[loophole]

Feeling rather discouraged right now. I disagreed with her paying a baby sitter to watch one of our kids so she can take the other 2 to some dance thing.. Keep in mind she is a stay at home mom. I never raised my voice just simply disagreed and stood by it. She proceeded to tell me the only reason I think that way is because I'm nuts. Then a little later made fun of me because I'm bipolar and that's why I have no friends..

This is something I had to get off my chest as its really stuck with me.... My own wife does this.. Comments appreciated. Tx

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[Sesiley]

That's her way of getting back at you...she was toying with your emotions to get a reaction. Don't give her one. Stay strong.

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[Sesiley]

And it was very disrespectful of her. Set up a boundary. Say...if you don't stop disrespecting my illness, then I'm going to....

Tell her how you feel. Start out with....I feel,...

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[LettinG0]

I'm so sorry you face this discouraging scenario in your home and with someone you love.

Hi!

If you were needing your own time instead of watching the one child - a babysitter is a great idea.

How long have you all been married and when did bipolar disorder surface for you? I met my ex-husband in 1991. We married in 1994.

We had our daughter in 2000 and hormonal changes resulted in my bipolar disorder 1 as a result (love my girl, she's awesome btw).

I was misdiagnosed in 2004 and went psychotic manic and referred to an awesome pdoc in 2006. I have seen him monthly since. My ex couldn't be bothered to join my pdoc sessions.

I was very active for years in a local bipolar support group that met weekly. My ex went once and said that I get enough of that for you at home. I continued going to weekly meetings and became a facilitator. He didn't go back. Which was ok.

I'm rambling. I understand. Three kids? omg handful

My girl is quirky and lovely. 15 yrs old. Reminds me just of me lol

My 18-year marriage died but damn I gave it a hard try and my ex did too. PM me if you want. Seeing stuff in hindsight wow

Be well.

[~Christina]

You know... She seems like she is always going to hang Bipolar over your head and issue threats. Do you really want to live like this? obviously Marriage counsuling isn't helping to put a balance back in your marriage.

She's being abusive, plain and simple ...

If one of your kids was grown and had a partner treating them this way.. what would you advise them to do?

[loophole]

Originally Posted by rainyday107

Hi!

If you were needing your own time instead of watching the one child - a babysitter is a great idea.

How long have you all been married and when did bipolar disorder surface for you? I met my ex-husband in 1991. We married in 1994.

We had our daughter in 2000 and hormonal changes resulted in my bipolar disorder 1 as a result (love my girl, she's awesome btw).

I was misdiagnosed in 2004 and went psychotic manic and referred to an awesome pdoc in 2006. I have seen him monthly since. My ex couldn't be bothered to join my pdoc sessions.

I was very active for years in a local bipolar support group that met weekly. My ex went once and said that I get enough of that for you at home. I continued going to weekly meetings and became a facilitator. He didn't go back. Which was ok.

I'm rambling. I understand. Three kids? omg handful

My girl is quirky and lovely. 15 yrs old. Reminds me just of me lol

My 18-year marriage died but damn I gave it a hard try and my ex did too. PM me if you want. Seeing stuff in hindsight wow

Be well.

I work. Not that I'm really needing my own time... She also been stalking me apparently on bipolar forums because she said she reads in here and everyone agrees with her

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[loophole]

Originally Posted by ~Christina

You know... She seems like she is always going to hang Bipolar over your head and issue threats. Do you really want to live like this? obviously Marriage counsuling isn't helping to put a balance back in your marriage.


She's being abusive, plain and simple ...


If one of your kids was grown and had a partner treating them this way.. what would you advise them to do?

GTFO is what I'd tell them. She's got me in a bind and she knows it so she can do what she wants and not give a crap about me.

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[lovejoy91]

That's sad. How can the love of your life continues to hurt you? Have you thought about confronting her? That **** don't fly with me (being teased about sensitive things). I put my foot down.

[loophole]

Originally Posted by lovejoy91

That's sad. How can the love of your life continues to hurt you? Have you thought about confronting her? That **** don't fly with me (being teased about sensitive things). I put my foot down.

Trust me I've confronted her. She just gets even worse

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[raspberrytorte]

She sounds so mean!

[violet66]

Originally Posted by loophole

Trust me I've confronted her. She just gets even worse

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I'm so sorry she is treating you like this. My ex used to do the same thing to me. Everything was my fault because of my illness. I had to leave. At the end, I honestly started to hate him.

[Felldownarabbithole]

My husband was recently diagnosed, (but if we are being honest with ourselves he's had it since we started dating) and I could never imagine talking to him that way.

On the other hand, it sounds like she may have something on her mind as well? The best solution is for you guys to sit and communicate to eachother without distractions. I had a Dr. tell me the truest thing ever, "sometimes mentall illness is almost like a communicable disease" you fight together. You both need to support eachother, so talk it out.

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[cashart10]

I'm so sorry for you. It hurts. My husband does the same under the disguise of sarcasm. We are in love and have a good relationship but he just doesn't understand when the line of meanness is crossed.

[BrandonAK]

Yeah, this hits home for me as well. My ex wife did this often. She always blamed my mood for things and used to tell me to "go take your pills.". I wish people understood that we can have emotions outside of our disorder.

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[loophole]

Originally Posted by BrandonAK

Yeah, this hits home for me as well. My ex wife did this often. She always blamed my mood for things and used to tell me to "go take your pills.". I wish people understood that we can have emotions outside of our disorder.

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Yeah it's not a fun way to live. I've always thought making fun of someone for an mi is about as low as a person could go. I've always always hated the word retarted and such... Bashing a mi is inexcusable in my opinion.. And I'm about the most sarcastic person you could meet but I never EVER go there

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[Trippin2.0]

I honestly don't mean to be rude, but your wife sounds awful. Just completely awful!


I've never had a wife, (plus I'm straight), but I'm pretty sure they're supposed to treat you MUCH better than that.


You should print put your wedding vows, stick them on her mirror, and demand she read them out loud to you each morning.


You deserve better LH, so so sooo much better.


If leaving is really not a viable option, I would suggest she accidentally fell down the stairs JUST so you can laugh at her broken hip.


Sorry, that time I did mean to be mean. She kinda deserves it.