[C2015]

My family always shoots down any idea or suggestion I have down. I honestly feel like it's because I am bipolar. I feel like my parents don't like my suggestions/opinions like they do my siblings. Does anyone else go through this?

For example it took me over a year to convince my mom to use unsalted butter for baking. I do consider myself a professional baker since I have sold my cookies in the past. I tried telling her salted butter makes cakes dry. Everyone including her loves my baking. She rarely eats sweet stuff but she will eat my sugar cookies. Normally she's not selfish but with my sugar cookies she's selfish. Why it took me over a year to convince her to use unsalted butter is beyond me. She even says my baking skills are superior to her's. I do think from now on at least with baking she will listen to me. To give an idea on how much I bake my Dad bought me a $200 Kitchen Aid mixer for no reason one month ago.

I have told my mom over & over if she gets a new iPhone in December to give me the money and let me order it for her. I told her my case for my iPhone is $20 it's much better than the Life proof case. My sister lets me use her Amazon Prime shipping. Which is why I offered to order the case for my mom. I know Life proof cases suck because my step mom had one and she dropped her phone and the screen had horrible cracks in it. She only dropped it once. I've accidentally dropped mine on the ground while in a truck. I have also dropped mine multiple times on a tile floor. I'm not sure if she will listen to my opinion on the cases.

[DysphoricManicMom]

How often are you suggesting things? How forward are you being about it? Is it possible you come off as a "know it all"? Is it about getting people to do what you say or is it about being respected? Not following through with your suggestions doesnt necessarily mean they dont value or respect your input. But if they're not even giving you the time of day to even hear you out then thats another thing.

[ManOfConstantSorrow]

Sometime there are people you just cannot help. Their loss. Just wait until it goes wrong for them and say," told you so, now if you had listened to me...".

[C2015]

Originally Posted by DysphoricManicMom

How often are you suggesting things? How forward are you being about it? Is it possible you come off as a "know it all"? Is it about getting people to do what you say or is it about being respected? Not following through with your suggestions doesnt necessarily mean they dont value or respect your input. But if they're not even giving you the time of day to even hear you out then thats another thing.

I just politely tell them opinion. I don't come off as a know it all. Sometimes my opinion is ignored like I didn't even say anything.

For instance my Dad had trouble getting a medicine filled. I gave my opinion on why I think he had a hard time getting it filled. He shot my opinion down.

My parents listen to my siblings but not me. My Dad listens to my younger brother. He is more than ten years younger than me.
Every time I offer to help I am turned down. My Dad asks my younger brother & my older sister for help but not me.

[C2015]

Originally Posted by ManOfConstantSorrow

Sometime there are people you just cannot help. Their loss. Just wait until it goes wrong for them and say," told you so, now if you had listened to me...".

I actually did that to my mom. I tried telling her not to make her breasts to big with surgery or your shirts won't fit. I have bigger breast than her I still do. Did she listen to me? Nope. Several times she's complained about it and I said I tried telling you but you wouldn't listen to me.

[DysphoricManicMom]

Yeah that's straight up dismissive and that hurts a lot. I get that most of the time from my mom, always have, but not with just suggestions, basically anything I have to say that doesnt pertain to her directly. Its always a vague nod like ok, then nothing else. I was telling her the other day that Im keeping an eye on my son to see if I need to have him evaluated for ADD, and she gave the empty nod, nothing to say at all and went back to her tv show. And it does seem Im getting less and less out of her since my diagnosis. Like you're crazy so anything u have to say is probably useless. At least thats how she makes me feel if its not true. I cant say that she has only been that way with me though.

[DysphoricManicMom]

Wanted to add that my sister is also bipolar and an alcoholic and been in and out of trouble since she was 14, so I guess theres no one to contrast myself to

[C2015]

Originally Posted by DysphoricManicMom

Yeah that's straight up dismissive and that hurts a lot. I get that most of the time from my mom, always have, but not with just suggestions, basically anything I have to say that doesnt pertain to her directly. Its always a vague nod like ok, then nothing else. I was telling her the other day that Im keeping an eye on my son to see if I need to have him evaluated for ADD, and she gave the empty nod, nothing to say at all and went back to her tv show. And it does seem Im getting less and less out of her since my diagnosis. Like you're crazy so anything u have to say is probably useless. At least thats how she makes me feel if its not true. I cant say that she has only been that way with me though.

It really can hurt when family acts like that. I recently said to my mom have you notice I never offer suggestions or my opinion to anyone? She said she has noticed it and asked why. I said no one listens to me and I'm not letting them reject me no more. I tried this week to say something to my mom and I don't think she really heard me. She was busy looking at something else.

i have that problem all round... only, its not because im bipolar...

ive learned to see that its not so much me... but that they dont know how to help themselves any other way...

as obnoxious and irritating as it can be... all u can really do is tell them what u think is right, and let them decide for themselves... but dont break ur head over it... and if it affects u in any physically negative way, find ur way to shield urself from their failure, and help them in the aftermath in whatever way u can...

basically, show them a side that they can trust and depend on...

love to u all... <3

[QuirkyGirl99]

No one in my family takes my opinion in serious matters very seriously, since I'm now coined "the crazy person" in my family. In fact, after my grandmother died just recently, she left us all a large sum of money. I was the only one whose money was specifically put in a "trust", because she thought I was too unstable to handle it. I know she was only looking out for my best interest and I love her for that, but I still felt like a loser because of this. At one point in my life, I probably would have been too careless to handle my finances, but it's been a long time since then.

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[C2015]

I know how you feel. My sister & niece inherit everything from my mom. They each get a house and I'm sure there 3 cars. All I get is a measly $100 a month. I know she is putting someone in charge of giving it to me each month. She claims it's because of social security she's doing that. What is boils down to is my sister is the golden child.

Some parents don't like taking advise from their subordinates....I mean kids. It's an ego trip I guess. My parents always told me to "shut up and mind your own business" lol. Grrrr

[unaluna]

I used to have to tell my brother to tell our mother to do something, like for her health; she wouldnt listen to me. Plus she assumed everything i did was stupid unless someone else told her it was okay. Whats bad is, i didnt realize she was unilaterally rejecting me; i kept looking for ways to convince her. But it was an impossible task; i was literally wasting my time. Stupid, stupid, stupid! I finally moved on; she finally died. Dont you all wait that long, please!! Dont let another person, even if its your mom, stop you from fulfilling your purpose in life. Or even just from having a happy life.

[Christopher1990]

as with parents, I think most are too stuck in their ways. they hardly ever listen to my suggestions. i usually end up resolving the problem myself by taking some action.

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