain that I usually feel day to day returned, and I was a bit bummed, lol. After a while, the people that triggered my episode returned. My attitude toward them wasn't mean or spiteful. I tried to be as positive as I could, and as kind as possible so that no more problems would arise. I remember that I offered to make one of them something that I knew they liked, and I remember smiling yet having tears at the same time. I was completely mellow at that time. The person refused the offer, and I regretted doing that the next day, because I realized that they didn't deserve it since they never even apologized, and instead, the next day, they mocked me about the situation. I didn't even try to intervene anymore other than just telling the person that that isn't a nice thing to say or nice way to act. I explained the situation to an elder in my family, and asked for their help if they think there is anything that they could do because I came to the conclusion that I was powerless in the situation (mainly due to one of the people that triggered my emotions being younger than 18, and I didn't want to say anything that would damage them psychologically because I really care about them and want them to be healthy, happy, and a kind person).

So, that is the story of the worst breakdown that I have ever had which occurred within the past week. I have a therapy session scheduled this week and plan on telling this story to my therapist. It is my third or fourth session. I was wanting to move slower with getting into the details of my crying episodes since they haven't happened for almost 6 months, but after what happened last week, I feel like I should bring it up this next session. I don't want it to happen again. I am no longer in that powerless situation because I am avoiding the people that triggered my breakdown, but I don't want to be affected so much by those situations. I want to be strong enough to be able to manage tough situations like that and not break down.

My first question to people here, is if the episode/breakdown that I described above is similar to anything that anyone with bipolar, or another mood disorder experienced themselves or if anyone has witnessed a similar situation with a person acting the same way that I did. I also would be interested in hearing thoughts on if how I acted is a warning sign for any other disorders, and if I should do anything proactively to help prevent future problems from occurring. Again, I am seeing my therapist this week, but I only have 45 minutes to communicate things and get advice. I want to use my time wisely to bring up the most important things, but I don't want to focus too much on something and give my therapist the wrong idea or incomplete information. I am terrible at staying on track when recollecting memories, and I want to say the important stuff first just in case I get side-tracked in our session.

My second question regards coping techniques for negative emotions. Over the past year and a half (that is how long I have been having emotional problems), the only thing that I can do to help control my emotions when I notice that they are getting high and my irritability increases (I am on the verge of tears, or already in tears), other than going for an intense run (which I can no longer do because of other problems), is to start singing out loud to myself when nobody is around. I think the reason that it works so well is that in order to sing clearly and well, you have to relax and breathe well. I'm not the best singer, but I took a voice class once in college, so I know the basics. If I notice my mood/emotions changing negatively, but not over the top, I just focus on my breathing and meditate for a little bit until my body feels relaxed. The breathing/meditation takes anywhere between just 1 minute to an hour to get my mind/body back to normal depending on the level of pain I am dealing with at the time.

Thank you to anyone that has read all of this. I know it is a lot. I hope to stay strong through this problem and face it head on. This post has helped me vent a little bit too. I have such contradicting feelings. It's confusing. The strongest is to be kind and compassionate to others, though, so I think I will be okay.
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Old Jul 28, 2015, 06:55 PM
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1. I have never experienced anything like that due to bipolar. My crying spells are quiet when I'm depressed. When I'm manic and crying, generally someone is getting screamed at pretty violently. I did have similar experiences with PTSD because I was so skittish. I don't think that 1 (non-psychotic) breakdown can be enough to diagnose a lifelong disorder.

I'm reading between the lines that your friends/family/roommates thought the situation was abnormal, either that you needed help or were attention-seeking. If you would normally trust their judgment, that might indicate that your reaction to the "trigger" was unwarranted and you might want to focus on that with your therapist next session. If you're worried about time, just cut out a lot of the details and prepare a few key points. For me it's like a formula: x resulted in y and the whole thing made me feel z.

2. Google "coping skills" to get huge lists of ideas. You would probably benefit from mindfulness techniques like progressive muscle relaxation. Most of the rest are distraction-type skills, like walk your dog, write a poem, watch a movie, go for a run, etc. Personally, what coping skills I use depends on what type of episode I'm starting or having.
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Old Jul 28, 2015, 09:42 PM
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1. I have never experienced anything like that due to bipolar. My crying spells are quiet when I'm depressed. When I'm manic and crying, generally someone is getting screamed at pretty violently. I did have similar experiences with PTSD because I was so skittish. I don't think that 1 (non-psychotic) breakdown can be enough to diagnose a lifelong disorder.

I'm reading between the lines that your friends/family/roommates thought the situation was abnormal, either that you needed help or were attention-seeking. If you would normally trust their judgment, that might indicate that your reaction to the "trigger" was unwarranted and you might want to focus on that with your therapist next session. If you're worried about time, just cut out a lot of the details and prepare a few key points. For me it's like a formula: x resulted in y and the whole thing made me feel z.

2. Google "coping skills" to get huge lists of ideas. You would probably benefit from mindfulness techniques like progressive muscle relaxation. Most of the rest are distraction-type skills, like walk your dog, write a poem, watch a movie, go for a run, etc. Personally, what coping skills I use depends on what type of episode I'm starting or having.
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Old Jul 28, 2015, 09:46 PM
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Also, I should mention that when it does happen, it is like clockwork. It happens one or two days before my period. So, once a month. When I was living with my bf, I was able to get through the tough days without an outburst. Now, I seem to be getting them again.
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Old Jul 29, 2015, 08:45 AM
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well it sounds like panic attack to me, with the hyperventilating... but im no doctor so i would definitely talk to your therapist about these things
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Old Jul 29, 2015, 02:21 PM
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I find it helps to write it out and list key points I need to bring up when I go to my pdoc.

Keeping a diary or journal also can help make things clearer, even if it is kept private.
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Old Jul 29, 2015, 06:41 PM
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You are obviously having a very strong reaction to some specific triggers and it might be good to bring that up with your therapist when you see her/him. It looks as though you have a very difficult time with being lectured or berated, and that the feelings those situations bring up are a huge trigger for you.

It also sounds like you don't feel safe during these episodes. It might be worthwhile to work out a coping strategy with your therapist for when they happen. You need to figure out how to get yourself to feel safe --whether that's going into a room alone, leaving when you are able etc. You may need to set some boundaries with some of these people so you can protect yourself. These things will all take time in therapy and will also take some hard work.

I would print off what you wrote and give that to your therapist. S/he can read it in a few minutes and that can help save time in your session.

Good luck!

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